Isimo esifanelekileyo sokuncoma kwidilesi yakho

Ubabalo lokwenene kumfazi, ngaphezu kweminye into, kukwasemandleni okuphendula ngokufanelekileyo ukudumisa. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uxelelwa kangakanani malunga nendlela ohlakaniphile ngayo, enhle, onetalente, ngamaxesha onke amazwi anjalo azisa uvuyo oluninzi. Kodwa enye yinto yobugcisa bokuphulaphulela ukuncoma, kwaye enye into ukuyivuma. Isimo sengqondo esingalunganga ukuncoma kwidilesi yakho, ivela kubantu abangabonakaliyo. Elizweni lethu, xa banika ukuncoma rhoqo, umntu uhlazo. Kodwa enyanisweni, akufuneki ukuchasa. Ukuba uthembele kuwe, ngoko uthabathe indumiso kwidilesi yakho ngokuzithoba, ngokubulela, kwaye unokubuya uthi "ngiyabonga", wongezelela ngokumomotheka kunye nobukeka obuhle. Kwenzeka ukuba bayamhlonela imbonakalo kwaye yimi kutheni akufanele uxoxe ngempilo embi ngokuphendula. Ukususela kwisimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwiincwadana kwidilesi yakho, kuxhomekeke kuninzi, kubandakanywa nendlela ongakuphepha ngayo iintlobo ezahlukeneyo emva kwakho.
Yintoni incomo? Yaye yintoni isimo esifanelekileyo sokuncoma kwidilesi yakho? Ukunconywa kukubonakalisa ukuncomeka ngumntu oncedisayo ngamazwi ahlukeneyo ngendlela yokudumisa, inceba, ukubetha. Ngoncedo lwayo, ubudlelwane buphuculwe, oonxibelelwano abatsha basungulwa. Ukuze ulungele isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo sokuncoma kwidilesi yakho, kufuneka ukhumbule ukuba akusoloko iintyatyambo ezinikeziwe, ngokubuyiselwa kwakho kufuneka ugijime ngokubanga, oku kunokumothusa umnxibelelwano. Impumelelo yenkomfa ayinciki nje kuphela kumgangatho wamazwi athetha, kodwa nakwiimeko. Intle indumiso kufuneka ibe yinyani. Ukuba awuzange uyithande, unokwenza ukuba awuyiqondi intsingiselo kwaye utshintshele ingxoxo kwenye ishaneli, okanye vumelana nomnxibelelwano. Amanye amadoda acinga ukuba ukutyhalela intombazana ngokuncoma, uya kumphatha kakuhle, kodwa oku kuhambelani, amantombazana amaninzi ayithandi abafana abathandekayo.
Kodwa kukho amadoda angenzi ukuncoma kubo bonke - abayithandi amantombazana anjalo. Ukuncoma kusebenza xa kusemgangathweni xa kuhanjiswa ngokufanelekileyo. Emva koko, oku akusiko nje ukumangaliswa, kodwa ukunyanzela, kwaye ezi zimbambano ezimbini. Xa ukubethelela kuhamba ngamazwi, kha wuleza ucinge ukuba lo mntu ulindele nayiphi na inzuzo evela kuwe. Nangona kunjalo ungazifunda ukwamukela ukunconywa, ngenxa yesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwihlabathi lonke, kwaye, ngokwenene, kunye nazo zonke iingenelo kunye nokuphazamiseka, oko kukuthi, ukuba uzithande ukuba ungubani ngempela.
Kwaye kwixesha elizayo uza kuqala ukubona abantu abalungileyo kubantu kwaye uza kubonisa ngokuvulekileyo imvume yakho yokudumisa. Emva kwakho konke, ngokunyaniseka okunyanisekileyo, uya kufumana uvuyo oluphindwe kabini, kuba lowo owenzayo-uphuma amandla amnandi, kwaye ukhangele kuwe.
Kwaye abo bancoma - kukho imithetho eyenza ibe yinyanisekileyo. Le mithetho ayikho nzima kunzima, kodwa kufuneka yaziwe - yiyo apha:
1. Ingqalelo ingqalelo kwiimpawu zangaphandle kuphela, kodwa nangaphakathi.
2. Musa ukudlulisa indumiso, inokukhathazeka.
3. Umele wazi kakuhle into ofuna ukuyithetha.
4. Zama ukungasebenzisi izivakalisi eziqhelekileyo kunye namaqela. Cingisisa iimpawu zomntu ngamnye.
5. Xa uthetha indumiso, ungafundisi okanye ufundise lakho iqabane.
6. Musa ukuzibandezela ngokuqulunqa ukuncoma, kungcono ukuphulaphula nokuthetha, yintoni ilizwi elingaphakathi eliva.
7. Hlanganisa ngokulandelelana komntu odibanisa naye, ukuba uyadideka kwaye engazi indlela yokusabela ngayo, ngoko unokumnceda ngombuzo othile malunga nodumo lwakho.
8. Musa ukulibala ukukhetha indawo efanelekileyo kakhulu kunye nexesha, kuba ukuba ukuncoma kubonakala kungalunganga, ngoko kuya kumcaphukisa.
9. Khumbula njalo - ukuncoma okulungileyo kunyanisekileyo!