Umbuzo wukuthi: unokwenzeka njani ukuba inkonzo yothando, ukuba indoda kunye nentombazana isebenza kunye, ingaba nefuthe okanye ifuthe kakubi kumsebenzi womntu. Ewe, ukuba usondele kufuphi nomthandi wakho phantse iiyure ezingama-20 ngosuku, kuhle kwaye uthanda. Kodwa, ngokuqhelekileyo, le ntliziyo ivela kuphela ngexesha lokuqala. Inyani kukuba abantu abathandekayo badinga amaxesha ngamanye amaxesha ukuba baphumule. Kungekudala okanye kamva, ngaphakathi kwebini, iingxaki ezahlukeneyo zekhaya ziqala. Xa bobabini intombazana kunye nentombazana beya kusebenza ngokwahlukileyo, banokuphumla komnye nomnye, bacinge kwakhona imeko, benze izigqibo baze baxoxe ngokukhawuleza ngale ngxaki. Kodwa, kwenzeka ntoni xa isibini esiza kusebenza kunye? Baqhubeka behamba baze bathukuthelane. Kakade, oku kuchaphazela umkhiqizo wabo kwaye kubangela ubundlobongela kubaphathi babo. Yingakho, abantu abaninzi bezoshishino ababi kakhulu malunga neenveli eziphakathi kwabasebenzi. Kodwa, ngakwelinye icala, akukho mntu unokubanqanda abantu ukuba bathande. Kungenxa yoko, iireveli ezisemthethweni zikhona nakwiindawo zokuqokelela, apho zivinjelwe ngummiselo wangaphakathi.
Kutheni abantu bebathandana emsebenzini? Mhlawumbi inyaniso kukuba abasebenzi abaninzi abanakufumana ixesha lokuhlangana ngaphandle kweofisi. Ngeveki-ntsuku, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, kunxibelelana kunye nezihlobo, abahlobo abadala okanye ukuphumula ekhaya. Ngoko ke, isangqa sabantu abanokuthi bangabonwa njengento yokuvalelwa yothando, ngokunciphisa kakhulu. Abantu abancinci kunye nabesifazane abaqapheli baqala ukubheka ngokukhawuleza abo bahamba ngqo nabo. Kwiqela elilodwa, abantu baneengxaki ezifana neemfuno. Siyabulela oku, ukunxibelelana phakathi koogxa kubangqina kakhulu kwaye kunokuhlakulela ubuhlobo obusondeleyo. Ewe, kuyona nto ibhetele xa uthando luphuka phakathi kwabantu abalinganayo kwisimo. Emva koko, phakathi kwendoda kunye nentombazana ayikho iimbambano, nto leyo ingabangela umona wobugcisa. Enyanisweni, kubonakala nje ukuba uthando luyabhubhisa zonke iimvakalelo ezinjalo. Enyanisweni, abantu abanobukroti abanesimo esahlukileyo, kunzima kakhulu ukudibanisana kunye nokwamkela ukuba umntu omthandayo wenza okungaphezulu kunako. Yaye nangona ekuqaleni kobudlelwane, akunakuthandabuzeki, ngokuhamba kwexesha, izinto zitshintshe ngakumbi. Ewe, umntu akakwazi ukuthetha ukuba lo ngumgaqo kwaye ngoko kwenzeka kwiimeko ezilikhulu ukusuka kwekhulu. Kukho abantu abangabalulekanga ukuba intsapho ibaluleke ngaphezu kwekharityhulam kunye nesifiso. Bayazinqabisa ukunyamezela umthandi ophumelele kwaye bahlale emthandweni nasekuqondeni iminyaka emininzi. Kodwa ukuba akunjalo, kukufanele uqikelele ngaphambi kokuba uqale ukwakha ubuhlobo obunjalo kunye noqabane wakho.
