Amantombazana asekuhlaleni akho akakwazi ukuphepha

Kunzima kubantombazana abavela kuluntu ophezulu ukuphepha ukuhlala yedwa ... Yiyo nyaniso eqinisekisiweyo, kunye namazwi avela kwingoma edumile. Uphando olwenziwa ngamabhinqa angamawaka angamawaka angama-1000 kwiqela elidala ukusuka kwiminyaka engama-30 ukuya kweyama-50 libonise into ebangel 'umdla yokuba abantu abangatshatanga banokuzilungelelanisa nokutshintsha kwezinto ezivela kubomi kunabo abatshatileyo. Abafazi abanjalo baphilile ngokwengqondo, bahlupheke kakhulu kwixinzelelo. Kwaye oku kuhambelani namadoda, apho yonke into iphikisana. Ngokwalowo uphando, izazinzulu zenzululwazi zifikile ekugqibeleni ukuba iingxaki zobuninzi zidlulileyo. Ngaba kunjalo?

Ewe, phantse isiqingatha se-asema ase-Yurophu ayingqabane kwaye bayavuya. Ngaphezu kwe-30% yabantu baseYurophu abafuni ukuhlala nendoda kwindlu efanayo. Banelisekile ngendima yenkosikazi. Omnye kwaye uyavuya! Ngoko emva koko, ngaba le siqubulo samfazi wesimanje okanye ngaba yinyani ebomini bethu? Ngoko kutheni abaninzi bekhetha ukuhlala yedwa? Eli bhinqa lenzeke kwishishini, unamandla kwaye ufuna ubudlelwane obulinganayo (intsebenziswano), uloyiko lokuba phantsi. Uloyiko lwengxabano, ukungcatsha nokungcatsha. Uyesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumntu, abe ngumgcini wendlu, elahlekelwa ngumtsalane emva kokubeleka. Abafazi banomuvo wokuba ubomi buya kuphela emva komtshato.

Makhe sizame ukuqonda ukuba zeziphi izizathu ezenza ukuba ubomi bodwa bube ngabomama ba namhlanje.

