Ngokuqhelekileyo kufaka isicelo kubo igama elithi "uthando". Kodwa kungakhathaliseki ukuba yomelele kangakanani kwaye ibonakala ingenakulinganiswa nayo, ingxabano ephakamileyo kwiimeko ezininzi ngenxa yokungathembeki kunye nokunyaniseka kwenza umsebenzi wabo: uthando lufa, kwaye lubuhlungu obukhulu. Ngoko ke, ezinye iibinibini zenza okungakumbi ingozi kwi-psyche kwaye, ngokudlukisayo, ngamanye amaxesha ubuhlobo obude bude-ubudlelwane. Enyanisweni, xa abantu bengagxininisi imbopheleleko emnye komnye, kukhululekile ukuba bahlanganyele, kwaye izihlandlo zokuxabana zivela ngaphantsi, ngoko ke ixesha labo landa.
Ukongezelela, izazi zeengqondo ziyazi into, apho ilizwi lisetyenziselwa ubomi bemihla ngemihla: "Isiqhamo esinqatshelwe siphunga." Mthintela umntu ukuba enze nantoni na, kwaye uya kucinga nje ngendlela yokuphelisa ukuvalwa, kodwa makenze into ekumele iyenqatshelwe - ngoko akwenzeki ukuba asebenzise le mvume!
Ngoku ke makhe sithethe ngendlela yokuziphatha ngokukhululekile, kwaye eneneni, oko kukuthi. Enyanisweni, abafani ngokugqithiseleyo ngaphandle kobudlelwane obuqhelekileyo kunye nomlinganiselo owodwa kukuba abo babini abalingani ababophelelane kakhulu kangangokuba bayesaba ukuhamba. Mhlawumbi umntu uya kumchasa: ngaba lo lu thando? Okwangoku, akukho nto icacileyo, eyona ndlela yenzululwazi yegama elithi "uthando". Wonke umntu udala intsingiselo yakhe, kwaye khangela esinye isaga siyafaneleka: bangaphi abantu, baninzi imibono. Okumangalisayo kukuba, unokumnceda umntu, ujabulele ubukho bakhe, kodwa uqaphele ngengqondo yakho ukuba unxibelelwano oluqinileyo, lubuhlungu ngakumbi ukuqabula, ngoko kulunge ngakumbi nangakumbi ukunandipha amaxesha amnandi olwalamano kwiinkalo ezincinci kunokugwinya yonke into epheleleyo. Ngenxa yoko, akuyimfuneko ukufuna umntu othandayo ukuba azinikezele ngonaphakade, kodwa ukunyamezela umzuzu ngelixa ekhona, ukulungiswa kwengqondo ngokukhethekileyo - ukuhlukana.
Njengoko ezininzi izibini ziziphatha ngokukhululeka, umntu unokugcina umzekelo wabangenanga ukutshata, kodwa baqhubeke behlangana. Baya bangezela ngokukhawuleza, bethandana, bethandana ngothando, kodwa bengacingi ngoonyana kunye nosapho. Xa intombazana ithetha nomnye umntu, i-boyfriend yakhe ingabi nomona ngabo bonke, kuba uyayiqonda ukuba ungumhlobo nje, kwaye akunakwenzeka ukuba afumane impumelelo efanayo kunye nentombi yakhe, eya kufika kuyo. Kananjalo, uyabuxabisa umntu omaziyo ngokuchanekileyo njengomhlobo, kodwa kungekhona nje ngomntu ongenako. Bangakwazi ukuhamba ngokukhuselekileyo kwiinkampani, ezibandakanya amabini amantombazana kunye namakhwenkwe, kungekhona ukwesaba ukukhwabanisa, okanye kunoko-ngaphandle kokucinga. Izibini zendabuko zizama ukuphepha loo mithendeleko, njengoko isaba ukuba esinye isiqingatha "siya kuthathwa" ngumntu. Nangona intombazana inokukunqoba imiphumo yesikhashana, iimpembelelo, izilingo, kodwa, xa ucinga ngentloko ekhuni, uya kuqonda ukuba inkwenkwe yakhe isona isona sikhulu. Umva wokugqibela kufuneka aqonde ukuba ukuchasa isilingo akulula kakhulu ukuba unako ukuhlambalaza, ngoko umntu kufuneka akhuthazelele iimpazamo zeentombazana aze azixolele. Ababini abanobudlelwane bentlalo baqaphela ukuba inxalenye yesilwanyana yomntu esebenzayo ngaphezu kwezigidi zeminyaka yokuziphendukela kwemvelo yenkqubela yabantu ayinakuqalwa, kwaye oku kufuneka kwamkelwe. Ngako oko, abaxhatshazwayo ngentsingiselo yokukrexeza, kodwa bawaphathe njengento yesibini, into enokwenzeka ntoni kubo bonke, ngokucacileyo ukwabelana ngothando kunye nesondo, ukuqonda ukuba isondo singenziwa kwaye kungekhona kunye nomthandayo, kodwa kuphela.
Iingcali zengqondo ziyazi kakuhle, abantu abaninzi bazikhangela kwixesha elimangalisayo, utshintsho kwizinto ezivelele, ukubonakala kwintshabalalo, ukuhlukahluka, ngokukodwa kwintsebenziswano, nangona konke oku kukubandezeleka. Amantombazana akhona kunokuba amakhwenkwe enze oku: ukukhala emlonyeni wesinye isijwili, basoloko bevuya. Nantsi isaga esilandelayo sifanelekile: ukuxhamla ukufunga - baxubana kuphela. Iimbini, apho ukungahambisani okungafaniyo kubusa, ukunyaniseka kwintsebenziswano, ukunyanzelisa - ukubola ngokukhawuleza. Abo babakha ubudlelwane bobukhulu bengaziqondi kakuhle ukuba banesidingo sokufumana iimvakalelo ezintsha ezongeza ubuncwane, inzala kunye nentsingiselo ebomini babo. Ngamanye amaxesha, ukuthuka ngenxa yokugweba omnye komnye umzamo wokungcatsha, banelisekile, bahlanjululwe ngokuziphatha, bayeke ukuqhuma kwaye baqhubeke behlangana, ngokungathi akukho nto eyenziwe.
Ulwalamano olukhululekile luyinto enhle kulabo abangayi kuqalisa intsapho kunye nabantwana kwikamva elibonakalayo. Kodwa bafuna isimo sengqondo esikhethekileyo nesilungiselelo lokuziphatha. Ukukhusela umona ongenakulungelelanayo, owenziwe ngokwasemzimbeni, akulula, kodwa abanye bayakukwazi ukwenza oku, oko kungabikho ukungaboni ngaso. Ubundlobongela okanye ulwalamano olukhululekile ngokupheleleyo kwisiseko soqhelo - wonke umntu uzimisela yena, nangona kufuneka kuqatshelwe ukuba ukunyanzeliswa koluntu kwale nto, okwenzeka kwiminyaka emininzi edluleyo, kwiminyaka yobutsha besizukulwana esidala, ngoku sele ithatyathelwe ngokuvunywa ngokuthula, kuba abantu, ubudlelwane phakathi kwabo.