Ukususela kumaxesha amandulo, ukunyaniseka kwakubonwa njengobungcali obukhethekileyo. Abasetyhini, ababenolwazi olukhulu kulo "msebenzi ocecekisayo wokukhohlisa," bafundisa amantombazana amancinci ukuba banobuqhetseba bale shishini elinobuchule. Ngamhlanje, ngelanga, amaxesha aphakathi okufanayo. Amehlo ahloniphekileyo kunye nezihlathi ezibomvu zihlala kude kakhulu, kwaye kwashiya amacebo, ngoko ke abafazi baqala ukuthetha ngokuvulekileyo ngeemvakalelo zabo kunye neyokuqala ukumema abafana ukuya kutsho.
Uninzi lwezesondo ezinamandla ziyeke ukuthanda le nto, kwaye ngenxa yokuba intombazana kufanele ibe nayiphi na imeko ibe yinto enhle, inesizotha kwaye ibe nemfihlo yayo, efuna ukuyifumana. Ngoko kutheni sifunde izinto ezisemgangathweni zokudlala ngothando kunye nokutyhila imigaqo engundoqo yokwenza udlalana nomntu?
Yintoni edlala ngothando?
Ngoko, qalisa ukuthandana nomntu kusuka kwingcaciso. Ngokudlala ngothando, kuyisiko ukuqonda nayiphi na indlela yokukhangela ingqalelo kwisini esahlukileyo. Ukudlala ngothando kusekelwe ekuvuseleleni umdla kunye nomnqweno wokumazi umntu osondeleyo. Nangona ukuba ukuzithobela ngothando kubuthwa ngokukhawuleza, ngokuqhelekileyo kuba ngumsunguli wobudlelwane obunzulu. Kodwa nje ungathathi ngothando nomntu njengendlela yokumfumana kumadoda, kuba, okokuqala, lo mdlalo, ngenxa yokuba intombazana isoloko ihlala "ngelizwi" kwaye ivakalelwa ngayo.
Izinto ezisisiseko zokudlala ngothando nomntu: phi ukuqala?
Masithi awukwazi ukuthetha nomntu (ongayazi nonke) kwindawo kawonkewonke ngenxa yokuba ukwesaba ukubonwa njengesicathakatha okanye ukunyaniseka emehlweni akhe. Kule meko, okokuqala, kukufanele usebenze ngokwakho, uzama ngazo zonke iindlela zokunqoba ukunyaniseka kwakho. Kule meko, sinokukucebisa indlela enye ephumelelayo: thabatha umgaqo kanye ngosuku ukuze uzame ukuthetha nanoma yimuphi umpasitori ongenako. Emva kwexesha, uya kuqonda ukuba akukho nto inzima kule nto. Kodwa ngenxa yakho, izizathu ezibalulekileyo zokuqala ingxoxo engxamisekileyo: "Ndilapha kule sithili ngethuba lokuqala, awukwazi ukundixelela apho i-service center / beauty salon / ithala leencwadi, njl njl?" Okanye "Andizange ndifike ebhasi, Uyazi ixesha lexesha eliza kufika? "," Ndatsheliwe ukuba kwindawo ethile kule ndawo kukho i-boutique egqibeleleyo ... "
Ngaphandle kokuba incoko yolu hlobo inqanda ukwesaba, kufuneka uhambe ngokukhawuleza kwinqanaba elincomekayo, apho kufuneka ubonise ukukwazi kwakho ukukhokela incoko ngendlela efanelekileyo. Umzekelo, emva kokuphendula umbuzo othi: "Uphi na ikhemisi?" Kunjengokungathi ngengozi, ukuthethelela ukuba "uqhutywe ngapha kwesitalato kwaye ungakufumani." Ngelizwi, gweba nayiphi na ibinzana eliza kuphawula ngesitayela esingaqhelekanga sencoko. Ngexesha apho indoda iya kulungiswa ngayo kule ngxoxo, ngokuqinisekileyo iya kuxhasa lo mdlalo olula. Ewe, ukuba yonke into ayiphumelekanga, musa ukucaphukisa. Uninzi lwabasetyhini abangazi ukuba baqala ukuthandana nomntu olwabelana ngesondo ngokuchaseneyo, banokuzivala nje ngaloo mzuzu, kodwa akufanelekile. Iseluleko sethu kukumomotheka, bulela umhlobo ongaziwayo kwaye uhambe nge shishini labo.
Iingcebiso ezimbalwa zokuqala ukudlala ngothando
Ukuqala ukudlala ngothando kunye nencoko engcolileyo apho kufuneka ubonise njengomntu onomdla kwaye onomdla. Unomdla kumntu. Ngendlela, akufanelekile ukuba unqobe umntu ukuma phambi kwakhe ngomfanekiso wesilingo esibulalayo, ukwanele nje ukubonisa ulwazi lwakho kuzo zonke iinkalo zobomi. Ungalibali ukubuza imibuzo ekhokelayo kunye namazwana ngamagama athethayo. Yiba nesisa ngokuncoma kumntu, kodwa khumbula, kufuneka kubekho umlinganiselo kuyo yonke into. Ngendlela, ungakulibala ukuzibona njengokuba unayo yonke imilinganiselo yakho kunye neentlanzi. Kule meko ungaqala umdlalo wakho ngaphandle komqobo nomntu.
Kwaye, ekugqibeleni, musa ukulibala malunga nesisenzo sokudlala ngothando. Kukunceda kwakhe ngokuqinisekileyo uya kukubetha i-psyche yindoda kwindawo!