Wonke umntu uphupha ngento ethile, kodwa kungekhona wonke umntu olungele ukuguqulela amaphupha abo. Kutheni oku kwenzekayo? Emva koko, kubonakala ngathi, ukuba ufuna into ethile, ngokuchaseneyo, uya kwenza yonke imizamo uze uye kwiinjongo kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Ngoko kutheni abantu abaninzi bengalokothi baqonde amaphupha abo?
Ntlekele
Enyanisweni, kwindlela ekhokelela ekuzalisekeni kwezimnqweno zethu, imingcipheko ibonakala ngathi yinto esabayo. Yiyo eyasenza siyeke, siyeke izandla zethu size sibuyele. Uloyiko lokuqala, esiza kuthetha ngalo, luloyiko lokudumala. Umntu ukwesaba ukudana. Ukongezelela, lokoyiko alukhathaleli nje kuphela ukukhungatheka, kodwa ukudideka kwiphupha. Ukuba sithetha ngohlobo lokuqala loloyiko, ngoko kubonakala ngathi ukuba asikwazi ukufezekisa into esiyifunayo ngentliziyo yethu yonke, oko kuya kuba yinto ehlazo. Sonke sihleka, sinoyikekayo - sibe sisisiphukuphuku njenge-islabi, ukuze ungeke ufumane oko ufuna. Kungenxa yoko, endaweni yokuqala ukwenza, sihlala sithetha ukuba iphupha alizange libe likhulu. Ngoko, umnqweno omncinane, ixesha liphela nje. Kulula ukuba sinike amaphupha ethu kunokuzama nokudanisa.
Abantu abaninzi abanqweneli ukuvumela iimeko apho ziza kubonakala zizibuwula. Kwaye abantu abanjalo abahlali bebona oko kwenzekayo emhlabeni jikelele. Ukuba uzama ukumxhasa umntu onjalo, uya kuqwalasela ngokugcwele ukuba wenza oku ngenxa yokuba uyamjonga njengobuthakathaka nohenyukazi. Yingakho olu hlobo lwabantu lufuna nje ukunika abanye isizathu sokuba babone njengababuthathaka kwaye bephukile. Enyanisweni, le ndlela kuleso sizathu isisithakazelo kwaye ayinangqiqo. Okokuqala, kuba liphupha lakho kunye nomendo wakho. Ngoko ke, akukho mntu unokukugweba, unokwenza ntoni kwaye ungenzi njani iphutha. Kwaye okwesibini, wonke umntu angenza okungahambi kakuhle, athukuthele aze alahle. Kwaye akukho nto yantlonekayo yokuba wayengenakuphumeza iphupha. Mhlawumbi uya kuphumelela ngexesha elizayo. Yaye ukuba i-intanethi, iya kuba isonwabile. UDell nguloyiko lokuba udideke ngayo yonke into, asiqapheli ukuba siya kuhlaselwa kuhlwaywa ngonaphakade, okuya kubetha intliziyo yethu ekupheleni kobomi. Emva koko, ukuba awuyikukholisa abanye, awukwazi ukuzikhohlisa. Yaye ukuba ulahleka iphupha ngenxa yokwesaba ukudumala, eli phupha liya kukugubungela ngesithunzi kwaye uya kubandezeleka ngokungazami ukwenza into ethile.
Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, umntu unokusaba ukuba angadani nje kuphela, kodwa nakwephupha. Yintoni esiyithethayo? Ngamanye amaxesha kubonakala ngathi iphupha lethu liyinto engacwangcisiyo kwaye i-hyperbolized, kodwa eqinisweni, yonke into ilula kakhulu, ihamba phambili kwaye ingenakuhle njengoko ibonakala kuqala. Ukuba unika umzekelo, ngoko umntu unokuphupha bonke ubomi bakhe ukuya esixekweni, apho wa tyelela kuphela amaxesha ambalwa okanye wambona kuphela kwimifanekiso. Esi sixeko sibonakala sisithsaba sendalo yokwakha, eyona yintle, inhle, ilungele ubomi. Kwaye amaphupha okuhlala apho, kodwa akahambanga. Kodwa ngenxa yokwesaba ukudideka. Kungenxa yoko ukuba abantu bayamoyika kakhulu ukufezekisa iinjongo zabo baze baphuphe amaphupha. Ukuba iphupha libhujiswa, ngoko ubomi bulahlekelwa ukukhanya kunye nokukhethwa. Ngelishwa, akukho mntu ucinga ukuba amaphupha ethu apheliswa yiyo ngokwethu .Abantu abaninzi bayazi ukungaziboni izinto ezincinci kwaye baqhubeke beqonda oko bakuphuphayo ngendlela efanayo nangaphambi kokuba iphupha lizaliseke. Kubo, idolophu ye-feiry ifana nefriy, kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni. Kwaye baqhubeka bebona imimangaliso emva kweminyaka engamashumi amathathu ehlala kuyo, kuba iphupha labo liye linyani, kodwa alilahlekanga umthunzi walo omhle.
