Abahambi kunye nonogwaja
NgamaBuddha, kukho inqaku elichanekileyo: "Umdumba uzinikela ngenxa yomhambi, kodwa kungekhona umhambi - ngenxa yomvundla". Sonke sasiva iimbali ezibuhlungu malunga nendlela umfazi azinikele ngayo umsebenzi wakhe wesayensi, imikhwa, induduzo, impilo kunye nokuhlala, yajika yaba yilemon, i-stinker, ihashe ye-dray, umongikazi, kwaye lo mntu onobuhle akazange avuke ebhedeni. Ukwahlula okuqhubekayo kunokwenzeka: ngenxa yesihlandlo yesihlanu uye waxhamla kwi shishini lakhe, uyaqhubeka ukutshintsha kwaye ahambe, aphuze aze adlale kumatshini weeslot, esalindela yena kwaye ufumanisa zonke izinto ezingenangqondo, afunge, afunge kwaye akafaki imali enhle kwi penny. Unentshiseko, udala, ukhangeleke kwaye ugule. Kwaye sicinga ukuba: "Yeka indlela embi ngayo! Owesifazane ompofu, ubuninzi kunye nokuhlupheka-kwaye konke kungenanto! "Akahluphekanga. Yena, uxolisa ngenxa yobundlobongela, bubi, kuba uyazidela ngenxa yeminye "imvundla", enoba ibuhlungu kwaye ibuhlungu, kodwa ingento engenamsebenzi kwaye ayiyikuzikhethela yona kunye nobuntu. Sinezizukulwane ezicwangcisiweyo ukuze sizenzele into ebuthathaka. Ngenxa yabantwana - kuba banakho amandla kunye nekamva labo; ngenxa yezigulane - kukho ithemba lokuba uya kubuya; ngenxa yobuntu obuvelele kunye neetalenta-kuya kuzisa ingqondo, ukuzola nokugcina umhlaba, iqumrhu liya kuvulwa kwaye lenze imisebenzi engamashumi amabini. Kodwa ngenxa ye-zamorochek yethu yamabhinqa kule nqanaba iwa phantsi rhoqo iindidi ezingabalulekanga kunye neengqondo. Okanye abantu abalungileyo, isidima sabo singabalulekanga kunabethu, kwaye ngenxa yabo ukuba benze imibingelelo kunengcikivo yokuba batshintshe i-lats ikhulu ukuya kwishumi.
Ukulinganiswa kweziThamo
Ngaphambi kokubingelela, kufuneka uhlanganise ingqondo kwaye uyayixabisa isithunzi somntu onomnqweno wokubingelela into ethile. Kumele ukuba abe ngaphezu kwakho kwinto ethile okanye kuyo yonke into. Ngaphandle koko umhlatshelo wakho uya kuba nenjongo kwaye inobungozi bobabini. Yonke into eyanelisayo. Xa u-Anna Snitkina, umfana oselula, wafika kuqala eofisini likaFyodor Dostoevsky ngokuthuthumela ukuze amncede emsebenzini, wayekhumbula zonke iincwadi zakhe ngentliziyo kwaye wayazi: ungumlobi omkhulu. Ngexesha lomsebenzi odibeneyo intombazana yabheka kuye kwaye yahlaziya umlingiswa wayo, yabelana ngokubambisana nabahlobo. Ndandicinga ukuba uya kuhamba naye. Kwaye wavuma ukuba ngumfazi wakhe kwaye ambonele ukuzondla ngokomoya kunye nokuzithemba, kungekhona ngentshukumo engokomoya - uphahla lwalususa umonde, kodwa ngokubaluleka kokubala: "Ulungile, kwaye andiyikho." Kwaye nenye ibali - umhlobo wam u-Olga, umqeshwa we-ejensi yokuhamba. Asizange sibonane kunye neenyanga ezintathu. Kwaye ngeli xesha, umyeni wakhe uDaniel washiya umsebenzi ebhankini waza walala phantsi kwesofa. Uyabubula kukuba unenkinga enzima yokuqonda ixesha elidlulileyo kunye nokubeka iinjongo ezintsha-ubomi budlulayo, akukho nto inengqiqo, kubandakanywa nemisebenzi ebhankini. Ufuna ixesha lokuphuma, ukuthula ngaphakathi kwendlu kunye nesandla esithandekayo somfazi wakhe othandekayo ebunzini lakhe. Ukuze enze ukuba azive kakuhle, u-Olga kufuneka abe kunye naye, anqabile kwiindlela ezithandekayo zezoshishino kunye nakweyiphi na into yokukhuthazwa emsebenzini, kodwa ngexesha elifanayo athathe iqela lezinto ezizondayo ze-ofisi - imali iyadingeka. Uya kufuneka alahle indlela yakhe yokuphila, intando kunye namaqela, kunye namaphupha omntwana. Kwaye uya kumpompoza amandla akhe namandla kumyeni wakhe, ade abe neengxaki ezixhalabileyo, ukungabi nantoni kunye nokungakhathaleli kuyo yonke into, kuquka yena. Umyeni wakhe akacaci ukuba nguDostoevsky. Kwaye ngaphambi kokuba enze izinto ezinjalo, u-Olga wafika kum ukuba acinge ngokunyanisekileyo malunga nentando yakhe eyayiyenzile kwiminyaka eyi-38. Saqala ukuhlenga uhlobo lwamadiploma kunye neeprojekthi eziyimpumelelo ebeziyimpahla yakhe. Ewe, waphumelela kwi-magistri eNgilani, unako ukubamba kwindawo enye yokusebenzela iminyaka engaphezulu konyaka, uyazi ukutshabalalisa iintliziyo zabantu ngeentetho kunye nabantu abadala kunye nabantwana baya kuye. U-Olga uyakhumbula ukuba ngokuzithandela wammba umama wakhe umyezo ukususela ekunteni kokusa kuze kuhlwe, usoloko ekubonga ngengubo ye-ironed kwaye uyamanga ekuseni. Ukunyamezela, ukunyamekela nokuqwalasela abo bathandekayo nabo baya kwi-treasury yobuhle. U-Olga wavuma ukuba ufuna ukufumana ngokubuyisela. Emva koko, senza imibingelelo ngenxa yento ethile: ama-nomads ase-Afrika atshisa imbuzi ngenxa yemvula kwaye iyayiphula ngamanqatha ngokuzingela. Ulindele ukulondoloza loo mntu ekubandezelekeni, ulindele ukuba uya kuguqa aze ambulele, avule ishishini elitsha, indlu iya kuphinda ibe yikhobe epheleleyo kwaye kuya kuba nemihlali kuyo. Futhi ufuna i-ponychitsya encinane kunye naye, de ibe engenabantwana. Ngenxa yoko, u-Olga waya ekhaya ecamngca. Kubonakala ngathi uDaniyeli unokuxabisa. Ngoku kufuneka azifanise nomyeni wakhe kwaye anqume ukuba yeyiphi enye. Ukuba kunjalo akayi kunika nantoni na into: akunangqiqo. Ukuba uya kukhetha iingelosi zezilondolozi kunye neengelosi ezikhuthazayo zilungele ukwabelana naye.
Wena nabanye
Kwinqanaba lokuthelekisa, akukho ngcebiso engaphandle. Uyazi, eli lixesha eliqilileyo kunye elibalulekileyo: uzihlolisise uze uqhathanise ngokulandelelana, ukhokelwa yintlungu. Kwaye awuphulaphuli umntu ngaphandle kwakho. Umfazi ka-Osip Mandelstam, uNadezhda, wazicingela njengomlingisi oqhelekileyo, kunye nomyeni wakhe njengomlobi omkhulu. Wayekunokwenzeka kakhulu ukuba aphile ubomi obalulekileyo kunye obuqaqambileyo ngaphandle kwakhe. Yaye yashiya umzobo waza wanikela ngokubumba kwakhe ngenxa yendoda ethandekayo. UAna Akhmatova wamfumanisa isipho esivulekileyo kwaye akazange azithobezele ngenxa yenduduzo kunye nenjabulo yomyeni wakhe, uNikolai Gumilev - naye ungumlobi ontle. Akunandaba ukuba awuyi Akhmatova kwaye awunayo iitalente ezivelele. Akukho nto ibalulekileyo, ngaphandle kweemvakalelo zakho: ngaba unako ukuyeka enye inxalenye yakho okanye cha. Ukuba ulungele ukunyamekela into ebaluleke kakhulu kuwe - ukuchuma okanye ukuzingca, ubungcali okanye abahlobo, iminyaka yobomi - kwaye ungaqhubeki, ungalindeli kwaye uzincame. Ukungathandabuzeki - ukuyeka. Esemncinci, ukwenza imibingelelo ngenxa yomnye kulula, kuba sinamathuba amancinci - kuphela, neminye imikhwa, amaphupha kunye nezicwangciso zekamva. Kwaye ixesha elingaphambili. Kwiminyaka ekhulileyo, kunzima ukuzincama: uzuze iimpawu ezininzi kunye neziqhotyoshelweyo, ukuphumelela okufundiweyo, uvuyo lobungcali. Kwaye ixesha lakho lihamba kunye nejubane eliphambukayo, lincinci, kwaye ixabiso liya phezulu.
Ngaba umntu uyayifuna le nto?
