Iingxaki azibonakali kunye kunye nokuzalwa, ziphuhliswa kulo lonke ubomi. Kwaye ezinye zinokuphela, ngelixa ezinye zingabonakala.
Ukuba umntwana unobunzima obunzima, buya kubonakala ngokukhawuleza, ngaphandle kweso iso. Khumbula ukuba abantwana abayi kukwabelana ngolwazi olubalulekileyo njengoluphazamisayo zabo iingxaki. Baya kugcina konke ngaphakathi kwabo, umntwana akayi kubelana ngalowo nantoni na. Umele uyimise, kwaye ugweme ukubonakalisa iingxaki kwixesha elizayo. Zama ukufumanisa ukuba zeziphi izinto eziyinkxalabo ezivuyisa umntwana wakho. Yenza kuphela ngokucokisekileyo, akufanele ukhathazeke ngumntwana, okanye mhlawumbi unokugijima ukusuka kwezinye iindawo ezinzima.
Ukuba unako ukufumana ukuba uluphi uhlobo oluyinkimbinkimbi, qalisa ukwenza yonke into ukuze utshabalalise le ngxaki. Ukuba umntwana ucinga ukuba unobungozi, umqinisekisile ngenye indlela, fumana iindlela zokukubonisa.
Yintoni, ngoko. Ukuba awukwazi ukufumana okungakumbi malunga nobunzima bakhe, ke kufuneka usebenze encinane kwaye uzame ukulahla zonke iindawo ezinzima ngokukhawuleza. Indlela yokwenza oko, ngoku siza kukuxelela. Masiqale kwaye silungise umcimbi othi "Indlela yokukhulisa umntwana ngaphandle kwengxaki? "U
Ngoko ke, ukuba ngokukhawuleza uqaphele ukuba umntwana wakho unesizungu, unamahloni, uxhalabile, akwazi ukubonisa uluvo lwakhe, ukuba akanakho ukuthini kwaye akakwazi ukuveza iimpawu zakhe ezifihlakeleyo, ngoko umele uncede umntwana anqobe yonke into efihlakeleyo!
Ukuqala, kufuneka unike umntwana ngakumbi uthando, umele umbonise ukuba uyamthanda. Wonke umntu udinga uthando, ufuna umntu ukuba awufune. Mxelele ukuba uyithande kakhulu kuwe, ukuba uyona mntwana ongcono. Ingabonakalisa ngamagama alula, kwaye ngokuchukumisa kwaye ukhangela.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukumbamba umntwana ngaphantsi kwamaxesha amane ngosuku - akukhona nje ukuba uvakalelwa kukuba, kuyimfuneko yokusinda, ngokufanelekileyo, malunga namaxesha angama-8 ngosuku - oku sele kusele impilo enhle kakhulu. Gxotha umntwana wakho rhoqo ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuthintana luhlobo loxhumano nabantu, kwaye kufuneka ulisebenzise kunye nomntwana wakho nakunjani na. Ukuthintela akuyi kuvumela ukuhamba, ungashiyi umntwana wedwa okanye / okanye ulahlekelwe. Kuyakuthi kuqatshelwe ukuba iichukumiso zithunyelwa ngokuvuya, kwaye ziqinisekisa ukuba yinto esele sinayo. Kuthekani ngokuxuba kukuvuyisa okhethekileyo kubazali, okuya kubanika umdla omnandi. Kodwa abanye abazali baya kumgaqo kwaye bangamkeli umntwana, bekholelwa ukuba sele sele bekhulile ngokwaneleyo, kwaye ixesha "lokugubungela" sele lidlulile.
Ewe, kunokwenzeka ukwamkela nokusebenzisa ububele kubantwana - oku kunzima kuwe, kodwa ngoku oku kufuneka uphumelele kwaye ubonise ububele kumntwana wakho.
