Ubomi obuthandayo ngaphandle kokuqonda ukuba oku akuwona msebenzi olula kwaye ongawubongi. Le yinkqubo enzima kunye nexesha elide lokuphanda umphefumlo nomvakalelo. Kwaye indlela yokuphila nganye iya kuba yodwa kunye nayo.
Ngamnye wethu uphuma kwizinto ezingaziwa kwaye uya kwizinga elingaziwa, umsebenzi wethu uya kuba ukwenza uhambo olutshani olunemibala kwaye luzele uthando. Into ephambili akuyikoyika kwaye uqiniseke ngamakhono akho, ukulahla ukwesaba, utyumle imibala eqaqambileyo, ungahlali kwisihlwele esixakekileyo sokuzihlukanisa kunye nobudenge. Uzibuza ukuba kutheni izinto zihamba kakuhle, imali ayinakwanele nantoni na, umkhuhlane uphatyathwa yintloko, leyo engaphelelanga, inika iilonda okanye i-colitis? Uluhlu lweehluleka, kubonakala ngathi aluyi kupheliswa. Ulungile. Kodwa kutheni kuphelile xa ungenzi nto? Nokuba into elula kukuba uzithande wena nobomi bakho njengoko kunjalo.
Makhe sicinge malunga nokudibanisa kweengcamango ezininzi eziza kukunceda ukuba uqonde ukuba akukho nto iyanzima kwaye iyingozi xa uziqonda.
Ngokuphila kunye nokufa
Cinga rhoqo malunga nokufa. Ukuze uqalise ubomi obuqhelekileyo, ngokuqinisekileyo, kwaye ungazichukumisi ekudakaleni. Kwaye okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuhlala kungekhona njengoko bephila ngaphambili, kunye ne-netak, njengoko wonke umntu akwenzayo. Ukuhlala ngokwenene, ukusebenzisa amathuba akho 100%.
Kuhle kangakanani ukuba ubomi abukho ngaphandle komhlobo othembekileyo wokufa. Kubonakala ngathi akunakwenzeka, ukunyamekela, akukho ukufa. Yintoni eya kuba yintsikelelo enkulu ukuba kwakungekho ekufeni? Ngokuvumelana ngokuvisisanayo, bahluke kakhulu, bafanelekile. Cinga ngokucacileyo ukuba i-onikak imida emibini okanye iibhanki zenzolontye, ephakathi kwezinto eziza kuthetha ukuthatha ukufumana ubomi obungunaphakade.
Yintoni elala, kwaye ungathini ukuba ufumane enye yezinto ezigqithiseleyo? Uninzi lwabantu bangaphakathi, nangona lubukeka luqhelekileyo. Amehlo aqhekekileyo, amehlo angenanto kunye nobuso obungabonakaliyo bubungqina obuchanekileyo. Kuzo, ubomi bucimekile, umoya ophinda utshabalalise le mi phefumlo awukwazi ukungena kwigobolondo yensimbi. Xa umoya onothando awukwazi ukufikelela kuwe, yonke into iyaphila kwaye inhle iqala ukufa.
Kanye njengoko kukho ubudlelwane obuqilileyo phakathi kobomi nokufa, kwaye kungabikho ukwahlukana, kukho uthando kunye nobomi. Ukuze siphile kwaye singazi ukuba luphi uthando - esele lufile, lo lukarhulumente xa umntu engafuni ukuphuma ebhedeni ekuseni kwaye akafuni ukuya kulala ngedini, ukuhlangabezana nokuphuma kwelanga nokubona ilanga.
Ngaloo mzuzwana kukho ukungabikho kokugqiba konke kwaye ixesha lokufa kwangempela liza, apho ukufa kwangokwenyama kuyingozi ngakumbi.
Ubuhlungu budala ubomi kunye nothando ngaye.
Ubomi bunzima. Xa sizalwa, sibuhlungu xa sife, sibuhlungu kakhulu, asifuni ukuthanda, kuba sinoyiko lokuva iintlungu. Ngezenzo ezinjalo sinoyika nje ukuhlala. Kancinci ngokuzibophelela ngecocoon kwiingxaki zokubandezeleka, ukuguqula kwizifo, ukuhluleka, iintlungu, kunye nentlungu.
Asimele senze i-sootvosprinimat ngeenxa zonke, kufuneka sifunde ukuhlala okwangoku kwaye sithathe into eyenzekayo ngentliziyo evaliweyo kwaye ngaphandle kokulahla koyiko. Omnye kufuneka afunde ukuba angesabi ukuvakalelwa. Ubomi bunemvakalelo, bonke ubomi ngumjikelezo wokuhleka, ukudana, ukudana, iinyembezi, ukudideka kunye nemihlali. Uhleka, ngoko uhlala, uyakhala - usaphila, unokuziva, kwaye oku kubaluleke ngaphezu kwanoma yini enye. Yamkela yonke into eyenzeka ngentloko ephakamileyo, uthathe ubomi ngeengalo ezivulekileyo kwaye ubone ukuba umkhwa wokuguqula ubomi ube yingxaki eqhubekayo iya kukushiya ngonaphakade. Kwaye kuya kuba neentsuku eziliqela ezizaliswe uvuyo ekupheleni.
