Okokuqala, misela: ngubani na kunye nolwalamano lwakhe kunye nomntu owayekade naye. Kule unokukunceda, umzekelo, abahlobo abathetha naye. Kulungile, ukuba wena kunye nomlingani wakho unolwazi oluqhelekileyo - kukho amaqhetseba ngezihloko ezinjalo kwaye uya kuvuyela ukuxelela yonke into eyaziwayo ngesimo sengqondo somfana kule ntombazana. Yaye malunga nendlela intombazana eziva ngayo ngaye, zeziphi izicwangciso zakhe. Emva koko, zibuze lo mbuzo: "Indlela yokudibanisa nomfana, xa enye intombazana iphazamisa?". Impendulo kuyo, mhlawumbi, iya kuba nzima ngakumbi ukuyifumana ngaphandle kokuba le nto ingavimba.
Ngoko, ubeke umgomo othile wokudibanisa kunye nomntu owayedlulile, owahlukana naye ngobubudenge. Kufanelekile ukucinga malunga: uvakalelwa ntoni kuwe ngoku? Mhlawumbi wena, ukumjonga, uya kukwazi ukufumana impendulo yalo mbuzo. Yaye ukuba ubona ukuba akabanandaba nawe - ke uvuyo, unethuba elihle lokubuyisela oko kwakuku ... Ufuna ukususa kwindlela owenza ukuba ungenzi.
Hayi, ewe, bonke abangenabo ulwaphulo-mthetho - akukho mntu uya kuhlambulula ngendlela engokoqobo akayi kuyimfuneko. Kwaye enye intombazana ... ewe, yintoni na? Yintoni enokuyenza? Nangona, ukukhohlisa kunye nobuqili bomntu ngamanye amaxesha akanalo umda. Ngoko ungavumeli umchasi angaboni.
Siya phambili. Masithi uzame ukwenza isahluko sokuqala kwi-boyfriend yangaphambili, kwaye wayibona. Uhlobo luni lokuphendula olulindeleyo? Apha awusoze uqikelele ngezinga eliphezulu lokuchaneka. Kodwa unokucinga ngako. Ukuba uthe wuleza, yonke into iyacaca, akukho ntombazana eyomdinga, kwaye uya kuvuyela uxolo kunye nawe. Kodwa ke, kholwa kwam, imeko ephuma kwinqanaba elithi "ngaphandle". Amadoda ayedla ngokulixolela ngokukhawuleza izikhalazo zabo, bafuna ukuphindezela kwaye babone indlela ova ngayo kwaye uzama ukubuyisela yonke into. Ngoko ulungiselele ukuba ayiyi kukushiya ngokulula.
Ukuba uyazi malunga nobukho bomntu obamzingelayo (kwaye ukuba uyayifuna ngokwenene - ngoko mhlawumbi uyazi malunga novelwano lwakhe), oko kuya kunceda lula umsebenzi wakhe kwaye uqobo luya kushukumisa icebo lokuphindezela. Kwaye ngolunye usuku uya kubona ukuba uhamba njani ngokukhawuleza endlwini yakho phantsi kweepeni kunye nale nkunzi. Uphethe iintlobo zeentyantyambo ezandleni zakhe kwaye uyazibamba ngamazwi onke, kwaye uthetha into evuyayo, ehlala ehleka, ekhangeleka bonke abamnandi. Kodwa unokubona ngokucacileyo ukusuka kumgangatho wesihlanu ukuba uyiphonsa intloko yakhe kungekhona ukuhleka, kodwa ukukhangela ngaphesheya kwifestile yakho. Oku, kunene, ukunyaniseka kwangempela-ulindele ukuba uya kuba nomsindo ngenxa yokuba nomona-kwaye akade ne nyaniso.
Ewe, ngoku uhamba-uvele phambi kwamehlo akhe. Akukho mfuneko yokuxhoma entanyeni yomntu okanye ukubonakalisa ukukrakra okukrakra kwesithandana esithandweni-kuya kuphelisa yonke imizamo yakho eyongezelelweyo yokudibanisa (nangona okwenzayo ngoku akufani nokuzama ukubuyisana). Ku no kunceda omnye, omnye. Wenza nje ukuze awubone - kwaye ke yonke into iya kufikelela kwiindlebe zaso zangaphambili. Nangona kunjalo, kunokwenzeka ukuba enye intombazana ayiyi kubambelela kwaye ibhekiselele ukuhamba kwakho ngokungenacala kunye neenkcukacha ezivuthayo. Unokuqiniseka ukuba i-boyfriend yakho yangaphambili iya kuba nomsindo ngenxa yesikhwele-kwaye oko kuya kuba yincinci ecacileyo kwicala lakho, kuba ngoku ucinga ngayo ngaphambi kokuba uthathe amanyathelo okukhawuleza-mhlawumbi sele ufuna ukubuyela kuye ngale ndlela, kwaye uhamba kunye nomnye .
Mbonise ukuba ubhetele ngakumbi kwintombazana enomdla. Shintsha umfanekiso, avele phambi kwakhe ngokupheleleyo, emangalisayo. Ngokuqinisekileyo uya kuwuqwalasela oku, intlapho emphefumlweni wakhe iya kukhwankqisa, ukuba wenza konke oku ngenxa yakhe. Mnike inqaku elincinci lokuba akade kwi nyaniso - emva koko, akunakwenzeka ukuhlushwa umntu kakhulu, unokushiya ngokupheleleyo. Musa ukugqithisa umgca, uvele nje!
Abasetyhini - izidalwa zibuqili kwaye zikhohlakele. Ngokukodwa xa kuthethwa ngabantu. Ngoko ungamangalisi ukuba umculi wakho eqala ukugxeka amaqhinga kodwa alahlekise amahlebe ngawe. Indlela yokujamelana ne-hooligan? Ewe, ukuba unayo isakhono kunye nomnqweno, ungehla ukuya kumgangatho wayo kwaye ezininzi zivumela amabali ambalwa angathandekiyo ngokungafanelekanga. Nangona kunjalo, le ndlela ayinakwenzeka ukuba isebenze ngokwaneleyo, kwaye iyinto enyanyekayo. Kungcono ukuthetha naye ngokunyanisekileyo. Buza into ayifunayo, uthembele kwaye uthi akanayo ithuba. Umntu oqhelekileyo uya kuqonda. Ewe, kwaye awuyiqondi - uyisongela into ethile. Kwaye kutheni, ngokwenene? Akukho mntu uthi uya kufuneka usebenzise ubuqhetseba, kodwa ubuncinane ukumthusa ngeentetho ezihlaselayo. Akukho ziqhetseba zokugxotha.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukhetho oluhle kukungayinaki inhlebo yakhe, ukuhleka abantu, ukubonisa ukungabikho kobuxoki bonke - kwaye kunoko ukugijimela kumntu omthandayo, ukubethelela bonke abakhuphisanayo nabathandanayo. Asikho isidingo sokulwa nabantu abangenalusizo nabangenangqondo, ingakumbi ukuba unokuchitha ixesha elifanelekileyo kumntu othandekayo oye waxolela!