Umvuzo kwifashoni?
Ukuzilahla kuye kwaqhutyelwa kwimihla yamandulo. Ekuqaleni kwakuyinkolelo kwiinkcubeko ezahlukeneyo zonqulo okanye ukungakwazi komntu ukufumana ubomi obugcwele ngokwesondo ngezizathu ezahlukeneyo zomzimba. Ngoku ngokuzithandela ukuyeka ukulala ngesondo kuye kwaba yindlela yokwenza imfashini.
EmaNtshona, iindawo zentlalo ziqhuba izifundo ezininzi ezijoliswe ekufundeni indlela okwenene ngayo isondo kunye nabanye abemi. Ezi zifundo zibonisa ukuba, umzekelo, eUnited States, ngokweengqikelelo ezahlukeneyo, ukuya kwi-5% yezibini ezingekho zesondo. Akunjalo bonke abaye bawela umda wokuhlala umhlalaphantsi, bahlala bebancinci kwaye banempilweni yabantu abaye bahamba ngesondo ebomini babo.
Le ngcamango yaphefumlelwe nezinye iinkwenkwezi. Ngokomzekelo, ngokwamanye amahemuhemu, uMariah Carey , wenqabe ngesondo ngenxa yokucebisa ngokomoya. Oku kukhokelela ukwandisa kwinani labantu abazenza ukuzilahla ngesondo. Kuhle okanye kukubi, oko kukukhokelela kuyo kwaye kutheni kuyimfuneko, akulula ukuyiqonda.
Izizathu zokuzilahla ngesondo.
Isizathu esivakalayo nesiqhelekileyo sokungafani ngesondo kwisibini esibini sinokuhlukaniswa okude. Ukuthandana nomnye nomnye umntu angasifumana kwiimeko apho bahlukana khona nomgama omkhulu, onokuwunqoba ngokuphindaphindiweyo njengokuba ungathanda, kwaye ukuxolelwa ngezizathu ezininzi kungamkelekanga. Kule meko, ukuyeka ukuzibandakanya ngesondo kuya kulungelelana.
Ngamanye amaxesha ukuyeka ukulala ngesondo kuqhutyelwa ukuze ukhulelwe umntwana. Kukho uluvo lokuba izibini ezineengxaki zokukhulelwa ziyakwazi ukufezekisa ukukhulelwa okufunayo ukuba ziyeke ukulala ngesinye ixesha. Nangona kunjalo, oogqirha bakholelwa ukuba indlela enjalo yokufaka isandla ekukhulelweni yenziwa ngakumbi, kuba ukuyeka ukuzikhusela akuchaphazeli inkqubo yokuchumisa.
Kwinqanaba elithile apho elinye iqabane libandakanyeka kakhulu kwimidlalo, ukungahambisani nokulala ngokwesini kunokuba ngumqathango onyanzelekileyo kwimincintiswano ebalulekileyo. Kubalulekile ukuba abagijimi bavikele kwaye baqikelele ukuchitha amandla, ngoko ukulahlwa kwesondo ngexesha elithile kunokwenzeka.
Iziqabane ezininzi zonqulo zizenza ukuzilahla ngokwesondo, zizama ukupheleliswa komphefumlo, kungekhona ngenxa yolonwabo. Kubantu abanokwenene benkolo, le ndlela yokuphila iyakwamkeleka, kodwa kuyafaneleka ukuba ukwazi ukuba akukho nkolo inxusa abantu ukuba banqabelane ngesondo, ngakumbi ukuba abantu batshatile. Kunoko, ngokuchasene noko, phantse zonke iinkolo zikhusela ilungelo labatshatileyo kubomi obusondeleyo, njengoko ukuzalana kubaluleke kakhulu.
Iziphumo zokuziyeka kwisini.
Oogqirha abaninzi kunye neengqondo zeengqondo bathi ngokukhawuleza ukuyeka ukuzilimala kunobungozi kakhulu, ngokukodwa kubantu abasemgangathweni yobomi babo. Ukuzibamba ixesha elide kunokukhokelela kwiinkathazo ezininzi ezingqondweni nasemzimbeni.
Okokuqala, kukho ingozi enkulu yokuxinezeleka. Isondo sinomhlaba wokulwa nokunyamezela, ngeli xesha i-endorphins iveliswa - i-hormone yolonwabo esiyidingayo. Ukubeka isondo kunye ne-tsholeta, imidlalo-nayo igalelo ekuphuhliseni i-endorphins, kodwa ngaba ngaba ngaba ngabafakelwayo bangabonakali ukuba bayayifanelekela ngesondo?
Ukongezelela, kwaziwa ukuba ukuba isondo singashiywa, ngoko iimvakalelo zinzima kakhulu ukulawula. Ukuzixhamla kwenza ukuphuma kwegazi kwizitho zentlanzi encinci, ukuba i-orgasm ayifaki, igazi liyaxhamla. Ngenxa yoko, izifo ezininzi zabasetyhini. Ngamanye amaxesha ukuzilahla ngokwesini kubangela ukungenakucala emsebenzini weentlanzi zamathambo, ezikhokelela kwiimvumi ezahlukeneyo. Ukuzibamba ixesha elide kubonwa ngumzimba, njengombonakalo wokuthi lo msebenzi awudingi. Ngako oko, amadoda angakwazi ukulahlekelwa ngokupheleleyo, kwaye abesetyhini bayeke ukufumana ama-orgasms, njengoko umzimba wabo uyakulibala ukuba yenziwe njani. Ngamanye amaxesha, nangona kunjalo, ukungenelela koogqirha kunceda, kodwa kungekho rhoqo.
Ukucinga ngokuziyeka kwisini, kuyafaneleka ukulinganisela amathuba akho kunye nezizathu ezixhomekeke kulo msebenzi. Ngaba kukufanelekile ukunikela ngempilo yomntu, ithuba lokunandipha ngenxa yemigaqo engathandabuzekiyo? Ukuzilahla ngaphezu konyaka kukuxinzelelo olukhulu kunye noxinzelelo lomzimba, emva koko awukwazi ukubuyela. Ukwabelana ngesondo kuyimfuneko yendalo yomzimba, into enemfuneko yokwanelisa. Ngako oko, akufanelekile ukuphikisa oko sikumiselwe ngokwemvelo.