Xa kungekho mntu othandekayo ebomini, kungekudala emva koko umva wokungabi nalutho uqala ukuwulahlekisa, abanye baqale ukubuka zonke iziteshi zeTV ngokulandelanayo, abanye bahlale kwi-intanethi baze bathethelele kwisiza sokuthandana, abanye bahamba baze basebenze, beza ekhaya balala. Kodwa, okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda isizathu sokuba unesizungu, ukuze uphendule umbuzo wendlela yokulahla ubunyulu lula kwaye ngokukhawuleza?
Eyodwa, kukho izibonelelo kunye nezizathu zokuba kutheni abafazi bengathandi ukwahlukana kunye nesizungu.
1. Ukhangele inkululeko! Umntu onesizungu akadingi ukulungelelanisa nomnye umntu, akufuneki ukupheka, uhlambulule indlu ukukholisa indoda. Oko kukuthi, unokuphila njengoko ufuna, kwaye kungekhona njengoko kufanele. Abantu abaninzi bayayixabisa kakhulu inkululeko yabo kwaye ngoko bahlala bengatshatanga.
2. Abasetyhini abangenawo umntu osisigxina bangacela uncedo, baya kuzisola, bamthuthuzele. Oko kukuthi, umnqweno wokubukeka unesidima kwaye unobuthathaka kwaye uyonwabele.
3. Abanye abesifazana, abanesidima nabantu abangenangqondo, abafuni ubuhlobo nabani na. Kwabo, ngoku, banelungelo lokubuyela ekhaya, beza kwisitulo seengalo kwaye babukele enye inopop opera okanye i-reality show.
4. Kukho uhlobo lwabasetyhini abakholelwa ukuba bonke abantu abafanelanga. Ulindele umntu othe tye oza kuwugqoka kwizandla zakhe aze anike iintyatyambo. Abafazi abanjalo baphila phantsi kwesiqubulo sokuba kungcono ukuba yedwa kunabo nabani na.
5. Enye imantombazana ayifuni ubuhlobo obunzulu kunye obude, kodwa ujabulele yonke imincili enomntu umntu, mhlawumbi, akayi kuphinda aphinde abonakale. La mabhinqa abazibuze nokuba kulula kangakanani kwaye ukukhawuleza ukulahla ubunyulu.
6. Kukho imeko xa indoda iya kuba yithintelo kwizicwangciso zabafazi. Umfazi ophumelelayo akakwazi ukuchitha ixesha kumntu. Akangenanga kwizicwangciso zakhe.
7. Intombazana enye ingavunyelwe ukuthetha, ukuzonwabisa, ukugqoka isikhwele esifutshane. Akukho mntu unomona, awubonakali ukuba yintoni na ukuyenza nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo. Akudingeki ukuba ucinge ukuba uphike ukudla isidlo sakusihlwa, indlela yokudibanisa isondo somntu wakho, akukho ukungazithengi, ukunyamezeleka kunye nemvakalelo.
Kodwa kukho nabasetyhini abanjalo, ngendlela, baninzi banqwenela ukulahla ivakalelo bodwa kwaye banwabile ebomini babo.
Sekunjalo, njani ukukrazula ulwala?
Okokuqala, kufuneka uhambe emhlabeni we-Intanethi uze kubantu. Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba kuphi, akubalulekanga ukuba uhambe, umzekelo, kwi-cafe, unako ukuya kumyuziyam, uhambe nje malunga nomzi, ngenxa yale njongo inkampani yabahlobo okanye abasebenzisana nabo baya kwenza. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukunyaniseka xa kukho umntu oyedwa kuphela, kwaye ukuba kukho abantu abaninzi, ubumnandi abubi kakhulu. Unako ukubhalisa kwezinye iikhosi, ngokukhethekileyo abo banabantu abaninzi besini esahlukileyo. Kucetyiswa ukuba uye kwi-resort, mhlawumbi enye, ngaphandle kwamantombazana. Ngoko kulula kakhulu ukuba uqhelane kwaye unqobe ukunyaniseka kwakho, kuba akukho mntu uza kukubona kubantu omaziyo. Kwi-resort, ubuhlobo bulula kakhulu ukubopha.
Kucetyiswa ukuba ubuyekeze ukuziphatha kwakho kwaye uqonde iimpazamo zakho. Kufuneka sihlalutye, sitshintshe into engalunganga, ukuziphatha okuchanekileyo, ukubonakala, imikhwa. Nantoni na into enokuthi ihlukanise umntu oselula. Ukuba unesizungu okanye ukuba ungabikho, wonke umntu uyazikhethela. Emva kwakho konke, ubumnandi bubaluleke kakhulu. Unokuba yedwa, ube yinkampani enkulu, kwimeko enokumthanda wakho, unokuziva unesizungu kwaye ungasweleki.