Ngokukhawuleza xa inkwenkwe iphelile ukumazana nehlabathi ngokunciphisa izandla zayo kwi-mess and for it becomes a game or fun, kufuneka umntu aqale ngemisebenzi yemfundo ngesihloko: indlela yokuziphatha etafileni.
Kwiminyaka emibini okanye emithathu, uyithobela into yokuba ngaphambi kokutya kufuneka uhlambe izandla zakho. Etafileni, cacisa kumntwana indlela yokusebenzisa ifoloksi, i-spoon, esandleni sokubamba. Kancinane kamva - bhekisa ngqo kwisihloko senkcubeko yokuziphatha. Qaphela ukuba umntwana akayi kudlala isonka, akazange adlale naye, ahlaselwe ngomlomo wakhe uvaliwe, akazange athethe xa edla ngomlomo wakhe ugcwele.
Kususela ebuntwaneni sikhumbula ilizwi elithi: "Xa ndiyidla, andisithulu kwaye ndisisithulu." Kodwa ukutya akufanele kuphendulwe ngumdlalo ngokuthula: ungathetha, kodwa kuphela kwixesha eliphakathi kokutshatyalaliswa kokutya. Ukuba umntwana akaphulaphuli, cacisa ukuba abayi kuphulaphula umlomo wabo. Isihloko sencoko kufuneka sinike ingqalelo ekhethekileyo. Musa ukuthetha kunye nomntwana kunye nomnye kwintsapho malunga nezifo etafileni, misa ukucaciswa kobudlelwane phakathi kwamalungu entsapho, musa ukukhumbula izinto "ezimbi" ezingenakuphazamisa ukutya komntwana, kodwa ngokuqinisekileyo abayi kuhamba ngenzuzo yakhe khuliswe. Gxininisa ingqalelo yomntwana kwiimpawu zengcamango zaloo nto okanye loo mveliso, ukuze akwazi ukubona izinto ezithandwayo ngokuqinisekileyo kwaye wazi: njani unobuncu, unomnandi, umuncu, njl. Unokujika umdlalo ube ngumdlalo "Yintoni le nto? ".
Ngokuqhelekileyo abantwana banengqondo kwitafile, baphuma. Inyaniso kukuba banamava aphantsi, abanakukugxila kwisifundo esinye imizuzu engaphezu kwe-15. Ngoko ke, banokuzikhathaza ngokwabo inkqubo, okanye umntwana angadla (emva koko konke, rhoqo ngaphambi kokuba abazali abaphambili banike "i-snack", ngoko umntwana angayi kulamba ngokwaneleyo).
Ukususela kwiminyaka emine, imisebenzi yemfundo ingabandakanya imigaqo yokugcina i-cutlery ngokuchanekileyo, ukuthatha ukutya ngexesha. Emva kokuba ufunde ukugcina ukusika, kuyimfuneko ukutshintshela ekuziseleni. Emva koko, abazali abaya kumalungiselelo "Ndondle! ", Ekubeni umntwana sele sele ekhulile kwaye unako. Ngokukhawuleza kufuneka ubonise indlela yokuziphatha ngayo ukusika: indlela yokubeka iipuni emlonyeni wakho, yikhuphe ngaphandle (ukuze umntwana angathethi, akayi kuluba, akayikuyiphonsa umbane kwizinyo zakhe). Ngomlinganiselo ofanayo, ungabonisa indlela yokutya kunye nomese kunye nefoloko. Kule meko, cinga ngokukhuseleko.
Xa umntwana sele esesesikolweni, kufuneka asebenze ngokuzithelekileyo, akwazi ukulandela indlela yokutya xa udla, udla ngokuthula, ungafaki izibonda kwitafile. Imisongo akufuneki ixhomeke phantsi kwetafile, iwele (oku kwachaphazela nokuhamba).
Iingxelo kufuneka zichazwe, ziqiniswe ngemimiselo ephilayo, imifanekiso yamagorha e-fairy (Pinocchio, Winnie the Pooh). Musa ukufundisa umntwana ukuba angakhohlisi ukholo "ngoko kuyimfuneko", "wamukelwa" - ngolunye usuku ungadlala nantoni. Nangona ukukhala kuphukile, cwaka kwaye uchaze intsingiselo yesenzo.
Imisebenzi yezemfundo kumxholo wesetyenziso kwitafile ayigcini kwinkcubeko yokuziphatha ngexesha lokutya. Ukuba kwixesha elizayo akukho ziingxaki, zibandakanya umntwana ukuba ahlale etafileni, ahlambulule emva kwakhe emva kokutya. Ekuqaleni mvumele ukuba ahambise iplati kwisitya sokuhlamba, eneminyaka emihlanu neyesithandathu, unokuyalela umntwana ukuba ahlambe izitya. Makhe angayifumananga ngokukhawuleza, kufuneka ahlambe emva kwakhe, kodwa ngokucacileyo ukuba uchaze iimpazamo, ukwenzela ukuba ngelinye ilanga wazama kangcono.
Ukuba ufuna enye into ukuba ayidlulisele, musa ukumvumela ukuba alulale, kodwa acele ngokuzithoba (esebenzisa, "imilingo" igama "nceda"). Kule tafile, nawe, akufanele uthabathe ukutya kwiplani esondelene nayo, khawuleza ukuthabatha isiqununu esikhulu. Yaye xa into ethile ingazange isebenze, okanye inqabile (umxube okanye ibhande), ndixolise. Emva kokutya, fundisa umntwana ukuba abulele.
Abazali nabo bafuna ukuhlakulela iimvakalelo ze-aesthetic kumntwana. Ukutya kukhonjiswa kakuhle, kufaka i-spoon kwiitya eziqhelekileyo (ukwenzela ukuba ungangeni kuwo ngamnye ngombane wakho). Ungadli kwiimbiza okanye ipane, ukuma, ekuhambeni. Ukuba awufuni ukuba umntwana adle egumbini, musa ukumisela umzekelo uze ungalondli apho. Ungadli ngeTV! Etafileni, ingqalelo yomntwana kufuneka igxile ekudleni. Ukuba akayithandi, akafuni ukuyidla, ungammangazeli, kodwa umane ubeke eceleni isitya. Kubonakala kuwe ukuba akayidlanga - isidlo esilandelayo siqala ekuqaleni. Musa ukuya kwimeko xa umntwana ehamba ngokuzithoba ngokutya. Kufuneka udle yonke into ekhonjiweyo, kwaye upheke ngokuzikhethela ukulungelelanisa ukuba nantoni na into enhle ayiyi kuyenza.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, yonke imisebenzi yemfundo kufuneka iqinisekiswe ngumzekelo wabo. Jonga imilinganiselo yakho yokuziphatha, kuba amabali athathakayo ayifani nantoni "nomfanekiso", kuba abantwana bakopisha indlela abaziphatha ngayo yabazali kwiinkcukacha ezincinci. Kufuneka uqhube etafileni ngendlela onokuthanda ngayo umntwana ukuba aziphathe, kwaye enze imisebenzi yemfundo kancane kancane, ngothando nangomonde ongenammiselo.