Kwihlabathi lanamhlanje, ukuthandana akugcini nje kwisitrato, kwiidemesi, kwiikofu kunye nee-discos. Ngoku abaninzi abantu bafumana izibini kwiintanethi. Yingakho amantombazana ayazibuza ukuba angathanda njani umntu ngokubhala. Emva kwakho konke, xa bengakuboni kwaye bengenakukuthetha nawe, kuhleli nje ukubonisa iingcamango zabo kakuhle.
Akukho mfuneko yokuxoka
Ndingathanda njani umntu ngokubhala, nantoni na into eningayenziyo? Ukuqala, mhlawumbi, kulandela ukusuka kubaluleke kakhulu-ukuba ufuna ukuqhubeka ulwalamano nobomi bwenene, akufanele uxoke kumntu kwaye ucinge ngeengxelo zobuxoki malunga nawe. Kakade ke, yonke intombazana ifuna ukuthanda umfana, ngokuqhelekileyo uqala ukugxininisa iimpawu zabo ezintle. Oku akufanele kwenziwe. Kufuneka uqaphele izibonelelo zakho kunye neentsilelo, ukwenzela ukuba kuwe kule ncwadana awufani nenyani. Ngokwemvelo, intombi nganye ifihle iinyani kwaye idibanisa izinto ezincinci kumfana othanda. Kodwa khumbula ukuba ngokuqinisekileyo kufuneka ukuba yi-trivia. Akuyimfuneko ukuxelela ukuba ungumgqirha wezenzululwazi, ukuba ufunda kuphela ngonyaka wesibini weyunivesithi. Kwaye akukho mfuneko ukuba ubeke imifanekiso yabanye kwi-avatar yakho. Kakade, akuyinyani ukuba loo mntu akazange eze engqondweni ukwenza into efanayo. Nangona kunjalo, ukuba kunjalo, ngoko kwiintlanganiso ulindele kuphela ukudumala kunye mhlawumbi kungekhona ngenxa yokubonakala, kodwa ngenxa yokuvalwa kwebala.
Bhala ngokuchanekileyo
Xa uthetha ngeposi, i-charm yakho kunye nesixhomekeke kuxhomekeke kulokho ubhalayo kwaye njani. Awudingi ukubhalela umfana kwisitayela se "chmaftalaftya, njani i-delifki?". Imfashini kwimibuthano yeshumi elivisayo, kodwa umntu omdala onelanelekileyo akayi kuphendula ngokunyaniseka kolwimi ngokufanelekileyo. Ngendlela, xa uthetha nabantu ngeposi, musa ukulibala ukuba unokugwetywa kunye nokufunda nokubhala. Ngokuqinisekileyo, akukho mntu uya kuqinisekisa i-comma nganye, kodwa ukuba unesiphene sokuqala esicacileyo apho, akunakwenzeka ukuba udlale kuyo.
Musa ukuba ne-abstruse.
Ukunxibelelana nabantu abaselula ngokubhala, amaninzi amantombazana enza impazamo yokuzama ukubonakala ehlakaniphile kwaye efundwa kakuhle. Basebenzisa uguquko olunzulu lwezandi, qalisa phantse ukucaphula ama-classic. Ewe, kuninzi ukwazi kwaye ngeendlela ezininzi ukuqonda - kuhle kakhulu. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukusebenzisa olo lwazi kwindawo. Ukuba unxibelelana nomntu ngokungacwangciswanga, kufuneka ubhalele kuye indlela othetha ngayo ebomini.
Enye impazamo yamantombazana othandekayo kunxibelelwano oluqinileyo kukuzama rhoqo ukufumana izihloko ezikhethekileyo kwingxoxo. Ukuthetha nentombazana kufuneka iqhutywe ngokukhululeka. Ukuba abantu banomdla omnye nomnye kwaye banento yokuthetha ngayo, ke zonke izihloko zengxoxo zivela ngokwazo. Musa ukuhlala ufuna "ukucela" into evela kwiGoogle uze udibanise i-Wikipedia ukuba ufike esinye isihloko. Ukuba ubona ukuba ingxoxo ayicaciswanga, ungenayo iminqweno efanayo kunye nalo mntu kwaye akufuneki ukuthetha. Kule nto akukho nto ikukhathazayo.
Musa ukufunga
Xa uqhuba intetho, zama ukungazisebenzisi umatshini kwaye akudingeki ukuba unikezele imilayezo yakho eninzi yegoggon. Umfana oqhelekileyo akayidingi intombazana efungayo njengomkhumbi. Ngoko ke, nangona unesifiso sokufunga, zama ukuzilawula. Kwaye oku kufanele kwenzeke kwiintlanganiso ezizayo kunye nomfana osemthethweni. Kwimimandla yanamhlanje, abaninzi abafazi baqala ukulibala malunga nendlela yokuziphatha ngayo, kubangelwa ukuba amadoda ayeke ukuwaphatha njengabafazi kwaye aqale ukubona njengama-muzhiks. Yaye ukuba ufuna ngokwenene ukukholisa umntu, oko akunakuvunyelwa nakweyiphi na imeko.
Abantu abaninzi bacinga ukuba unxibelelwano olungqalileyo alubopheli nantoni na kwaye alupheli nantoni na. Nangona kunjalo, kukho iimeko ezininzi apho abantu bakha imindeni emva kokuba badibene kwilizwe elithe tye. Ukuba ufuna ulwalamano nomfana ukuqeda njengaye, soloko uhlala ngokwakho kwaye ungadluli. Yaye ungakhohlwa ukuba amadoda anjengeentliziyo ezinomdla, ezinobungqina kwaye ezintle zintetho zokunxibelelana.