Isingqisho sesimo sangoku sishiya uphawu lwayo kwimpilo yethu yomzimba kwaye ingakumbi yengqondo. Ukuxinezeleka okungapheliyo. Ukungabi nesikhathi sokuphumla okufanelekileyo. Iingxaki kwintsapho nasemsebenzini. Kukunzima ukujamelana nale ngxaki. Nangona unxibelelwano nentombazana aluncedo kakhulu kule meko. Apha ufuna udweliso lwenzululwazi. Ngokufanayo - isazi sengqondo seengcali.
Asinakuze sitshutshise ukuba kunxibelelana kangakanani kunye nengcali yeengqondo kunokukwenza lula ubomi. Akukho intetho ngentliziyo-ntliziyo ayikwazi ukusinceda kakhulu ngokusebenza kunye neengcali. Kwi-arsenal ye-psychologist yezobuchwepheshe, isenzo esisityebi. Wayevela kwiimeko ezahlukahlukeneyo waza waphula indlela efanelekileyo yokunceda izigulane kwiimeko ezithile. Ukongeza, i-psychologist enomdla unomdla kumava osebenza naye kwaye uyamkela okulungileyo.
Musa ukukhawuleza ukulungisa ummelwane wakho ngentliziyo yakho. Ewe, ukuba unokufumana umntu ukuba akhale kwisibambiso sakho, kuya kuba lula kuwe. Kodwa kuphela nje ixesha. Iimeko ezibuhlungu ziya kubuya kwakhona. Ukuze kulungiswe ukulinganisela kwengqondo, amanyathelo okukhawuleza ayadingeka. Khumbula ukuba uxinzelelo aluyiyo ingcamango engabonakaliyo, kodwa imeko ephazamisayo yomzimba. Kwaye ngaphandle kokuncediswa kwengcali yeengqondo ukufumana ngokuzeleyo akukwazi ukubala.
Kwintshona, ukutyelela kwesazi sengqondo kuqhelekile, njengathi nathi-ukutyelela i-hairdresser. Abantu baseYurophu nabaseMelika bayasebenza "kwingundoqo". Kwaye ukuba isazi sezengqondo asizange sincede, abayi kuhlawula imali eninzi kwiinkonzo zabo. Ngoko ke, kuyafaneleka ukufunda kumava abo.
Elizweni lethu, abantu abaninzi baninzi baya kubagizi beengqondo ukuze bancede. Iinkonzo zabo azincinci. Yaye akukho ndlela yobugcisa inokulimaza. Ngako oko kubaluleke kakhulu ukukhetha i-psychologist. Iingcali zengqondo, lo luhlobo lwe-manipulator. Emva kokungena kwisithemba kumgulane, unokuyichaphazela ingqalelo yakhe, afune ukuba enze izigqibo kunye nezenzo.
Ngoko ungakhetha njani i-psychologist esifanelekileyo kwaye ungayi kuhlaselwa kumkhwabanisi?
I-psychologist ikhethwe ngendlela efanayo nogqirha ukhethwa. Naluphi na irejista enayo, kwintlanganiso yokuqala uvavanya kwinqanaba le-intuitive. Yaye ukuba awuyithandi into ethile, mhlawumbi kufuneka ufune enye ingcali. Kwengqondo, ngokungabikho ndawo, kufuneka ube nomnxibelelwano othembekileyo phakathi kwakho kunye nengcali yeengqondo. Emva kwakho konke, kuya kufuneka uthembele kuye ngohlobo oluhle kunye nolunzima.
Ukuba unqobe ubandlululo kwaye wagqiba ekubeni uphendule kwiingcali, ungaba luvila ukucela abahlobo kunye nabo osebenza nabo. Mhlawumbi umntu useleva elihle ngoncedo lengcali yeengqondo kwaye unokuncoma udokotela othile. Oku kukusindisa ixesha elininzi kunye neentsholongwane.
Ukuba ufumana ingcali ngokwakho, unganqikazi ukufumanisa malunga neziqinisekiso zakhe ngokubanzi. Okokuqala, kufuneka abe ne-diploma. Buza uhlobo luni lwemfundo kunye nolwazi oluthile. Akunakwenzeka ukuba umntwana wengqondo yengqondo uza kunceda umfazi osekhulile ngobuchule.
