Omnye obaluleke ngakumbi uya kubonakala ebonakalayo iimpawu zangaphakathi - uhlamvu oluhle, ububele, ubuhle bokomoya, ingqondo. Kodwa, ndicinga ukuba abaninzi bayavuma ukuba ibhinqa kufuneka lidibanise zonke ezi mpawu.
Mhlawumbi, kule ngxaki kufuneka ihlawule ingqalelo kwimbono yabantu. Yintoni abayibaluleka kakhulu kubasetyhini? Ziziphi iimpawu ezithandayo?
Ngokwamaninzi amaninzi abesilisa - ngokuqhelekileyo abasetyhini, ngokuqaphelayo okanye kungenjalo, benza ukuba batshintshe. Kakade inye into yokuba, esondelene nomfazi, bazama ukuziphatha ngokunyamekileyo, ngobubele, uthetha ngokubanzi.
Ngenxa yoko, umfazi akadingeki ukuba athethe into ethile, acacise into ethile. Ukubona nje ububele bakhe, amadoda azama ukuba nomusa, kwaye angcono kumfazi. Ububele ngenye yeempawu ezilungileyo zebhinqa. Oku kubonakaliswe ngeendlela ezininzi, abafazi basoloko bebaninzi kunemvakalelo kunamadoda, ngokuqhelekileyo banesimo esininzi sokuvelana nesihawu, inceba. Mhlawumbi, ngenxa yolu mgangatho, abafazi balawulwa kwimi sebenzi njengogqirha, utitshala, utitshala kwi-kindergarten. Kule mi sebenzi, uhlangothi lwengqondo lwendalo lubaluleke kakhulu.
Nangona kunjalo, mhlawumbi umgangatho omhle wowesifazane uyakwazi ukuthanda. Ukukwazi ukunikela umqwenga wakhe komnye umntu, nokuba ngumyeni, umntwana okanye omnye umntu osondeleyo. Uthando, yiloo nto amadoda afuna kuyo nayiphi na ibhinqa. Kubo, iimvakalelo ezinyanisekileyo zibaluleke kakhulu, ngoko ke bafuna ukufumana umfazi ongenakubathanda isikhundla, ukhuseleko lwezinto okanye umlingiswa, kodwa ngenxa yokuba basondele.
Kwaye unokuthetha ngokuthe ngothando ngentsana. Ayikho imida. Ibhinqa lingenza phantse nayiphi na into kumntwana wayo. Ulungele ukunikela ubomi bakhe bonke kuye, wenqaba ngeendlela ezininzi, ukukhathalela kuphela impilo yakhe. Uthando lukaMama ngomntwana, lo lulo uthando olunamandla kunakho konke.
Kwakhona umgangatho obalulekileyo wowesifazane unenzondelelo. Abasetyhini abaninzi abaphathi nje ukwenza imisebenzi yasemakhaya nokukhulisa abantwana, kodwa nokusebenza, ukwakha umsebenzi kunye nokuphumelela kakhulu kule nto. Ayikho imfihlo yokuba abafazi banamandla ngakumbi kunamadoda. Kananjalo bahlala benomonde omkhulu kunye namandla. Oko kuvumela ukuba basombulule iingxaki ezininzi zobomi. Abasetyhini abaqinileyo abaqhelanga ukukhalaza nokuxinzelela abanye ngokunganeliseki, iingxaki.
Ubuhle nenye yezona mpawu zibalaseleyo zowesifazane. Ngokuqinisekileyo wonke umntu unengcamango yakhe yobuhle. Abaninzi ngale ndlela kuthetha ukuba amandla omfazi ukuba azinyamekele, agqoke ngesinambiso, ukukwazi ukuzenza. Ibhinqa ayifanele ibe yinto ebuhle, njengomzekelo okanye umdlali we-Hollywood, kodwa kufuneka abe nomnandi, ngokuthe ngqo, ukuba abe nomkhwa wakhe oyingqayizivele kunye nesithandwa.
