Ingaba yintoni-ukugqithisa ngakumbi kunye nokuzimela okuyimfihlo okanye, ngokuchaseneyo, isheke, mhlawumbi nokuba ukhangele?
Kwimibuzo yeso sizathu umfana uzisa intombazana kubahlobo bakhe, impendulo elula neyiyo, mhlawumbi ayikho. Emva koko, bonke abantu bahluke kakhulu. Kwaye abahlobo bahluke. Kukho ubuhlobo besilisa kwiminyaka emininzi, kukho intsebenziswano, njengoko bethethayo, kwimicimbi yequmrhu, oko kukuthi, ubudlelwane obuqinileyo, kwaye kukho ubuhlobo obungqalileyo - ukuxoxa, ukuhleka. Ngoko kubalulekile ukucinga ukuba ngubani umfana wakho ofuna ukukuzisa. Ukususela kwimpendulo yombuzo obonwayo, izizathu zokuba nolwazi olunokwenzeka nabahlobo bomntu othandayo luya kuxhomekeka. Ngoko, makhe sibone ukuba kutheni umfana ezisa intombazana kubahlobo bakhe.
- Abahlobo abasondeleyo. Ukuba umfana wakho ufuna ukukuqhelana nomhlobo wakhe osondeleyo (mhlawumbi nokuba kunye nobabini, emva koko, akukho baninzi abahlobo abasondelene nabo), ngoko, mhlawumbi, uthetha ngobukhulu beenjongo zakhe kuwe. Olu lwazi, njengokuba kunjalo, lungenisa kwisangqa sabantu abasondele kumntu. Akungabazeki, oku kuwuphawu lokuthembela kuwe. Uthandekayo wakho uthi: "Ube sisondele kakhulu kum, ndiyakuxabisa kakhulu njengabahlobo bam kunye nabanamthembayo, ndilungele ukuthemba wena"!
Ukuqhelanisa nesangqa sahlobo olusondeleyo kunokukhokelela kwimiphumo eyahlukileyo. Umhlobo ophumelelayo kunye nombono othabisayo oya kwenzayo ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuphakamisa isimo sakho emehlweni enkwenkwe yakho. Emva koko, iya kuthetha ngokumthanda kwakhe kwaye iqinisekise kuphela ukuchaneka kokukhetha kwakhe. Kakade, uluvo lwabahlobo abasondeleyo lubalulekile kuye. Ukongeza, isiphumo esihle salolu qhelwano, ngokungathandabuzekiyo, siya kuphazamisa ubuhlobo bakho. Mhlawumbi ngoku uya "kuba ngumhlobo kunye neentsapho" kunye nomntu ovela kumhlobo wakho, ukuba uthethe ngokusondeleyo, uye kutyelela, njl. Ngako oko, longeza isangqa sakho solwazi, kwaye, mhlawumbi, luya kuthintela ngandlela-thile nendlela yakho yobomi.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, kodwa kwenzeka ukuba, ngokuchaseneyo, le ntombazana yayingasondelanga imimandla esondelene nayo, kodwa iyaqhubeka idibana nayo. Ukuba oku kwenzeka kuwe, kuya kufuneka ukuba akhethe - nokuba ngabahlobo bamandulo, okanye abathandekayo. Njengomthetho, kwimeko enjalo, amandla eemvakalelo ihlolwe malunga nentombazana. Umfana uya kuhlala kunye nawe xa echaphazelekayo kwaye akazimisele ukutshintsha izicwangciso zakhe nangenxa yabahlobo abasondeleyo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo abahlobo abasondeleyo bendoda kwimibandela ephambili bayamanyaniswa naye. Akusiyo into yokuba bagcine ubudlelwane obusondeleyo, bethemba iminyaka emininzi, balungele ukuncedana, xa kunyanzelekile, kwaye balungele ukuthembela komnye nomnye. Zinezinto ezifanayo, ngaphandle koko, zithemba ukhetho lomhlobo.
- Osebenza nabo. Ngokuqhelekileyo kunye neli qela labahlobo abafana nabo xa aba bahlobo nabo bebahlobo. Ekubeni wena kunye nomthandayo wakho esebenza kwelinye iqili, kwaye ubuhlobo bakho naye bufumana kuphela umlingana wenveli. Kule meko, uvela phambi koogxa bakho emsebenzini njengokuba kwindawo entsha.