Ngethuba lokunxibelelana, kufuneka uqaphele ngesithembiso seziphumo ezikhawulezayo. Kwi-psychotherapy, naziphi na iziqinisekiso azifanelekanga. Kwakhona kufuneka uqaphelwe ngumnqweno weengcali ukuba "wazi kangcono". Uqhagamshelwano lomntu siqu luphawu lohlobo olungenzi nzuzo. Ngokuqinisekileyo, awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho, kodwa ke kufuneka ufune enye ingcali yeengqondo. Ngendlela, ezininzi iifilimu zidutshulwa kule sihloko.
Iimpawu zengozi zibandakanya umnqweno wokubeka ifilosofi kuwe. Kwakhona uzama ukukuncenga ukuba usebenze kwiqela (ngaphandle kokuba kuyimbuzo yokuphatha i-social phobia). Ingcali ye-psychologist ngokungalunganga ekuphishekeleni inzuzo inenzuzo yokwamkela abathengi abaninzi ngexesha elingaphantsi.
Iingcali zeengqondo kufuneka zisebenzisane kunye neengcinga kunye neempawu zonqulo. Ukuba unqwenela ukholo, engazi ngesimo sakho sengqondo kwinkolo, mhlawumbi unomququzeleli wecawa.
Ingcali yengqondo ayikho ugqirha. Njengomthetho, unemfundo ephakamileyo ebantwini. Akufanele asebenzise amayeza. Musa ukudibanisa isazi senzululwazi kunye nesifo sengqondo kunye nesifo sengqondo. Ingcali yengqondo iza kukunceda, ukuba unomdla ongapheliyo, urhulumente ogxininisekile, ukuxhatshazwa kwezakhiwo. Ukuba awunalo ubudlelwane kwintsapho okanye emsebenzini. Ukuba ufuna uncedo kumntwana wakho.
Ingcali yesifo sengqondo kunye neengqondo zengqondo zinezemfundo ephezulu. Bayazi kakuhle iindlela zomzimba zomsebenzi we-psyche kunye nokusetyenziswa kwamachiza kunyango. Kuyimpazamo ukucinga ukuba izifo zengqondo ziphatha nje abantu abangaqhelekanga ngokwengqondo. Baya kunceda umntu onenkxwaleko engapheliyo, enokukhathazeka okukhulu, imiqathango ekhuselekileyo, enzima kunye nama-phobias ahlukeneyo. I-psychotherapist inolwazi olunzulu lweengqondo kunye neengqondo. Usebenza kunye namatyala anzima kakhulu. Emsebenzini wakhe unokusebenzisa i-hypnosis yokukhanya kunye nemidlalo yokudlala indima. I-therapist inceda ukujamelana neengxaki ezinzima kakhulu ezinxulumene nodlova, ukulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo, osindayo kwentlekele okanye ingozi. Ngoko ke, sigqibo malunga naluphi uncedo oluthile olufunekayo.
Unako ukwazi inani elikhulu le-psychotechnics, usebenze ngesigama, kodwa ube ngumsizi weengqondo. Ukuba ingcali engazange isombulule iingxaki zakhe, yayikhathele ngabantu, yayingavumi ukuvelana nokuqonda iingxaki zabanye, ngoko uncedo lwakhe lwaluya kuba lukhulu.
Kwakhona kuyafaneleka ukuthobela ingqalelo yomsebenzi womsebenzi weengqondo. Ubungcali kufuneka buye kumthengi, kwaye ungamnquli, umxelele oko umthengi ufuna ukuva. Le ngongoma ebalulekileyo. Ukuba umntu uxelelwa ngaphezu kokuba ulungele ukuqonda, uya "zivalela egoboleni" okanye ukwesaba. Ukuba uthetha ngaphantsi - uya kushiya iofisi ngovakalelwa kukuba isazi sezengqondo asikwazi ngokwaneleyo. Futhi uthembele kule shishini kubaluleke kakhulu. Mhlawumbi, ithemba ukuba yiphilisi ephezulu yokubuyiswa kwengqondo yakho.
I-Psychology yinto yomgugu. Kwaye ukulindela ukuba emva kokutyelela kwelinye ingcali zonke iingxaki ziza kulungiswa ngokwabo, musa. Kufuneka usebenze ngamabini. Emva koko, isazi sezengqondo, ngokungafani nogqirha, asiyiki iyeza, emva koko uza kuziva ungcono. Kufuneka ulungele ukuba loo ntsebenziswano ngumsebenzi onzima kwaye onzima.