Ukongezelela, ngamnye umfazi kufuneka abe ubuncinci besini. Oku kungabonakaliswa kuphela ekuziphatheni, kodwa nakwezambatho, ukwakheka, intetho.
Into ehlukileyo yabasetyhini abaninzi nayo ikwazi ukuhambelana nabantu. Ngoko ke, kwinqanaba labasebenzi bezentlalo, iqela labasetyhini libalaseleyo. Ngenxa yokuba abafazi banomonde kwaye banengqiqo. Kwaye ekusebenzeni nabantu, ezi ziyimpawu ezibalulekileyo. Kwiintsebenziswano kunye namadoda, oku kudibanisa kakhulu. Umfazi akakwazi nje ukunceda unina ekhitshini okanye uxoxe noyise. Uzama ukukwazi kakuhle abo bantu abajikeleze bakhethe ukhetho kunye nabo.
Umgangatho obalulekileyo kakhulu umfazi uyakwazi ukuphulaphula. Le ntlonelo yombambiswano, obaluleke kakhulu ekujonganeni nabantu. Lo mgangatho uxabiswa kakhulu kwabasetyhini kakhulu. Umfazi uyazi ukumamela, nangona akavumelani nento encoko ngayo. Kwaye ke ke, musa ukubhekiselele ngqo kwizinto eziphosakeleyo, kodwa ngokuzenzekelayo uyathintela kwiintsilelo ezincinane.
Ukuvakalelwa kweengqondi kubasetyhini kubonakaliswe kwinto yokuba bavumela abo banyulwa ukuba bazive njengendoda. Kwaye kubonakalisa phantse yonke into. Kwaye kwizinto ezinje zokuqala njengokukhetha ukutya kwasekuseni. Umfazi ohlakaniphile akayi kumphoqa umyeni wakhe ukuba adle i-yoghurts, i-cottage shizi, njl njl. Kusasa sakusasa, ukuba uyazi ukuba uya kuyidla inyama yengulube enemihlali. Inika umntu ukhetho, ngaloo ndlela abonise intlonipho yakhe. Ngexesha elifanayo, oku kubonakalisa isidima sowesifazane.
Kwakhona, iimpawu ezintle zowesifazane ziquka ingqondo. Nantoni na into ayithethayo, abahlali bethanda iimpumputhe ezingenanto ziyazi nje ukumamatheka, ukuhleka ngaphandle kwesizathu, kwaye ungathethi nto. Ibhinqa kufuneka likwazi ukuxhasa incoko, ikwazi ukuthetha. Kwaye le mgangatho ivela kubasetyhini abaninzi. Banobuchule kwaye bajoliswe kakuhle kwimimandla emininzi yolwazi, ngokuqhelekileyo kwimihlaba yamadoda. Ngoko ke, banako ukuqhuba intetho malunga nantoni na. Ukongezelela, abafazi basoloko bevinjelwe ngaphezu kwamadoda, kwaye oku kubenza bakwazi ukuphikisana, ngaphandle kokuyijika ibe yinto yokuhlambalaza.
Apha, mhlawumbi, iimpawu eziphambili zowesifazane. Kwaye olu luhlu luyaqhubeka. Thatha ubuncinane umongo weentlobo kunye nomoya wobuhle. Abasetyhini ngabadali boduduzo lwasekhaya. Ngokwemvelo banomqondo wokuhle kwaye bazama ukwenza izinto ezizungezile, zihle ngakumbi. Banikezwe ngehlabathi elinotyebileyo, abanemvakalelo, abanengqondo, enokuthiwa neempawu ezilungileyo.
Isiqingatha somntu wesintu asikho into ebizwa ngokuba yingxenye ehle. Umfazi uhlala edibanisa zonke iimpawu ezintle ezithandwa ngumntu. Ngokuqhelekileyo ububele babasetyhini abuyazi mida. Ngelo xesha, abafazi bahlala bephethe iimpawu ezivela kumadoda ngokubanzi. Lo monde, amandla okuthanda, ingqondo ebukhali, ukunyamezela nabanye abaninzi.