Ukoyika ukuba ngumntu ongenjongo
Abaninzi bayesaba ukuphumeza amaphupha abo ngenxa yokuba abazi ukuba baya kuphila njani xa beqonda into abayifunayo. Kakade, sinokuthi emva kokuphumeza iphupha elilodwa, kufuneka sibeke iinjongo ezintsha, kuba akukho mda wokuphelela. Kodwa akubona bonke abantu abakulungele ukufumana etitseli. Abanye abantu bacinga ukuba ba nephupha elilodwa kuphela. Xa kufezekile, intsingiselo yobomi iyaphela nje kwaye iyabuna. Mhlawumbi uye wadibana nabantu abaye bephupha amashumi eminyaka. Umzekelo, umntu ufuna ukuhamba ngeenxa zonke kwihlabathi. Unako ukuchitha iiyure ethetha ngeendlela ezithandekayo, ephupha malunga naphi na apho akwenza khona, ngubani na oza kuthatha naye kunye njalo njalo. Kodwa nangona ngamathuba, umlinganisi onjalo akaze aqonde iphupha lakhe ukuba liyi nyaniso. Kutheni enjenjalo? Yaye inyaniso kukuba, xa uzalisekile iphupha, umntu onjalo uyaba neengxaki kwiintliziyo. Emva koko, akayi kuphinda akwazi ukucwangcisa nokubonisa, akanakuyilungisa into encinane, ukukhetha iindlela ezahlukeneyo kunye nokunye. Kwaye kunokuba uziphathe ngokwawo endaweni yoko, umntu akakwazi nje. Kusuka kwimbango yokuba uya kuba nexesha elininzi lokukhulula, elingenakukwazi ukuchitha ngamaphupha ngoku, kuya kuba yinto eyoyikisayo. Ngokufanayo, ngamaphupha, umntu unokuyenza yonke into, njengoko ufuna. Kwaye, ngokwenene, kuya kufuneka imiguqo yamandla kunye nendawo yokulala. Kwaye kulungile ukuba bancinci. Wonke umntu ophethe iphupha, ezi ngcamango zivela entloko yam. Kodwa ukuba abanye banokukhawuleza ukuwagxotha kwaye baqhubeke bekholelwa ukuba yonke into iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo, ukuba kungcono ukuhamba ebomini ngokwenene, kwaye kuya kuba njalo, ngoko ke abanye abantu abakwazi ukucinga ngento embi, ngoko kulula ukuba bazenze ukuba iphupha labo lingenakwenzeka kwaye qhubeka ujabulela zakho iimfesane.
Enyanisweni, ukwesaba ukuzalisekisa iphupha kuvela kubantu abaninzi. Kodwa ukuba abanye baqonda ukuba kuyimfuneko ukulwa nayo kwaye bazame ukunqoba ukwesaba kwabo, abanye bajonga ukuba iimpendulo ezinjalo ziqhelekileyo, ngoko azinanto nto. Abantu abanokwazi ukwenza oko bakufunayo, ngenxa yezizathu ezifanelekileyo, bathi akukho nto iphuphayo, abaninzi bayesaba ukuyisebenzisa. Nangona, kulo mzekelo, umntu unokuphikisana, ngokuba umzekelo, umntu unokuphupha umntu obuya kwelinye ilizwe. Ngako oko, kuya kuba ngcono ukuthetha ukuba kukho phantse akukho nto efunayo. Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukufumana into kweli lizwe, unako ukubetha xa uphonsa konke ukwesaba kwakho. Emva koko, ubomi abuyithandi inkohlakalo, yonke i-amechta ibhabha kude nabo, njengama-butterflies amahle, anika ithuba lokuzibona, kodwa angabamba.