Asiyena mntu de sifunde indlela yokuthanda ubomi
Ewe, sinokwenziwa okufutshane kunye nemibuzo ebuhlungu, kwaye siya kwenza izigqibo ezifanelekileyo kunye kunye nokuzuza ngokuzithandayo thina nobomi. Kubantu abanobunzima kakhulu nabakhohlisayo, makhe sizame ukubonisa imizekelo yeenzuzo zolu luthando kungekuphela kwethu, kodwa uluntu lonke.
Makhe sikhumbule ukuba zininzi iinkolelo umama azinalo kuye, zingaphi zazo eziphakathi kwethu ngoku, zingaphi ezinye eza kuzalelwa. Ubomi babo ngumsebenzi. Iinjongo kukusinceda ngamaxesha anzima nemiphefumlo yethu. I-physicists, amakhemikhali, i-biologists, iingoma, oogqirha, oonjiniyela, ootitshala, abahloli kunye nabaqambi. Bonke babethanda ubomi ngokuchanekileyo, kwaye baqonda kakuhle indlela abanye abangazange bathande ngayo, kuba ubuninzi bezinto zonke ezilungileyo babeniswa kuyo ukuze baqakatheke abantu ababuhlungu kakhulu. Oogqirha baye baba kwaye baqhubeka befuna unyango lwexinzelelo kunye neengxaki zeentloni, esizifumanayo ngokungazithandi ubomi. Abaqambi badala entsha kunye nokuphucula oko kufumanekayo ukuze sikwazi ukuvuya ubuncinane izinto ezincinci, kuba asiyiqondi indlela esinikwe ngayo ukususela xa sasiqala ukubona ihlabathi.
Uthando entliziyweni
Kufuneka ukhunjulwe ukuba isibambiso esiphezulu sokuvisisana nehlabathi sibonakaliso esifanelekileyo entliziyweni yakho. Umzekeliso wasendulo, kulo mzekelo, uya kunceda ukuqonda amagama.
Ukudlula i-oasis encinci entlango, le nsizwa yagqiba ukujonga apho kwaye isiphuze amanzi. Indoda endala yayihleli emgodleni wamanzi, kwaye, ekudakaleni, le nkwenkwe yaqala ukubuza malunga nabantu abahlala phi apha. Xa ebuzwa yile mfana, umdala waphendula umbuzo othi: "Yintoni abantu abahlala kuyo kwindawo ohlala kuyo ngaphambili?". Ngaphandle kokucinga, loo nto yaxelela bonke ngo-tehlyudyah, apho asandula khona. Bachaza abo babantu abanobubi nabangendawo, baxelele indlela abaxoxe ngayo kunye nomona. Emva koko umdala wamqinisekisa ukuba uya kubafumana abantu abanjalo kule ndawo ye-oasis. Ngaloo mini, enye insizwa eyadlula i-oasis yayibingelela kwaye yabuyela kumntu omdala ngombuzo ofanayo, apho, njengakudala, indoda endala yathi: "Yaye nawaphi abantu abahlala kuyo?" Le nsizwa enobuhlungu nosizi emehlweni akhe yatsho indlela abantu ababenokuphila ngayo ngaphambili, ukuba babenomdla kangakanani nabo bonke abantu kunye nokuba banobuhlobo kangakanani. Ukumomotheka, indoda endala yaqinisekisa ukuba iya kubafumana abantu abafanayo apha.
Umfana othile, owayesela amanzi yonke imini, evile iintetho ezimbini, wabuza ngokumangaliswa ukuba unokunikela njani iimpendulo ezahlukileyo kumbuzo ofanayo. Emva kokucinga, ukudala-intliziyo yethu yindalo emangalisayo, sibona kuphela into esiyenzayo. Umntu akakwazi ukufumana nantoni elungileyo naphi na, ukuba akakwazi ukufumana indawo enjalo kuyo yonke indawo ayifakile.
Sivame ukuva ukugqitywa kwehlabathi ekupheleni. Abantu abasabalalisa oku, babone ubumnyama kuphela apho baqobo baya khona. Kodwa ukuba ukholelwa enye ingqiqo, u-Einstein owaziwayo-akukho ubumnyama kuzo zonke, ubumnyama bukhona nje ukungafi. Kulo, ukukhanya kukuthando. Ukudla konke, okungenamkhawulo, onobubele kunye nodumo.
Uthando oluphela kuphela kwihlabathi luphela kuphela. Kwaye ngelixa liphakathi kwethu, nje ngokuba likhona, kukho ubomi.