Ubudlelwane phakathi kwentombi endala kunye nomama ongatshatanga kudla ngokukhawuleza. Ungayifumana njani indawo efanelekileyo ifanelekileyo? Kuye kwenzeka ukuba oku kwenzeka! Ufuna nje ukubeka umgudu omncinane kumacala amabini ...
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Sekusele kungenakwenzeka ukuba uthi: "Ndazalela umntwana." Kodwa oku kunjalo nje. Xa ubudlelwane phakathi komntu omdala, intombi endala kunye nonina kuphenduka isangqa esichukumisayo. Intombi ithatha indawo yabo bonke oomama: umdla, izinto ezithandwayo, ukunxibelelana kunye namantombazana, amadoda. Inkazana yenza njalo ukuba intombazana nonina yayingcono kuneentanga zakhe. Usebenza ekwenzeni intombi yakhe, uhamba naye kwiindawo zokuhlala, ukuhamba, ukulungiselela ieholide zasekhaya. Umda ofunekayo phakathi komntu omdala kunye nomntwana uyacinywa - bona, njengabahlobo ababini, bayazi yonke into malunga nomnye. Enyanisweni, unina unciphisa intuthuko yakhe, engamvumeli ukuba akhule.
Enye yeempawu zobudlelwane obunempilo: intombazana ebusheni ayikwazi ukuthandana. Akazange abe nolwaphulo kunye nokungaqondi, okwangokwemvelo ngeli xesha, kwaye akanqwenela ukufuna umntu oza kuthatha indawo yabazali. Ulwalamano nolwabelana ngesondo alufani. Intombazana iyazi ukuba akukho mntu uya kumthanda ngaphezu komama wakhe. Ngenxa yoko, wayelula ngokulula nabantu. Kodwa nangona athe wazeka, uzala umntwana, ugijimela unina nazo zonke iingxaki. Umyeni akaba ngumntu osondeleyo kule ntombazana. Ngenye imini unina uya kuthi kuye: "Indoda iyafuneka kuphela ukuzala. Usuvele unomntwana, ngoko uye ekhaya! "
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Lo mama wayenomdla wokwenza intlungu kwintombi yakhe-oku kwakuyisiseko sabo bonke ubudlelwane babo. Wayesoloko emxelela ukuba kunzima kangakanani ukukhulisa umntwana wedwa, ukuba wayengalala njani busuku, wayekhathazekile xa intombazana yagula ngenxa yempumoniya ... Okona kubaluleke kakhulu, wazinikela ngobomi bakhe ukuze angalimazi intombazana yakhe.
Intombi ikhula ngengqondo yesikweletu esingunaphakade kumama. Ukumshiya kwaye uqale ubomi obuzimeleyo lubugebengu kwintombi endala. Yaye ukuba wenza umzamo wokushiya, uya kukhunjuzwa ngokukhawuleza: "Xa uneminyaka emihlanu, ndingahlela ubomi bam. Kodwa wakhala, ndahlala ekhaya. Kwaye ke, ngokuqinisekileyo, xa ndikhulile kwaye ndingenakunceda, uyandishiya. "
Enyanisweni, oku kuyinto ejwayelekile yokumnyama. Awukwazi ukuthatha uxanduva lokuphila kwakho kobomi kubomi bomntwana oneminyaka emihlanu ubudala. Kodwa ukuba intombazana engayiqondi iinjongo zangempela zonina, uya kuhlala kunye naye ukuba akanalo ilungelo lokucinga ngobomi bakhe.
Ngethuba elifutshane
Ngaphandle, lo mama unxulumene ngqo nalawo mabini angaphambili. Uthi kwintombi yakhe: "Hamba, ujabule kwi-disco, udibana nomfana! Kwaye mna ... sele ndihlala ubomi bam, ngandlela-thile ... "Kodwa ukuba le ntombazana ayifuni i-subtext kwaye iqala ukudibana kunye nomhla, umama uya kuhlaselwa. Yaye intlanganiso kunye nentanda yakho iya kufuneka ihlehliswe. Kwaye, ukuba uThixo akavumelekanga, intombi iya kutshata, unina unako ukukhubazeka. Yaye umtshato uya kuphazamiseka. Yaye loo mfazi akazenzeli. Ngokulula, umzimba uphendula umnqweno wakhe wokugcina intombi yakhe ecaleni, njengomzimba womntwana omncinci ongafuni ukuya enkulisa. Ukuba loo mama unika intombi yakhe isatshatile, ngoko kuphela yimeko yokuba baya kuhlala kunye okanye ecaleni. Ngaphandle koko, ubusuku busithi: "Ndiyagula, ndiya kufa" - kuya kwenza intombazana intsha ilahle izithakazelo zentsapho yayo ize iphile kuphela neengxaki zikamama. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba intombi iyakwazi ukukhusela ilungelo lakhe kubomi abazimeleyo, kukho amaxesha amaninzi apho oomama bafumana khona ngokumangalisayo. Kwenzeka ukuba ukukhubazeka kudlula ...