Unganqikazi ukubonisa ububele kumntwana wakho, uya kuphendula ngokufanayo, kuba ufuna ngokwenene. Ukuba awuwunikeli umntwana ukuba abonise ububele, ke iphoso liza kuxhoma kuwe, kungekhona kulo.
Musa ukuthatha umntwana wakho ngenxa yezizathu ezizodwa, zithathe ngenxa yesizathu sokuba ungumntwana wakho, ukuba ngokubanzi unalo. Yaye khumbula, nguye omnye, oyingqayizivele kwihlabathi, nangona umntwana enenkathazo.
Ngoku masithethe ngokuzithemba, kuba kubaluleke kakhulu ukuze sikhulise umntwana ngokuchanekileyo. Ukuzithemba kuhambelana kakhulu kunye neenkomfa. Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba abantu abanokuzithemba kakhulu abayi kuthukuthela xa umntu egxekayo, abayiki ukulahlwa. Kodwa ukuba umntu unesidima esincinane, uya kubonakala elahlekile, uya kuthatha ngokungathandabuzeki ukugxeka okuvela kwabanye abantu. Naliphi na umntwana kakhulu kuxhomekeke kwimiphumo esiyinike yona. Emva kwakho konke, ucinga nje, udumisa kangakanani umntwana wakho? Inokwenzeka ukuba, akunqabile, kuba ucinga ukuba ukubhekiselele kwimiphumo yakhe, uya kubalwela. Ewe, mhlawumbi kuya kuba, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukuba kuya kusebenza kakuhle, kodwa izakhiwo ziya kuphuhliswa.
Kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba umntwana akayena mntu opheleleyo. Xa ubonisa ukungaphumeleli, uya kuzicingela konke kakuhle, kuba uyazi kakuhle ngokusilela kwakho, kodwa umntwana ..., usemncinci kwaye uphulaphule abanye kuphela, kodwa hhayi yena.
Kule ngongoma, ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka uqinisekise ukuba umntwana wakho uziva kakuhle, kwaye akukho nto enye. Hlala phantsi kunye naye wenze isigqibo sokuba kukho okuhle kuye, fumana yonke into efanelekileyo. Ukuqala namhlanje, qala ukudumisa umntwana kuyo yonke into. Kungcono ukuba uthi: "Ndicinga ukuba ufunde le ndinyana kakuhle" kunokuba "Ndicinga ukuba ufunde le nkondlo kakuhle." Njengoko ubona, kukho umehluko kwelinye igama, kodwa umntwana uya kuwuqonda ngokucacileyo kwaye uyibone.
Kodwa jonga, ukuba ubuye bukhangelekile. Emva koko, umntwana uqaphele ngokukhawuleza, ukuba "uyifumene", oku kuya kuluxinzelela ngakumbi, oko ngokuqinisekileyo akuthandi.
Zininzi iintlobo zamagqabaza esikucebisa ngazo ukunciphisa ubuncinci obuphantsi. Ungalibali ukuba ukufunga akukhokeli kwimiphumo engcono. Uya kuba yimbi ngakumbi xa ummangalela onke amaxesha. Ukuba unomsindo kakhulu kuye, kungcono ukuveza ukunganeliseki ngesenzo esithile, kodwa kungekhona kuye. Okokuthi, ungathethi ukuba kubi - lo ngumgaqo omkhulu! Ukuba utshela umntwana imihla ngemihla ukuba uvila, kuya kuba nzima ukuba akwazi ukujamelana nobuvila bakhe, kwaye oku kuyinyaniso.
Sibhala iingongoma eziphambili. Unokulandela icebiso lethu, okanye ungeke ulilandele, kodwa kufuneka ukwazi ukuba ufumana umntwana ngaphandle kwengxube, kufuneka aphakanyiswe kwasekuqaleni. Ungashiyi konke kumntwana ngokwakhe, uncede. Kwaye ukuba ungenjalo, uluntu lwangoku luyakwenza oko, kodwa kuphela ngendlela yalo.