Uluntu lwangoku luququzelelwe ngendlela eninzi abantu abahlala bengenawo ixesha lokwenza ubomi babo. Ehlabathini lethu, apho phantse lonke ixesha liya emsebenzini nasemgwaqweni ukuya emsebenzini nasemakhaya, umbuzo uba lukhuni: "Unokuhlangana nani nomfana?"
Kwaye ngelixa siphuthuma ukusebenza okanye ekhaya, asiqapheli inani elikhulu labantu esidibana nabo kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke. Kwaye ngamanye amaxesha, kwaye ujonge iincinci kubantu abancinci, ngenxa yokuba, njengokuba uyazi, mhlawumbi phakathi kwale nombolo enkulu yabantu abangaziwayo kunye kunye kuphela, intlanganiso oye wafuna iminyaka emininzi.
Masibhubhise iimbambano zokuqala ukuba ziqhelane nendoda kwaye intombazana ehloniphekileyo ididekile ukuze ijwayelene nomgwaqo ongaphantsi okanye kwisitalato. Kwili hlabathi lanamhlanje, amantombazana ngeendlela ezininzi kufuneka athembele kuzo, ngoko kutheni ungathathi inyathelo kulo mbandela?
Kodwa ndifuna ukugxininisa: wena ngowokuqala nentombazana, ngoko ke akufanele usebenze ngaphandle kwebala. Emva koko, amantombazana awazi amaqhinga amaninzi malunga nendlela yokumazana nomntu, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo abeka yonke into ekukhanyeni kangangokuthi Wayeqinisekile ukuba iqela lavela kuye, kwaye nguye owenza isinyathelo sokuqala.
Ngoko, zikhona ezinye iingcebiso eziza kukunceda ekuxazululeni ingxaki enikeziweyo: indlela yokuqhelana nomfana kwizithuthi zikawonkewonke?
- Isenzo sokuqala nesilula esiza kukunceda ukwazi ukuba umfana uncumo. Mncumoze kuye, unokwakhela amehlo kuye, kuba ukwesaba okukhulu komntu kukufumana ukwenqaba kwaye yingenxa yokuba abayi kuba ngabokuqala ukuya kwintombazana abayithandayo. Kwaye nawe uhamba ngezithuthi zikawonkewonke okanye esitrato, apho kuhlala kukho abantu abaninzi. Kwaye ukunyanyeka koluntu kunxinzelelo ngakumbi kuye, ngoko mazise ukuba uyamthanda kwaye unethuba. Mthumise kuye, wakhe amehlo. Khumbula ukuba ubuso obunomothekayo buhlala bukhangeleka kwaye bunokwenza umnini wabo abe mnandi kwaye abe mnandi. Ukongeza, lo mfana uya kuqiniseka ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba nguye owambonile kwaye wanquma ukukwazi. Ngokukodwa ukulungelelaniswa kwendlela oya kuyiqonda ngayo, ukuba xa kuthethwe izithuthi zikawonke-wonke, usihlalo okhethiweyo wakho ukhangelene neyakho.
- Indlela yesibini yokuziqhelanisa nokuthutha kunye nomfana kukukhupha kwisihlwele. Yikuphi, ngendlela, akunzima ukuyenza. Ngehora lokukhawuleza, isihlwele esikujikelezayo siyakucindezela ngokukhawuleza kumntu oyithandayo. Khawucinge nje, ngelixa utyhola umnikelo wokuqhumisa weqhumiso kwaye uziva umzimba wakho eduze kwakhe, uphakamise amehlo akho, kwaye uyamamatheka, umkhangele, ubonise ukuba awancedi kwaye adidekile. Bonke abanye baya kuxhomekeka kuyo.
