Kutheni umntu ekhuluma ngokwakhe kumntu wesithathu?
Ingqongileyo inokucaphuka kakhulu le ndlela yokunxibelelana. Kuyavuma, kubonakala kunqabileyo xa umntu oqhelekileyo ngokuqhelekileyo uthi: "U-Andrew usele wayesebenzilekile" esikhundleni sokuba "ndidinekile ukusebenza."
Ngaphambi kokuba uqaphelisise, jonga kwi-psychology yale ndlela.
Inomdla! Iingcali zenzululwazi ziqhuba uvavanyo olukhethekileyo lwengqondo, abathathi-nxaxheba abazama ukuzithetha ngabo ngokwabo kunye nemikhwa yabo ukusuka kumntu wokuqala, wesibini nowesithathu, zombini kunye kunye nabaninzi. Abahlanganyeli bokuzivocavoca ngokwabo bamangaliswa ukuba bafumene iimvakalelo ezahlukileyo.
Ukuba umntu uthetha ngaye kumntu wesithathu, esebenzisa isigamazwi esithi "Yena /" esikhundleni sokuthi "mna" okanye nokubazibiza ngegama, mhlawumbi ubhekisela ngokuhlekisayo ebomini nasemisebenzini yakhe. Iingcali zengqondo zakwazi ukubonisa ukuba unxibelelwano kule fomu eyenza ukuba kunokwenzeka ukuba udlulisele umxhasi kunye nenjongo yomntu ngokukhawuleza kunokwenzeka.
Ukususela kwimbono yengqondo, le ndlela yokuthetha ithetha ukuba umntu uzijonga yena kunye nemeko evela ngaphandle. Ngaloo ndlela, uxinzelelo lwengqondo kumbalisi luyancitshiswa, nangona ehlala ephulaphule kwaye egxile. Abantu abanjalo banokusombulula ngokulula nayiphi na ingxaki evela.
Ezinye iimbono
Iimbono eziqhelekileyo zabanye zithi abantu abazithethayo ngokwabo kumntu wesithathu, banokuzithemba kakhulu kwaye abazibekeli nantoni na. Kuyavunywa, le ngcamango ayinayo inxaxheba ye nyaniso.
Ukuba ixhalabisa igosa okanye umntu ophethe isikhundla esiphakamileyo, unokunyamekela ngengqondo yakhe ukubaluleka kunye negunya. Abanye baze bathethe ngokwabo ngobuninzi, basebenzisa isigamazwi esithi "Thina". Yiyo yokugqibela eyicinga ukuba inamandla kakhulu ukuba ayinakucinga ngoluvo okanye iimfuno zabanye.
Kodwa abantu abaqhelekileyo abanakwenzeka ukuba baziphakamise ngaphezu kwamanye, bethetha ngobomi babo kunye nemisebenzi evela kumntu wesithathu. Ngokuqhelekileyo loo ndlela yokunxibelelana isetyenziselwa ukubonisa ingcamango yesimo sengqondo.
Kungenzeka ukuba umntu unamahloni ukuxelela ixesha elithile lobomi, kwaye ukutshintsha kulolu hlobo lokumlandela kumvumela ukuba achaze imeko ngokukhululekile kunye neentloni, ngelixa engafanele abe nomuxanduva malunga nento eyenzekayo.
Abanye oogqirha beengqondo bacinga ukuba lo mkhwa ube mbi. Ingabonisa ukuba umntu unesizotha kakhulu, kwaye kwimiba enzima kakhulu, inokuthi ihambe ingxaki ephantsi. Ngamanye amaxesha umkhwa wokuthetha ngomntu wesithathu ufakazela kwisigaba sokuqala schizophrenia.
Ukuba unomkhwa wokuthetha ngomntu wesithathu, musa ukucaphuka. Emva kwakho konke, bonke abantu banesiphako, kodwa oku kungathatyathwa kakhulu kunzima ukuxinezeleka.