  1. Mhlawumbi oku, njengento yonke kwimikhwa yethu nembono ebomini, ivela kubuntwaneni. Ubomi bentsapho bunjani njengabasetyhini abaneminyaka engama-30 ubudala. Baye phambi kwamehlo abo ubomi boomama kwixesha lamaSoviet. Ubomi obungenasiphazamiseko, sebenzisa ukususela kusasa kuze kube sebusuku, ujikeleze ezitolo, apho kubalwa izixhobo ezingenanto, ikhitshini, ukuhlola iincwadi zokuzonwabisa kunye neeholide zasehlotyeni kunye ne-trowel ezweni. Ngoko ke, abafazi banamhlanje bafuna ubomi obuhluke ngokupheleleyo. Zineminye imilinganiselo - imisebenzi, amaqela, isondo, impilo, i-pool, njl njl.
  2. Ngeminyaka engamashumi amathathu, ibhinqa eliye lafikelela kwisikhundla kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo lifumana imali engaphezulu. Uneshedyuli yobomi esisiseko, ukutya kunye nokugcinwa komyalelo wendlu. Kwaye loo mfazi ucinga ngengqiqo yokuba akukho maninzi abantu abaya kusinda kulo. Fumana kwi-metropolis yomntu oza kubelana nawe ngendlela enzima ngayo. Kodwa makhe sibone kancane ngaphesheya. Okokuqala, ubomi bwanamhlanje buhluke kakhulu kowethu oomama. Ukuthenga ukutya akuyona ingxaki nangaliphi na ixesha lemini, isamba esikhulu sempahla yasendlini, esenza ngokugqibeleleyo imisebenzi yobabinikazi nabapheki. Ukongezelela, izixhobo zendlu zilawulwa ngokupheleleyo kwaye amadoda ngokwawo. Ngaloo ndlela, xa ubunzima bomi buphelile, kuya kuba lula ukufumana umntu oza kubelana nobomi bakho nawe. Ngoko jonga ngokukhawuleza, kwaye uya kufumana umntu oza kukuxabisa ukuphishekela umsebenzi wakho.
  3. Esinye isizathu, esichazwe ngabasetyhini abangatshatanga, ukuphangwa kwesigxina sesigane sabantu banamhlanje ngesondo. Abayithandi, kodwa yenza uthando emini. Kwaye thina bafazi sifuna ukuthandana, ubuhlobo obuhle, ukujonga iimvakalelo. Kodwa, maye, amadoda ayeka ukunqoba abafazi. Ewe kunjalo, kodwa kufuneka uqonde ukuba awukwazi ukudlala ubudlelwane, kodwa kufuneka ube nguwe. Bonke abafazi bahlukileyo kwaye ngamnye unomlingani wakhe kwaye ngamnye kuloo mntu uya kuba ngummangali wakho. Kuyaziwa ukuba ama-50% wamadoda athetha umfazi kumntu, kungekhona isigqila.
  4. Khumbula amagama avela kwingoma "kunzima kubantombazana abavela kuluntu oluphezulu ukuba baphephe bodwa" Kutheni? Le ntombazana iphumelele idilesi yegolide esuka kwisikolo kwaye ineminyaka engamashumi amabini anesibhozo inamadiploma kwiiyunivesithi ezidumileyo, iyazi iilwimi ezintlanu kwaye isebenza kwibhanki enkulu, kwaye enye iyafumana indlu kwiidolophu zaseMoscow. Intombazana enjalo ngeveki isebenza eYurophu kwaye ingatshatanga ngexesha elinye. Unomntu ovulekileyo olwalamano, kodwa into ayifaki ukunyuka kwiintloko. Uvakalelwa kukuba inkosikazi namadoda bayibona, kodwa akusiyo wonke umntu onokukwazi ukufumana loo nto yokunethezeka. Kodwa emva kwakho konke, uthando aluyithengi yentengiso yakho, kodwa umntu othanda ngokwenene, uyathanda kuphela. Kwaye uqala ukwesaba nokukhangela isizathu esithile. Emva koko ubalekele emsebenzini. Imisebenzi ibaluleke kakhulu, kodwa awukwazi ukuhamba ngonaphakade kwiimvakalelo zakho uze uhlehlise ubuhlobo obusemva.
  5. Amantombazana amaninzi ayesaba ukuzibandakanya kunye nolwalamano olusondeleyo kunye nomlingane. Banoyika nje ukushiywa, bethengwa. Bayika ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwabo. Ngokuziphatha kwabo babonisa ukuba abayena mntu, ukuba bakhululekile kwaye bazimeleyo. Ngoko ke, kukho ukuxabana, ukuthengwa nokuphulwa kobudlelwane. Sisiphi isizathu? Mhlawumbi usapho apho intombazana yayakhula khona, yasinda ekuqhawuleni umtshato kwabazali bakhe okanye yena ngokwakhe wayenothando olungapheliyo ebusheni bakhe, ukunyeliswa nokudumala. Yingakho ebudlelwaneni uzama ukubamba amandla ngaphandle kokuziva. Kwaye ungesabi ukukhohliswa, ufanele uphile, nokuba yintoni eyenzeka kamva, ukuzisola ngamathuba alahlekileyo.
  6. Abasetyhini banamhlanje, balondolozwe kwaye baphumelele ebomini. Banoyika kakhulu ukulahlekelwa ukuzimela kwabo. Abafazi abanjalo bahlala begcina umgama olwalamano kunye nendoda kwaye banyanzeliswa ukuba bahlale bebonisa ukulingana ngokwesini. Yena ngokwakhe unkosikazi kwaye enye imeko ayamkeli. Kwakhona, isizathu salo mkhuba ebuntwaneni. Kubonakala ukuba kwakukho abazali abafuna kakhulu, ingakumbi uyise. Kwaye kummandla omdala, ukufumana inkululeko, ngoku uyika ukulahlekelwa nguye. Wayengacingwa njengomntwana, kodwa ngoku akabalanga nabani na. Kule meko, kufuneka sijonge ngenyameko, simele sizame ukuqonda ukuba ingxaki enkulu ayikho kubantu abakujikelezile, kodwa kuwe.

Ewe, ngobomi bwanamhlanje ibhinqa ibonakala ingadingi indoda. Ukuzimela kwemali kukuvumela kwaye kugqoke, kwaye kukuzonwabisa. Ukuba ufuna isondo, fumana umthandi, unako ukuzala ngokuchithwa kokufakelwa. Ngaba ufuna umntu? Kuye kuwe. Kodwa kufuneka sikhumbule ukuba ngamnye umfazi, nantoni na ayithethayo, ufuna intsapho. Ngoko musa ukuyeka kwaye yonke into iya kuvela! Kwaye makatsho ukuba kunzima kubantombazana abasuka kuluntu oluphakamileyo ukuba bangabi yedwa!