Ngokuqhelekileyo abafazi abaziqondiyo, nokuba kunjalo, abafuni ukuqonda ukuba umntu oqeqeshiweyo, umxhamli kwintsapho, onjalo njengomntu onesondlo kuzo zonke iimeko, ukulahleka komsebenzi kukubi kunokuba bacinga. Iingcali zengqondo zithi le nto ibuhlungu kakhulu kwimeko yengqondo yabasetyhini. Emva koko, ukuzithemba kwamadoda kuhambelana ngqo neemeko zentlalo kunye nobukhulu obwenzekayo "kwishishini."
Kwindoda, ukungabikho komsebenzi akubhekiselele ekulahlekelweni kwengeniso engapheliyo, kodwa kunye nesiganeko ngasinye sokuziqhayisa. Yaye ukuba akukho sizathu sokuzikhukhumeza - ke kukho ithuba lokuxakeka. Le ndoda iqala ukuziva ihlazo kunye nokuphazamiseka kubahlobo, izalamane kunye nakwabasebenza nabo ngaphambili. Nangona umntu onamandla kunalo mzuzu ufuna ukulala ebusweni, ungacingi ngantoni na, ungaboni mntu, ungathathi nxaxheba kuyo nayiphi na into. Yilapho umfazi onothando noqondayo angaphazamisa khona, okungeke kumvumele umyeni wakhe athathwe. Ukulila ukuba "umyeni ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakhe" awunanto, kwaye isitya kunye nokungenzi nto yinto nje yesikhashana. Ewe, indoda idinga ukuphumla emva koxinzelelo, kodwa nangona kunjalo, musa ukumvumela ukuba akhule ibe liholide elingenamkhawulo.
Into ephambili ebalulekileyo kwindodakazi kukuxhasa indoda yakhe. Mxelele ukuba akayedwa, ukuba ujikelezwe yintsapho yakhe, umfazi wakhe, oya kukwazi ukuxhasa, ukuphulaphula, ukunceda. Musa ukumgxeka - akayithandeki, kwaye ukumangalelwa komthandayo akuyi kukulungisa imeko. Kunoko, baya kwandisa ingcinezelo yakhe. Nangona, kunye nokusetyenziswa kakubi kweentlungu akufanelekanga. Musa ukuhlala yinyani indoda entloko, uqinisekise ukuba yonke into iya kuhamba kakuhle. Khumbula, kukho indoda phambi kwakho, kungekhona umntwana omncinci. Akukho nto "iya kuba" ngaphandle kokuba uthathe nantoni na, ngaphandle kokuba uzame ukulungisa imeko. Akukho nto iyakushintsha induduzo ezinokuthi "awufuni ukuthetha ngazo"? Ufuna incoko yebhizinisi, kwaye uncedo lukhonkrithi.
Umfazi onothando ngokwenene unokuhlala ephulaphule, anike iingcebiso, adibanise imeko. Ibhinqa liyakwazi ukwenza oku, nangona engayiqondi ngokupheleleyo intsingiselo yomsebenzi wengcali yomyeni wakhe. Ukwenza oku, akuyimfuneko ukudibanisa ubuqili be-computer kwintlanganiso okanye ukuthengisana kwezoshishino ukubuza: "Uya kuqhuba njani? Ukukhangela umsebenzi omtsha? Ndiyakunceda. " Ngoko, unokwenza ntoni ukunceda? Hlela izixhobo ze-intanethi ezifumanekayo zengqesho, lungiselela kwaye uthumele uphinde uphinde uhlalutye iimpendulo ezifunyenweyo. Futhi ungagxininisi kakhulu kwizinto ozonceda ngazo. Akukho zikhalazo ezifana "ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi wakho, kwaye ndifuna isisombululo" ... Kwakhona, kuya kufuneka ucinge malunga nendlela yokugwema ukulimaza ukungasebenzi komntu. Emva kwakho konke, iimpendulo zokuqala kwakhona azifiki ngokukhawuleza. Umzekelo, qalisa umsebenzi othile wokulungisa kwi-dacha. Yenza into esele iqokelelwe, kodwa ihlala ihlehliswa. Kwaye umdumise umyeni wakho ngendlela awayejamelana ngayo nomsebenzi.
Kulo xesha kwiimigxa zowesifazane ukuba umthwalo owongezelelweyo uphathwe-oku akuxhasi nje kuphela uncedo ekufuneni umsebenzi omtsha. Ngexesha elithile unokuba ngumthombo kuphela wezimali kwiintsapho. Into ephambili yokukhumbula: akunzima kuwe kuphela, kodwa kumyeni wakho. Unokutshintsha ezinye zezinto eziqhelekileyo zasendlwini ngeli xesha ukuya kumntu ochitha ixesha elide ekhaya. Kodwa oku kufuneka kwenziwe ngefom yefom. Emva koko, uya kuvuma ukuba ibinzana elithi "Ndiyifumana enye, ngoko uhlamba izitya" kwaye "ndoda, ndidiniwe ngoku, ngaba ungaya esitolo namhlanje" - ngaba zihluke kakhulu? Musa ukunyanzela umyeni wakho - ayiyi kubakho nantoni na.
Ungavumeli ukuba umyeni wakho ahlale eziva uxolo kuwe kwaye aphephe: ubomi buzele yonke into enomdla kwaye inomdla. Ukuqhekeza indlela yokuziphatha kwaye uqale ukuphuma ngokuthe ngandlela-thile kwindawo ethile: kwi-cinema, kumboniso, ukuza kutyelela-ukuba ngubani onjalo. Hlanganisa kunye nezinye izinto zokuzilibazisa, zibandakanye kwimidlalo emitsha - oku kukukhululeka kokuxinezeleka nokuxinezeleka. Qhubeka wenza into kunye. Nika umyeni wakho ukuba aqonde ukuba ubomi buphelile, buzele izinto ezimangalisayo, kungekhona nje ukuphoxeka kunye nezigqibo ezingalunganga. Bonisa umyeni wakho ukuba nangona ubunzima bexeshana, usengowokuqala kunye nentloko yentsapho. Lo mntu akayi kukulibala, uya kuhlala eyiqonda. Uya kwenza konke ukugcina intsapho enothando kunye nenkathalo, ukuqinisekisa ukuphumelela kwayo. Uya kuphulukana ebhodini ukuze aphinde abuyele isikhundla sakhe, kwaye intlekele ebizwa ngokuthi "umyeni ulahlekelwe ngumsebenzi" uya kugcina ngokuphepha nonke.