Utata, Mama, ndingumhlobo osondeleyo

"Ngubani na oyinkosi endlwini?" Umbuzo awuyikho indlela yokuphendula. Akuxhomekekanga kuphela emoyeni apho umntwana ehlala khona, kodwa nangendlela eya kukhula ngayo. Ukubeka ubudlelwane babantu kwisikroti ngumsebenzi ongenambulelo. Emva kwakho konke, njengokuba uyazi, wonk 'ubani uyavuya okanye akonwabanga ngendlela yabo.

Nangona kunjalo, izazi zengqondo zibonisa ukuba sicinga intsapho kunye namalungu ayo ngendlela yepiramidi. Lowo ophakathi kwindlu ebaluleke kakhulu, iya kuba yintloko yayo, onke amalungu omkhaya aya kudibana kuyo. Kwaye abazali abahlali beyintloko yentsapho. Ubawo, Mama, ndingumhlobo osondeleyo - kwaye oko kuthetha kakhulu.

Eyona nto ibhetele kubantwana!

Zonke ezintathu, ezine, ezithandathu izibini "zentsapho" amehlo zixhomekeke kuye ukususela ebuntwaneni. Xa umntwana ehleli egumbini le-cottage, oogogo ababini kumgca wokukhawulela kuye ukubeka ipads: ii-hemps zipholile. Xa usana lusondela isangqa ebomini, intsapho ithi: "Ngokucokisekileyo ...", kunye noba ngenyameko baxhaphaza ngunina: "Ndiyabonga ngale nyana." Ewe, njalo njalo. Ixesha lihamba, isimo sengqondo sentsapho kwi-genius encinci ayitshintshi, nangona kubonakala ukuba umntwana akanalo iitalente ezizodwa.

Ugogo ngumkhulu wethu

Kwenzeka ukuba phezulu kwiphiramidi yentsapho ngummeli wesizukulwana esidala-ugogo. Uyinkosi kunye noothixo, uya kuba nenceba, uya kugweba. Ilizwi lakhe ngumthetho, akwenzeki nakubani na ongamthobeliyo. Kwiholide zezingane, uhlala kwindawo efanelekileyo yenkwenkwe yokuzalwa, entloko yetafile. UZorko ubheka abahlobo bakhe, umntu owamkela ngokucacileyo, kukho umntu obalaseleyo kuye. Ucwangcisa uhlahlo lwabiwo-mali kwaye, ngamanye amaxesha, unika imali yokutya kwasemakhwenkwe nentombi. Baye baqhagamshelana ixesha elide indlela yokukholisa umntakwabo ukuba athenge ikhompyutha entsha, intsingiselo angayiboniyo, nendlela yokwakha ingxoxo ngokuthengisa umatshini omdala nokuthenga entsha. Ugogo ugxininisekile, akavumeli ukuba "abantwana" bahlale eTurkey, kuba kusekho "zethu" zolwandle kunye no-Azov, kwaye ngokubanzi, akukho nto ingcono kunokuba idala elidala edolophini kwaye ayikwazi.

Inkululeko ngonaphakade

Kwenzeka ukuba indawo ephezulu yentsapho yepiramidi isala ... engekho. Umntwana, eneneni, unomama nobawo, kodwa ubeka phezulu amaqhawe athile. NjengoCarlson. Abazali emsebenzini, banegama elimangalisayo elithi "umsebenzi". Umntwana oza kwaye uphelele kumacala onke, kodwa unomzukulu wakhe kwaye uyathanda into ethile, yena uyenaye nje, kwaye apha ufumana imali kuphela. Kwaye ukuba ngaba abazali bengaqapheli oku, ke umntwana uvakalelwa kukungakhathaleli kwesikhumba nentliziyo. Akukho bushushu! Kwaye udala umhlobo ofudumeleyo, umhlobo ovuyoleyo, unxibelelwano kunye nomfana ongekho nto. Ngomhlobo owenziwe ngokulula! Uhleli eceleni kwam emotweni, xa umntwana ethathwa kwinkampu yabantwana ikhefu, kwaye umele ngesibindi eceleni kwakhe xa ibhungu liphendula ebhodini. "Umhlobo" awusizi kakhulu ngokuhlwa, xa abazali bebiza ngezikhathi ezithile, bakhathazeke baze bacele "ukulinda okungakumbi", kuba banomhlangano obalulekileyo, uhambo olude, kamva intlanganiso. "Musa ukucaphuka, umntwana, unyoko uyakuthanda, uTata uyakuthanda." Kwaye ukholelwa ngokunyanisekileyo ukuba uyathandwa, kodwa igama elithi "uthando" ekugqibeleni liba ngumbala obomvu obandayo, luhle kakhulu kwaye lude kakhulu ... Iinkonzo. Umntwana kamva kakhulu uba ngumntu ozimeleyo, uyaqonda ukuba abazali bakhe abasibo bantu bokugqibela kule planethi, bayazi indlela yokwenza umsebenzi kunye nendlela yokukhokelela abantu. Abantwana abanjalo bebazela ngokuzenzekelayo kwi-moya kunye nabangamazi-malume kunye nootata abaceliwe ukuba banakekele umntwana, abazange balile baze bahlasele iimbophu, abaye bavumela umama ukuba angene endlwini yangasese. Umxhasi. Imfesane kunye nomhlobo owenziweyo unokuphelisa kakhulu. Iingcali zeengqondo zengane ziyazi imizekelo emininzi xa umntwana ekhululekile kakhulu kuye ngokwakhe ukuba kwakufuneka ukuba "athathe" ukusuka apho ukuya kwiimpawu zonyango. Ukuvuthwa kwexesha lokuqala kukuveliswa. Utshintsho lwethu olunexesha elidala luvela kuphela kwiminyaka ephilayo, kwaye kungengenxa yokungabikho kwengqalelo yabantu abasondeleyo kuthi-abazali. Ngenxa yoko, ukuzimela nje akuyikho into edidekayo kubawo nonina, inzondo, intukuthelo kunye nokuphendula okusemandleni okuqala. Luhlobo luni lomzali oluya kuba ngumlobi wabahlobo abasungulwe? Ubanda obufanayo kunye nokude? Okanye akafuni ukuba nabantwana, ukhumbule ukuba ixesha elingenamsoco kunye nexesha elide, elibizwa ngokuba ngumntwana?

Kwaye kuyimfuneko njani?

Kukunzima ukuphendula lo mbuzo. Akukho sikimu esilungileyo, esiya kulungelelanisa ubudlelwane bazo zonke iintsapho ngaphandle kokunye. Kodwa kukho enye inketho. Ewe, abazali kufuneka babe phezulu kwipiramidi. Uthando lwabo luya kwandelana, kwaye ke lujolise kubantwana. Abantwana bayaziqonda ngokupheleleyo. Abazali basombulula yonke imiba, "bangundoqo". Oogogo noomkhulu bayamkelekile, kwaye banokusondela ngakumbi kubantwana, kodwa igama lokugqibela lihlala lihlala kumama nobawo. Ukungeniswa ngaphandle kobundlobongela, ukuhlonipha ngaphandle kokwesaba, ubungani ngaphandle kokusebenza. Kwaye kulwalamano olunjalo awuyi kufumana nantoni na. Ukudibanisa okuqinileyo. Kubuhlungu ukuba abahlanganisani rhoqo.