Isibonakaliso sokuqala sokungakhuselekanga kukungafuni ukufezekisa oko ufunayo kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukungaphumeleli. Abaninzi abaselula baye bazilungisa ngokusesikweni kwisiphumo esibi, besaba ukuxhatshazwa, besaba ukugculelwa kwiontanga zabo. Bathandekayo namantombazana, khumbula ukuba kukho ukungaphumeleli kukho konke, nakubantu behlabathi abadumileyo kunye neengcali zezesayensi, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, aba bantu abazange balahlekelwe ngokwabo kwaye baqhubeka bezama, ukuqonda into entsha, ukuphumelela impumelelo enkulu. Ngako oko, akuyikrele ukusilela, kunokuba uhlale ngaphandle kwaye ungenzi naluphi na umzamo. Abantu abaqaphele ekugqibeleni balahlekelwa ngokwabo ngokwabo, kwaye bonke ngenxa yokuba, ukuthobela ukwesaba kwabo, balahlekelwa ngamathuba amaninzi. Esinye isibonakaliso sokungaqiniseki ngumnqweno wokuxelisa abanye, kungekhona ukungafani nomntu, ucinga ukuba iingxabano zabanye zikholisa ngakumbi kunabo. Ngelishwa, ukulungelelaniswa okunjalo kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo emibi-ukusetyenziswa kotywala, iziyobisi, ukutshaya ugwayi, ukusebenza komgaqo "wonke umntu wenza oko", ngoko ukuzithemba kungabangela ingozi kwimpilo yobutsha.
Amakhwenkwe namantombazana amaninzi athatyathwa njengento engathandekiyo, ngoko-ke yenze i-embellish kunye ne-inventory things, eqinisweni, ayibalulekanga kakhulu-ukuxhamla kwabo kunye nabaziwayo, ubukho bezinto okanye izinto. Kwimpilo yabo bonke abaselula babekhoontanga babethetha ngabaninzi babo abathandayo, abasenjenjalo. Akuyimfuneko ukufunela naluphi na ubungqina obuvela kuba bantu, kuba bengabikho, kwaye amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe abhala la mabali ukuba aphakame emehlweni abo ontanga aze awakhangise. Nangona kunjalo, kwiimeko ezininzi, kamva, bona baxhamla kubuxoki babo kwaye balahlekelwa ukuhlonipha kwabo, kwaye ukulahlekelwa ukuzithemba kwabo kukubuhlungu ngakumbi kunokuba besaba ukungathandabuzeki kwinkampani yabo.
Abanye abantwana abaselula bavame ukugqoka, baziphathe ngendlela ebantwini, bahlaziye baze baxelise umntu, igama lifana nomnye umntu. Oku kuwuphawu lokungakhuselekanga, xa abantwana beselula bahlala beqhathanisa nabanye. Unganikeli kulo mnqweno, kuba uthetha ukuba umntwana usebaluleke ngakumbi kwabanye kunokuba yena ngokwakhe. Ixabiso laloo mfuziselo lichongiwe ngokuthelekiswa nenani lomnye umntu, kodwa kungcono ukuvavanya ngokwakho isiseko, ubuchule kunye neminqweno. Kufuneka ujabule ukuba bonke abantu bahluke ngendlela yabo, kwaye awukwazi ukufumana umntu onjengawe, kwaye xa uqala ukuqonda ukubaluleka kwakho, umnqweno wokumxelisa umntu uya kutshabalala ngokwawo. Kuphi ukungaqiniseki okuvela kuyo? Ngaba kunikwa ngokwenene ekuzalweni nasekugqibeleni ukuba akunakwenzeka! Ewe akunjalo, ukungazithembi kungavela kuwo wonke umntu, kungakhathaliseki ukuba ngumlingani kunye neempawu zakhe. Ngokomzekelo, iimeko ezinzima ezifana nokuqhawuka komzali, ukufa komntu othandekayo, ukuhlambalaza, ukugula okanye nayiphina imeko ephezulu. Kwakhona, ukungabi nokuzithemba kunokungabikho kwenkokheli okanye umcebisi. Ukukhululeka kokungaqiniseki kuyimfuneko kwithuba lokuqala! Khumbula ukuba nokuba u-Albert Einstein owaziwayo akaphumelelanga ukuphumelela iimviwo kunye ne-bang.
Ngoko, ngezansi iingcebiso kubafana kunye namantombazana abafuna ukunqoba ukungathandabuzeki, landela ngokulula:
- Fumana ngokwakho izici ezintle. Ziziphi iimpawu zakho? Yintoni oyenzayo? Cinga ngempumelelo yakho.
- Ungaziqhathanisi nabanye, zibeke zakho imilinganiselo.
- Musa ukwenza izibango ezingaphezu kwezinto zomntu, khumbula ukuba akukho bantu abalungileyo. Kungcono ukuphumla kwaye uzame ukwamukela njengoko unjalo.
- Fumana ihobby. Yiba nenxaxheba kwizinto eziza kukukholisa kunye nokuzikhukhumeza.
- Kholelwa kuwe kunye nobuchule bakho, qho ngokuzikhuthaza ngegama elithi "Ndiyakwazi," "Ndiyakwenza," "ndiya kuphumelela," ngee binzana awuyikuzithemba ngokwakho kuphela, kodwa kwakhona kuphucula kakhulu imvakalelo yakho.
- Unganqikazi ukuthabatha. Nangona kungakhathaliseki, ungamkeli ngokunyanisekileyo umkhwa obalulekileyo.
- Zive ukhululekile ukuthetha nabantu.
- Inkalipho nokunyamezela kuya kunceda ukuphumelela.
- Funda ukuzimela ngokwakho kunye nembono yakho.
- Khangela iimpawu ezintle kwabanye. Nika abanye ukuncoma okunyanisekileyo.
- Zama ukuba nabantu abanomdla kwimeko yakho. Abahlobo bethu nabaziwayo banempembelelo enkulu kithi. Khetha abahlobo abaziyo ukunandipha ubomi.
- Cinga ngekamva lakho elihle kuphela. Khawucinge nje ubomi bakho besikhathi esizayo kuphela kumgangatho omhle, cinga ngokuqinisekileyo.
- Qinisekisa kwizenzo nangezenzo.
- Musa ukubeka ingqwalasela enkulu ekuphumeleleni, kodwa rhoqo udumise into ethile oye wanyamezela ngayo.
- Gwema ukuzonda nokuzigxeka. Akuzange nanini ikwazi ukuba netyala kunye nokuzithobela igalelo kwanegalelo ekuphumeleleni kweziphumo eziphezulu.
- Yazi indlela oqala ngayo ishishini, impumelelo kuyo iya kukuphakamisa ngaphezu kweminye.
- Smile kaninzi! Smile niyona ndlela efanelekileyo yokuxelela umhlaba malunga nendawo yakho epheleleyo!
Ngokukhawuleza, umvuzo uya kuba nokuzithemba, ukuzithemba, ukuzingca kunye nezinye iimpawu eziza kuba ngabahlobo bakho abathembekileyo emva kokuba uthi "ukuhlaziya" ukungaqiniseki kwakho. Ukuze uphumelele, ukuqala, kufuneka ufune kwaye ubone kumathuba amancinci amathuba amakhulu. Konke kuxhomekeke kuwe kunye nomoya wakho ubomi obonwabileyo. Kuzo zonke ziya kuvela!