Ndifuna ukuthetha ngokukhawuleza ukuba kwihlabathi akukho ndlela enye okanye nayiphi na indlela yokuthetha kunye nabasetyhini, kuba ibhinqa ngalinye lihlukile kwindlela yakhe kwaye linobuntu obuqaqambileyo, ozama ukubonisa kwingxoxo, kwintlanganiso, ukumangaliswa okanye ukumangaliswa wakhe umnxibelelwano. Ngokungaqhelekanga, kodwa njengowesifazane, kunzima kakhulu ukufumana isihloko esifanayo kwingxoxo okanye kwiminqweno ebuncinane engqinelanayo neminqweno yakhe. Nokuba umtshatshazi odla kakhulu kumdlalo wezemidlalo, ibhola lebhola, umzekelo, akalivumeli kumntu ngomhla wokuqala malunga nomdla onjalo (ngaphandle kokuba wayengekho indoda ngaphambili!). Kubo bonke abafazi abangenanto, kwingxoxo nomntu kubaluleke kakhulu ukubonisa umntu onomfazi, okhohlisayo, okhohlakeleyo, kodwa loo mnqweno ayisoloko iphumelela, kuba kunzima ukwazi izinto omnye nomnye kunye nokuqonda umnqweno wokunxibelelana ngesifundo esithile.
Amadoda, abuye anqunywe kwizihloko zengxoxo kunye nomfazi ongaqhelekanga, njengoko bayazi ngokuqinisekileyo ukuba omnye kumakhulu amabhinqa anomdla kwizinto ezinjengokwakha umzimba, iikhompyutheni zakutshanje okanye izixhobo ezizodwa, uomatshini, kwaye kwiimeko ezininzi zithiyile nje ezopolitiko sihloko. Izihloko zomsebenzi kunye nobudlelwane bomntu kunye neentlobo zengxoxo kwi-date yokuqala, ekubeni intlanganiso yayingenjongo yokulila into encane kwintetho okanye ingxoxo yentshutshiso yakutsha nje, kodwa ekunxibelelaneni, apho umntu angafunda ngakumbi malunga nomnye.
Konke kuya kweyodwa-intetho ye-banal malunga nemozulu, kodwa kuya kuthetha ukuba loo ntokazi ayinomdla njengomnxibelelwano kwaye unike isizathu sokuba umntu atyholwe ngokugatya ubukho bengqondo yabesifazane.
Ukuba usuku lucwangciselwe ukutyelela kwimidlalo okanye kwi-movie, ngoko kukho izihloko ezininzi zokuphuhlisa incoko malunga nabadlali abathandayo, iifilimu nabalawuli. Ngendlela, ukuya kuyo nayiphi na imicimbi yenkcubeko kuya kunceda umntu afunde kabanzi malunga neminqweno yabasetyhini ngendlela engafanelekileyo kwaye ahlolisise ikhono lakhe lokuqhuba ingxoxo nolwazi lwesihloko. Ukuba uceba ukutyelela indawo yokuzonwabisa, ikhonkethi okanye uhambe nje ngesitalato, kukufanele uhlaziye imisebenzi yeeklasikizi ezinkulu zeembongo kwiimemori - le yindlela eyona ndlela yokumangalisa intombazana kwaye yenze into emangalisayo, kwaye mhlawumbi iya kukhunjulwa ngokufudumala kwiminyaka emininzi, kungakhathaliseki ukuphuhliswa kobudlelwane . Ulwazi lweengqungquthela, nokuba luyaziwa, kwaye luvele luyi-podnadoevshih, luya kuvavanywa ngendlela efanelekileyo kakhulu.
Ekugqibeleni, kuthethwe ukuba umxholo weengxoxo, ukuncoma kunye nokuphindaphinda akufanele ukulungiswa kusengaphambili, kuba kwiintetho ezinjalo ezilungiselelwe, ukunyaniseka nokungaqiniseki kunokuvakala. Ukuphucula ukuphuculwa, nangona kunzima, kuya kuba mnandi kwaye kunyanisekileyo kunanoma yiphina "ikhaya". Kwaye umgaqo obalulekileyo kunomhla wokuqala awuyi kuthukuthela ukuba izinto azizange ziphendule ngendlela owazifunayo, kuba amantombazana awona matyala angaguqukiyo kwaye angatshintshwa kwendalo ayenziwanga nawuphi na umongo kunye nokuhlalutya! Ndikunqwenela inhlanhla!