Iintloni kunye nokungaqondi, iintloni kunye neentloni ngenxa yoko kungabangela umqobo wokuphumeza okufunwayo. Ngaloo ndlela, ukuba ufuna ukuthetha ngokukhululekileyo kunye nokuzithemba nalabo abaqhaqhazelayo, bengakhange bafumane nayiphi na intloni, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba bafunde indlela yokunqoba ihlazo.
Unokuyithatha njani intloni ?
Ngaphezulu kwayo, kufuneka udale umsebenzi wemihla ngemihla kunye nemigudu yokuqonda, kuphela kule meko unokujamelana nokunyaniseka kwaye uyisuse. Okokuqala, kuyimfuneko ukucacisa oko kukhangeleka ngokwenene kuwe, yintoni onokuyihlamba ngayo. Mhlawumbi oku kubhekisela ekubonakaleni kwakho okanye mhlawumbi kwiintetho ezingenakulungelelaniswa okanye unokhathazeka ngokungakwazi ukusebenzisa iincwadana zeentetho eziyinkimbinkimbi, ngenxa yokuba awuqinisekanga ngamakhono akho engqondo kunye nokuhlalutya. Kubalulekile ukuba ukhumbule oku kulandelayo: nokuba yintoni ebangela isizathu sokubandezeleka, isizathu esona sizathu. Enyanisweni, abantu abaphefumulayo bazele iingxaki zabo, nokuba nantoni na ukuba bayakulibala ngokukhawuleza, musa ukubeka ingqiqo kakhulu ngamazwi abo uze ubahambise entliziyweni.
Ukuba umntu ubonisa isimo sakhe sokuphazamiseka, oku kuthetha ukuba ubomi bakhe bemihla ngemihla kubangela ubunzima, okanye unokuthi ngenxa yesizathu esithile, lo mntu akanalo usuku lokubuza njalo njalo. Ngoko ke, ukuba udibana nomntu onesihluku, ngaphambi kokuba ulalele ukugxeka okukwidilesi yakho, khumbula oku.
Unokuzama ukucwangcisa izifundo zakho ngosuku olulandelayo, uhlalutye nganye ngaphambili, uzama ukusinda ngengqondo. Isisombululo esinjalo siya kukunceda ukuba ugweme ingqiqo yento enje okanye le ntshukumo kwixesha elizayo kwaye ngenxa yoko, akuyi kubakho indawo yokuhlazeka kunye nokungahambi.
Kwimeko apho unemihlangano nabangaphandle, kubalulekile ukuba ulungiselele kwangaphambili kule nto. Kubalulekile ukucinga ngokucophelela yonke into encinane, yonke imibuzo oya kubuzwa yona. Kunokwenzeka ukuphucula impembelelo yakho ye-monologue phambi kwesibuko. Kwixesha elizayo, xa uyazi ukuba kufuneka uthini, ukunxibelelana kuya kuba lula. Kubalulekile ukuba ungakhohlwa ukuba abaninzi abantu bathanda ukuphulaphula, kodwa ukuthetha-usebenzisa le nto, uya kuba ngu-interlocutor ongcono. Zama kwiphepha lokubhala yonke into, njengoko ucinga, iimpawu ezilungileyo kwaye uzifunde rhoqo. Naliphi na ibhinqa, nokuba neentloni, linempawu ezininzi ezintle, ngoko ke uluhlu luya kuba lula. Zama ukuqonda ubugcisa be-artfilterta, enokukunika ukuzithemba ngakumbi kwaye uncede ukuphakamisa ukuzithemba.
Kungekudala ungayinqoba njani intloni ?
Ukuze uzive uxabisekileyo phakathi kwabanye, zama ukunika iingcebiso kwizinto owazi ngazo. Kwakhona, izicwangciso zengqondo, ezibalulekileyo ukuphinda amaxesha amaninzi ngosuku, ziya kunceda. Amagama anamandla anamandla kwaye angatshintsha yonke into eyenzeka kumntu. Emva kwakho konke, amazwi ovala kwabanye awenza impembelelo enkulu kuwe. Ngoko ke, kufuneka uphinda ngokuphindaphindiweyo ukuba ungeyena umntu onamahloni. Unokuqala ngoku ngoku, uthi ungowesifazane oqinileyo, uthembele kuwe nakwizenzo zakho. I-subconscious kungekudala inqaku elibonwayo.
Khumbula ukuba akufanelekile ukuthelekisa ngokwakho nawuphi na umntu obalaseleyo. Wena ngokwakho, shiya umnqweno wokuba ngumntu ongeyena ongekho. Kubalulekile ukuhlala uxolo kwaye uqiniseke kwizenzo zakho. Ukulungiselela iziganeko ezizayo, unokufumana uxolo ngoncedo lomphefumlo wokuphefumula. Jonga ukuhamba kwakho kwaye uhlale ukhangele ngqo kwi-interlocutor iliso, jonga intetho yakho, kufuneka ihambe kakuhle kwaye ilinganiswe. Ukuziphatha kwakho kuxhomekeke ngqo kwiindlela oziqonda ngayo indawo.
Iingcebiso zengqondo zengqondo indlela yokulahla ihlazo
Ukugqithisa ingxelo enjalo njengentloni kuya kunceda ukuguqula isimo sengqondo. Ukuba ngokukhawuleza ulindele ukuziva uloyiko ekuxoxaneni nomnxibelelwano, yenza uzoncwina oluncinane, kuya kukuqinisekisa. Ekhaya, ungasebenzisa ezinye izenzo. Ngokomzekelo, ukugubha ngokugqithiseleyo amehlo akho avaliwe, cinga indlela amandla aqala ngayo ukuzalisa ngokucwina, kunye nokunyaniseka nokungaqiniseki. Ngemifudlana yomoya, ukukhanya nokushisa kukuqala ukukuzalisa, okwenziwe kuwo wonke umzimba, ukuzalisa zonke iisel. Khumbula ukuba abantu abakujikelezayo abaphelelanga. Wonke umntu angenza iimpazamo, aze aphathe iimpazamo zabo ngokuhlekisa. Ziphathe ngokwakho, kuba ukuba isimo sengqondo siza kubangela ukuba imvelo ibe nesihawu. Gxi ninisa ukubonakaliswa kwamandla akho kunye nomnxibelelwano. Qinisekisa ukuba iindawo ezikuyo ziziva ziqinisekile. Mhlawumbi, ngelo xesha, uya kuziva ungakhululeki ekuqaleni, kodwa ekuhambeni kwexesha oku kuza kuba ngumkhwa kunye neentloni ziya kutshabalalisa ngaphandle kobunzima.
Ukuba awunabo kwiqela leenkampani ezonwabileyo kunye nomsindo, amaziko karhulumente, akufanele uhambele ezo ndawo kunye namaziko. Emva koko, ngale ndlela uya kuziva "kungekhona ngokwakho", kwaye oku akunakunceda ukuba unqobe iintloni kunye neentloni, nangona kunjalo, kunokuba negalelo ekubonakalisweni kwazo. Xoxa nabantu abangabelana ngokukhetha kwakho: ezi zihamba ngeenxa zonke kwisixeko okanye epakini. Sichitha ixesha kunye nabantu abanokubelana nawe ngeminqweno yakho.