Kwimeko yokuqala, umnqweno wokuziqhelanisa unokuba neenjongo ezahlukeneyo. Oku kunokuba ngumnqweno wokugodola phambi koogxa bakhe abakhethiweyo (ukuqhayisa ngobuhle bakhe, umkhwa). Ngaloo ndlela, indoda inokuphakamisa ukulinganisa kwakhe phakathi koogxa (apha, bathi, yintoni intombazana enayo!) Ngokuqhelekileyo, oku akulungile, akubi. Ngokomgaqo, kuyaqondakala ukuba umnqweno wokubonisa isimo sabo somntu kunye nokuzingca kwabo bakhethiweyo. Ukuzikhukhumeza kwamadoda akukhenxwanga okwangoku, kwaye, ngokufanelekileyo, iqabane lakho linokuvuyela ukuva kwiintsebenziswano ezithandekayo malunga nawe. Kodwa ukuba indoda ibonisa intombi yakhe kubalingane, kuphela ukuzibiza, ngokuqinisekileyo uyalahleka emehlweni akho. Mhlawumbi, akanakho nto yokuziqhayisa ngako konke, kwaye oku akusona khetho. Jonga ngokukhawuleza lakho iqabane!
Kwimeko yesibini, indoda yakho ifuna nje ukuvula lonke ulwalamano lwakho. Nanku, xa umfana engenisa intombazana kwakhona, ubonakala ekuboniseni oogxa kwiimeko ezintsha. Oku kunokwenziwa ngethoni encinci, kwaye kakhulu. Kule meko, kuyafaneleka ukuxhasa injongo yendoda. Emva kwakho konke, wena ngokwakho, ngokungathandabuzeki, unomdla wokuba oogxa bakho ababini babonwa njengeqabane. Ngoko udlale kunye nomthandi wakho ukuba uzame ukuxelela ngento edlalwayo!
- Bahlobo. Mhlawumbi oku kukuphela kwenketho, apho unokufumana ukusola okungaphezulu okanye ngaphantsi malunga neenjongo zokwazisa. Ewe, ukuba umfana ufuna ukuba udibane nabahlobo bakhe-abahlobo ukuze ugcine ubudlelwane, uluntu, njl. Kodwa kwenzeka ukuba uqalise intombazana kubahlobo bakhe, umzekelo, ukuhleka ngawe kunye kunye nokuhleka. Enye yeendlela ezimbi kukuziqhelanisa nenjongo yokuziqhayisa ngawe ngenxa yokuphakamisa isimo phakathi kwabahlobo (sathetha ngokufanayo malunga nokuqhelana nabalingane).
Kwenzeka ukuba umnqweno wokuzazisa intombazana kubahlobo bakhe unenjongo yokungabonakali kubo, kodwa ngokuphambene noko. Ngokuqhelekileyo insizwa ifuna nje ukukubonisa indlela ephila ngayo, enokuthetha naye. Mhlawumbi nguye phambi kwakho ebonisa abahlobo bakhe! Mxhase, ndixelele ukuba inkampani yakhe imthanda kakhulu. Fumana izihloko eziqhelekileyo kwingxoxo, faka isangqa sabo. Ngokukodwa ukuba ayichasani kakhulu nembono yakho ebomini. Khumbula, kubi ngakumbi xa umntu engafuni ukuzisa intombazana kwindawo yakhe. Ngoko, enoba uhlazo okanye unomona omkhulu kwaye yingako efihlakele kubahlobo bakhe, okanye ufihla okuthile kuwe (okanye omnye umntu). Mhlawumbi udlala umdlalo obini? Musa ukucola ngolo hlobo! Ubudlelwane naye abuyi kuzisa uvuyo, kwaye amandla kunye nexesha baya kuthathwa kakhulu. Khangela umntu oya kuthembela wena kunye neminqweno yabo, kunye nabahlobo babo, mhlawumbi, andiyi kuva noxolo ngenxa yokuphila ngokuzonwabisa ngonaphakade. Kwaye, kufuneka uvume, ininzi!