"Ewe, uphi wena!"
Ibhinqa elikhupha umntwana yedwa lidla ngokuxhalabisa. Yonke ixesha ibonakala ngathi ngathi into ethile ingenzeka kumntwana. Oomama abanjalo baya emsebenzini njengama-kindergarten apho intombazana iya khona, ngoko balungiselela utitshala wesikolo, apho afunde khona, ehlobo basebenza njengompheki kwenkampu apho intombazana iphumla khona. Isizathu sokunyamekela okupheleleyo kukuba umama ubona impilo engamahlwempu - ngamanye amaxesha ngokwenene, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha inkohliso. Intombi ikhululekile kwimfundo yenyama, ukusuka ekucoceni iklasi, ukusuka kwinqanaba lokuhamba. Umama ukhumbuza njalo intombazana: "Musa ukulibala ukuba une-asthma (eczema, isifo senhliziyo)", ukukhuthaza ukungaxhasi kwakhe kunye nesidingo sokuxhomekeka ngokupheleleyo kwiwe. Akukho mvakalelo yothando, okanye malunga nokudalwa kwentsapho yodwa inokuthi ingabikho mbuzo: "Uphi na isifuba sakho (eczema, isifo senhliziyo)!" Ukuxhalaba ngokwenene kunye nokwenene kwakha ubudlelwane babo - intombi endala endala kunye nonina ibe yinto engabonakaliyo . Ukuba le nto ntombazana ikholelwa oko, ke yena noMama baya kuhlala bekhula kunye, bephilisa baze baxilane.
Icebiso likaMama
Zilungise ngokwakho ukuba intombazana ihamba ngokukhawuleza okanye kamva imele ihambe: kufuneka yakhe indlu yakhe.
Cinga kwangaphambili malunga nendlela oya kuhlala ngayo xa intombi yakho ikushiya: unayo iminqweno yakho, inqanaba lakho loqhagamshelwano.
Ungalindelanga ngokukodwa ukuba uza kuba nezingane zakuzukulwana. Okokuqala, abantu abaselula abakhawulezi ukufumana abantwana, ngoko abazukulwana abanako ukulinda. Okwesibini, kunokwenzeka ukuba intombi yakho iya kufuna ukuyifundisa, kwaye uya kuhamba ngokuthe tye.
Qhubeka uqhagamshelana nabahlobo bakho: intombi, oogxa. Musa ukuvala kuphela ekhaya kwaye uxoxe nentombi yakho.
Musa ukumisela intombazana endala engqondweni yabo, ukuba akayibanga. Kwimeko enzima, mxelele ukuba uyamthanda, kungakhathaliseki ukuba sisiphi isigqibo asenzayo.
Iingcebiso ngentombi
Musa ukuhlala ekhaya, nokuba uhlala kakuhle. Hamba ngokunyuka kumama - ukususela okokuqala ngeveki kwi-dacha ukuya kwintombazana, ngoko kwikhefu kunye nabafundi ofunda nabo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukufumana imfundo okanye umsebenzi othile kwesinye isixeko, kwelinye ilizwe, ungayihoxisi elo thuba.
Ukunciphisa izinga lokunyaniseka ekuxoxaneni nomama. Ngaphambili, kwakukholelwa ukuba ukuhamba kwelanga lokuqala - uphawu olubonisa ukuba awusekho umama nomntwana, kodwa ngabafazi ababini. Musa ukuxelela iinkcukacha zobomi bakho bobuqu, ungabi nentsapho enye.
Gcina unina umnqweno wakhe wokuthetha noontanga. Musa ukuphazamisa, kodwa kunoko, vuyisa, ukuba unomhlobo okanye uya kutshata.
Ungazivumeli ukuba umama wakho eqala ukubonisa ukuba unyanzelekile ukuba uzinikele ubomi bakhe ngenxa yakhe, njengoko wakwenza ngaphambili. Uya kuzalisekisa umsebenzi kumama, kuphela ekukhuliseni abantwana abafanelekileyo.