- Ukuba uthutho luvulekile ngokwaneleyo kwaye indlela yesibini ayifanelekile ukuba uqhelane nomntu oyithandayo, ngoko xa usudlula, yenza sengathi uphenduka ngengozi. Kwaye ukuze ungawa, wambamba ngesandla okanye unyathelo lunyawo lwakhe, ngokuqinisekileyo ngethuba ngokwemvelo. Kubaluleke kakhulu ngale ndlela - yindlela yakho yokusabela ngayo imizuzwana yokuqala. Emva kwakho konke, ukuphendulwa kwayo kwendalo kuya kuba yinto engalunganga, kodwa usebenzisa umtsalane wakho, ukumomotheka kwakho, umdla wakho usasazeka. ... Ngoku ubona phambi kwakhe umfokazi omhle. Ewe, kufuneka uxolise ngelixa ukhangele ngqo emehlweni akhe, kwaye ilizwi lakho kufuneka lithe tye. Ukuphendula nokunyamekela. Ndixelele ukuba uyazisola ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba le ngengozi, awuzange uyichukumise.
- Ukuchaphazela ngokuchanekileyo abaqhelana nabo - baphathe amakhadi ezorhwebo nawe. Kuya kusebenza kuzo zonke iinketho ezingentla. Vele ushiye ikhadi lebhizinisini kumntu, ingakumbi ukuba loo mfana akazange alinde ukuza kuwe kuqala, nangona zonke izenzo ozithathileyo.
- Fumana isizathu sokuba uqale incoko. Apha, nakanjani nasiphi na isihloko esifanelekileyo: umculo kumdlali wakhe, incwadi ayifunayo, umzekelo wefowuni yakhe nangaphezulu. Unokubuza umbono wakhe malunga nesihloko kwiphepha lakho, ngokubhekisela kwigunya lakhe, njengamadoda.
- Bonisa uncedo lwakho njengowesifazane, mcele uncedo: vala / vula ifestile, uncede ukubeka izinto zakho kwile shelf phezulu. Into ephambili eyayiqonda ukuba uyayidinga, ngamandla akhe.
- Bonisa isibindi - uye kumntu owakuthandayo ngombuzo ongenamacala: "Ngaba ndiyakwazi ukunyathela kuwe, mhlawumbi ndiloyike ukuwa?" Ngokuqinisekileyo umfana uya kuqonda isenzo esinjalo esibindileyo ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, akafuni ukuvalelwa. Kwaye, le khetho ifaneleke ngakumbi kubafundi.
- Ukuba usendleleni yomgwaqo, unokubuza malunga nokuba yisiphi isiteshi esilandelayo, indlela yokufudukela kwelinye isebe? Konke kuxhomekeke ekucingeni kwakho. Unokuze ucele malunga nonyaka apho uhambo lokuqala oluya eNyangeni lwenzeka khona, owathi wabuyela kuqala kwiCosmos, okanye ixesha elide lamagqabi amhlophe achitha ixesha lawo elingakanani, kunye nexesha elingakanani ixesha elihlala kuyo. Kubalulekile ukuqala ingxoxo. Oku kuya kukuvumela ukuba uhlolisise indlela ahlazileyo ngayo kunye nendlela asabela ngayo kwisimo esingalindelekanga.
- Indlela yokuqala yokudibana nomfana kukufowunela iisms kwifowuni yakho, uze umxelele ukuba ubhale ifowuni yakho. Yithi lo myalezo, ubonakala kuwe, wawujoliswe kuye.
- Kwaye ekugqibeleni. Unokuzenza nje ukuba le akuyona intlanganiso yakho yokuqala kwaye ngoku uzama ukukhumbula apho kwaye ngaphantsi kweziphi iimeko owabonana ngazo. Oku, ukongeza, uya kunika ulwazi malunga nalapho afundisisa khona, yiphi inkampani ayithethileyo kunye nokuba yintoni na ehlwaye ngayo.
Yenyukela kuyo yonke into ngobuchule. Khumbula ukuba ukucinga kwakho kunakho konke, ngoko uyisebenzise kunye nokuhlaziya kweso sihlwele owakuthandayo. Kwaye uhlala uphumelela.
Musa ukulibala ukuba uyintombazana, ukuba uyintle, kwaye ukummotheka kwakho kukwenza ukhanye kwaye kube mnandi. Smile kaninzi ngakumbi. Hlalani kuwesifazana kuzo zonke iimeko. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ungalokothi ulibale - unokudibana nomntu ngisho nakwiindawo ezingalindelekanga. Yaye indlela yokwenza ngayo yikho kwaye ukhethe kuphela.