Nangona kunjalo, akukho nkulu ingxaki kule meko. Inyaniso kukuba kukho ixesha lokuphuhliswa kwabantwana, xa ubunzima beentsebenziswano phakathi kwabantwana nabazali bekunakwenzeka. Ngoko olu hlobo lwengxaki aluqhelekanga, luqhelekile, kunokutsho ukuba kuyimfuneko malunga nentsapho nganye.
Iingcali zengqondo ezahlukeneyo zinikela ngezigaba ezahlukeneyo zeengxaki zabantwana. Sekunjalo, uninzi lwabo lwenza iingxaki ezilandelayo zentuthuko yabantwana: inkathazo yonyaka owodwa, ubunzima beeminyaka emithathu, inkathazo yeminyaka emihlanu, ubunzima be-school school (iminyaka eyi-6-7), inkathazo yeselula (iminyaka eyi-12-15) kunye neengxaki zolutsha 18-22).
Ukuvela kweengxaki nganye kubudlelwane phakathi kwabantwana nabazali bodwa ngexesha, ukwenzela ukuba izikhundla zeminyaka zinemiqathango. Kukho abantwana abanenkathazo emithathu kwiminyaka emi-2.5. Kwaye kwenzeka ukuba inkathazo yeshumi elivisayo iya kufutshane neminyaka elilishumi elinesixhenxe.
Enyanisweni, iintlungu zezingane zizinto ezinjalo ekuphuhlisweni komntwana ophawula ukutshintshwa kwinqanaba elitsha lophuhliso. Ubunzima beli xesha leenguqu lixhomekeke ekusebenzisaneni ngokubanzi phakathi kwabantwana nabazali. Ngoko abanye abantwana bahamba kwiinqanaba eziphambili zophuhliso kunye neengxaki kunye neengxaki, ngelixa abanye abantwana bezibonakaliswa. Inkxalabo ebubudlelwaneni ayinakuvela ukuba ngaba abazali bazimisele ukuqala ukukhula komntwana, okanye ubuncinci bafundiswa kwintsimi yengqondo yengqondo yabantwana.
Into ebaluleke kakhulu abazali abafuna ukuyiqonda malunga neengxaki zezingane ukwenzela ukukhusela iingxabano kunye noxinzelelo kwiintsebenzo zezizathu zenkathazo. Isizathu esiyinhloko, njengoko sibhala ngasentla, sishintsho kwisigaba esitsha sophuhliso. Umntwana usuqalisile ukutshintshwa kwinqanaba elitsha, kodwa engakhuli ngokwaneleyo ukuba abazali bamkele emandleni amasha. Ngenxa yoko, kukho iingxabano ezininzi kumtshato womntwana kunye nabazali.
Ngokomzekelo, kwiminyaka emithathu ubudala umntwana uqala ukuziva ukuba ufuna ukuzimela okokuqala ngqa. Ufuna ukuqwalaselwa ngombono wakhe xa ukhetha iimpahla okanye ukutya, xa ukhetha ixesha lokuhamba nokuthenga amathoyizi esitolo. Ibinzana: "mna ngokwam" - iba yinto eqhelekileyo kwisiqulatho somntwana. Abazali abaninzi babonakala bengenangqondo ukuba iimfuno ezinjalo zisengumntwana omncinci, kwaye zichasene neqhinga elitsha lomntwana. Ngenxa yoko, bafumana i-hysteric ephumayo, benqabe ukuphuma, bagqoke okanye badle. Ukwenjenjalo okunzulu kwemizwa njengamahlazo kunye nemizwelo ayinqweneleka ngokupheleleyo nangenkxwaleko, ngoko abazali kufuneka bafunde indlela yokusabela ngokufanelekileyo kwimitshintsho yobomi bomntwana.
Abazali beza kunceda iingcebiso ezininzi kunye neengcebiso zeengqondo zeengqondo. Masithi uneminyaka emithathu ubudala ufuna ukugqoka, kodwa akazi ukuba njani. Uninzi lunceda uluhlu lwemidwebo okanye izicelo ezenziwe ngokubambisana nomntwana, kunye naso sonke isicwangciso sokugqoka sithathwa. Yintoni ebeka phezu kwayo - izinto ezifakwe kwiingubo zixhunyiwe ngeentolo, umntwana ubheka le mizobo kwaye oku kwenza kube lula ukugqoka. Lo mfanekiso unokuphoswa kwibala okanye kwigumbi lokulala kwaye umntwana angakwazi ukuziqhelanisa. Kuyafana nokutya. Nangona umntwana engazi indlela yokutya, kodwa ufuna ukuzenza ngokwakhe, kucetyiswa ukuba ube nesigulane uze uncede ngeengcebiso okanye kwimibandela yakhe. Indlela yokucoca iqanda elibilisiweyo, indlela yokugcina i-spoon, ukuze isobho singagcini, - konke oku kufuneka umntwana aqeqeshelwe ukuba angayinakucineli.
Indlela efanelekileyo yokuphendula kwiimeko ezinjalo ngumonde kwaye kwakhona umonde. Kuya kukuvuza esikhathini esizayo. Emva koko, inkathazo yeminyaka emithathu ivela ngexesha lokukhathazeka okhethekileyo lomntwana ekuphuhliseni ukuzimela, umsebenzi, ingqondo kunye nenjongo yokuphila. Ukuba iimpikiswano zalo zixinzelelekile, ngoko kunokwenzeka ukuba sikhule umntu ongenamandla, ongenamntu ongeyena mntu, ngokuthetha nje - "i-rag". Kwaye ukulungisa ngexesha lomdala le mibi engathandekiyo yomntu kunye nokuziphatha kwabantu kuya kuba nzima kakhulu.
Ukuba ucinga ngomgaqo-jikelele wenkxalabo ebudlelwaneni phakathi kwabantwana nabazali, kulula ukufumana "ukungahambelani" okufanayo phakathi komnqweno kunye namandla kuwo wonke umzuzu wengxaki yomntwana. Iintswelo sele zifuna ukuzimela, kodwa zingakhange zikhule ngokwaneleyo kwaye zixhomekeke kubazali babo ngokwezemali. Oku kuphazamisa iingxaki kwizidlelwane nabazali. Abantwana bezikolo zasesekondari nabantwana bezikolo eziprayimari sele befuna ukukwazi ukufunda nokubhala, bafuna ukubonisa ulwazi lwesikolo ekhaya. Nangona kunjalo, kaninzi ababanako ukwenza oko, okubangela ukuba zihlaziyeke kunye nezimo. Into ephambili kukuba ube nomonde kwaye "ukhuphe" ngamathuba omntwana kwiminqweno yakhe entsha. Kwaye ke akukho mingcipheko eya kuba yinto embi kuwe!