Olunye uhlobo lweentsebenziswano zothando phakathi komsebenzi kukuthandana phakathi komphathi (boss) kunye nabangaphantsi (phantsi). Kule meko, ubudlelwane obunjalo bubangela ukuhleka, okuchaphazela kakubi ubudlelwane kwiqela. Kukho imeko xa umphathi okanye umqeshi etshatile. Emva koko, kwiqela elihle liqala ukuphazamisa igunya lomntu obambe isikhundla esiphambili. Kakade ke, iireveli ezinjalo aziqhelekanga, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo azivelisi nto enhle kwaye kunokubangela ukugxothwa komntu ophantsi okanye ophantsi. Kodwa, nangona ulwalamano luqala phakathi kwabantu abakhululekileyo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwiqela elinxulumene nolwalamano olunjalo kunzima ukuqonda. Sekunjalo, umona wabantu awuzange ukhanselwe. Phakathi kwabasebenzi, kwaye, ngokukodwa, abasebenzi, kuya kubakho abo baya kuxoxa ngazo zonke iinkcukacha zorveli kwinqanaba kwaye bafike ngeempawu zabo. Ngaloo ndlela, iqela lisetyenziswe ngokubhekiselele kubini. Abantu baqala ukubona izinto ezingenakwenzeka. Ngokomzekelo, amalungelo afunyenwe ngumntu osebenza naye olamano olusondeleyo kunye nabasemagunyeni, ukucalulwa kwabanye abasebenzi kunye nokunye okunjalo. Ukuba iintlobo ezinjalo zigcinwa ziyimfihlo, akukho nto iyenzekayo. Kwaye kwimeko xa iphumelela ukufihla, kungekudala, ngokuphindaphindiweyo, ngebini, ukungaboni ngaso lucala. Inyaniso yinto yokuba kunzima ukuzinqanda nokuzilawula rhoqo malunga neminithi, ukwenzela ukuba abantu baqikelele ngeemvakalelo zakho, ngokwamazwi nangembono. Ukuxhatshazwa kweengxaki rhoqo kunokubangela uxinzelelo kunye nokudandatheka. Kakade ke, kule meko kukho ukungabikho. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu kumaqela amancinci kunye ahlangeneyo, apho kungekho ukuhlukana kakhulu kwiibhloko. Xa wonke umntu angazibonakalisa kwaye ufumana umvuzo ofanelekileyo wokuziphatha kunye nemali kule nto, eyanelisa iinjongo, ubuncinane bebonke bubonakala bubonakala kunobunye ubudlelwane babantu. Kodwa, ngelishwa, akukho baninzi abaqokelelwayo, kwaye ngokubanzi, akukho phantse iimeko ezinjalo.
Owona "ophilileyo", mhlawumbi, unokuthiwa yimboveli phakathi kwabantu abahlala ezikhundleni eziphezulu. Kule meko, ukhuphiswano alukho njengaye. Kwaye, ukuba abantu badibene kunye kwaye bengabandezelekanga kwintsapho yabo kwindawo yokusebenzela, ubudlelwane obunjalo bunokuba nefuthe ekuphatheni ishishini, njengokuba abantu bathemba ngokupheleleyo, bahlala bezama ukukunceda nokunceda.
Ukuba senza izigqibo kuzo zonke ezi ngasentla, sinokuthi inokwenzeka yothando lomntu, ukuba indoda kunye nomfazi basebenzisene kunye, ihlala ikhona, kodwa kude kube neempembelelo ezintle. Ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, ngaphambi kokuba uthandane nomnye usebenza naye, kukufanelekile ukucinga ngokucokisekileyo. Kodwa, ngakolunye uhlangothi, sonke siyaqonda ukuba awukwazi ukuyalela intliziyo yakho kwaye ukuba uyayilandela yonke imithetho, ungalahlekelwa luvuyo lwakho. Ngako oko, nangona kukho izilumkiso, mhlawumbi maxa wambi kufuneka wenze izinto ngendlela intuition yakho kunye nomphefumlo wakho uthe ngayo.