Kutheni ngezinye izihlandlo zethu izibingelelo zingabonwa? Siza kutyhila imfihlelo eyingozi: ngokuqhelekileyo ngenxa yokuba sizisa isiphoso esingalunganga nesingadingekile. Emva kokuba ndifumene incwadi yeengcali apho inhlanzi eyingozi yayingcwatywa yiintombi. Mhlawumbi, intombi leyo yayiya kuba luncedo kumlandisi. Kodwa yintoni enokuyenza ngendwangu yakhe-ayicacanga. Ungalali okanye ungadli - ngenxa yokuzikhethela kwimizimba yakhe. Wayeza kuba neetoni ezintathu zeplankton, okukhethiweyo sele sele zifakwe. Kwaye ukuba uya kuhlawulela umntu, funani, ubuncinane, oko kufuneka loo mntu! Emva koko uza kungena kwisiphukuphuku, esoloko senzeke nabazali abenza into ethile ngenxa yabantwana. Unyana womama oqhawule umtshato akanakuze aqonde ukuba kutheni umntakwabo ongekho umyeni kuye kwaye umele ambulele. Ngoku, ukuba zonke ihlobo kunendawo yokuphumla elunxwemeni yaseTurkey zajikeleza ezintabeni kunye naye (into eyayiyinqwenelekayo kuye), kwaye ukuba wayinikela ixesha lokukhulula, unyana okhulileyo wayeyikhumbula ngokumthanda nokubulela. Yaye ukuba uthe wagqiba ukunikela into ngenxa yendoda yakho, cela: "Ngaba ufuna ukuba ndilinde ukubuyela kwakho emsebenzini rhoqo ebusuku kwaye ulale? Okanye awunandaba ukuba kukho nabani na ekhaya, kwaye wena uphupha nje indlela yokuwa ngokukhawuleza emkhombeni? Ngaba ufuna ukuba ndiyeke umsebenzi wam, ndishiye intombi yam kunye nomama kwaye ndihambe nawe ukwakha ubomi obutsha eNorway? Okanye ngaba unqwenela ukuya wedwa, ulungiselele yonke into uze usibize ngunyana? "Kwaye akuze kubekho umdlalo wemihlatshelo engadingekanga kwintsapho yakho.
Umnikelo wakho ulungile
Ukuba umntu ogcinayo, ubuncinane ngexesha elide, uvumelekile ukuba asindiswe - uyeka ukudlala njengoDostoevsky, okanye utywala njengo-Ozzy Osbourne, uphuma ngenxa yokubuhlungu nokubulela kuwe ngemizamo yakho. Ufumana into enayo engqondweni, kwaye ukuchuma okanye uxolo luvela endlwini yakho - okanye udumo lwakhe kunye nodumo luyakuthinta ngephiko lakhe.
Umnikelo wakho awunanto
Ixesha lihamba, kodwa akukho nto iguquka. Unyaka uphelile, umyeni wam usehleli ejikelezileyo kwaye elinde, eselula ebhedeni, ade "iso lakhe lesithathu livule." Akayi kugcwala ukubulela kunye nemizwa efudumeleyo kuwe, akayikuzonwabisa, akayi kucula kwaye akayi kudumisa, akayi kuwugqoka. Futhi akayibizi ingelosi, kodwa i-bitch - kuba uyamchukumisa ukuba asebenze kwaye acele ukuba angabi mhlophe kwaye angafungi.
Ukuze ungahambi
Ngamanye amaxesha intanda idlulisa umqobo owamise kwaye wenza isenzo esingavumelekanga kuwe. Emva koko akukho nto enokuyenza kunye nayo - mhlawumbi uya kulahleka ingqondo yakho kwi-overload okanye uphenduke ube yincithakalo ecuthayo. UTatiana Lappa, umfazi wokuqala womlobi uMikhail Bulgakov, wasebenza kunye naye esibhedlele saseZemstvo njengomongikazi - ukuze angabi nzima, adabuke kwaye anesizungu, kwaye ngoko, ngexesha leMfazwe Yehlabathi I, waya phambili phambi kwakhe. Wancedisa umyeni wakhe ekutshitshisweni, kwaye xa wayeyeka ukunyamekela, wamgubungela esifubeni sakhe. Wamphulukisa ekubeni ngumlutha we-morphine, wayemelana nazo zonke izinto zakhe kunye nokudabuka. Uncede ukubuyela kwimpilo evamile. Ekugqibeleni wabhala "i-White Guard" waza wafumana udumo olukhulu. Yaye yatshintsha ngokukhawuleza uTanya kunye neLyubov Belozerskaya ekhohlisayo, waza wanikela ngenkohliso umfazi wabo abathathu: "Ngangathi uLuba angaphila kunye nathi? Ulungile? "" Kulungile! "UTanya uthe waza waqhawula umtshato. Akazange amxolele ngenxa yokunyanzela. Wayekulungele ukulungiselela umnikelo wakhe - kodwa kungenjalo! UMikhail Bulgakov ngaphambi kokufa kwakhe kwi-delirium wabuza ukuba amthiye uTatiana kwaye waqhubeka ephindaphinda wayenetyala phambi kwakhe. Kwaye uTatiana watshata ngokuphindaphindiweyo okwesibini waza waphila iminyaka engamashumi asithoba. Enyanisweni, kwenzeka ukuba zonke iimbilini ziza kumelela, kodwa impilo iya kudumala, iziphepho ze-hormonal kunye neentsholongwane ziqala, i-migraines ingenakuxhomekeka, ixinzelelo legazi okanye izifo ze-oncological. Kule meko kubalulekile ukuba uphathwe, ukwenza okulungileyo kunokwenzeka. Kwaye utshintshe indlela yobomi.