Umfanekiso uqala ngento yokuba ijaji ivakalisa ukuqhawula umtshato, ngoko indoda kunye nowesifazane bahamba enkundleni baze bahambe kunye nehotele - okokugqibela ukulala ngesondo. Mhlawumbi bangama-masochists? Ubuncinane omnye wabo? Kutheni kuthethwa ngendlela enokuthi, ukuba onke amazwi athetha kwaye aqhubeke ehamba zombini?
Induduzo
Njengokuba abanye abantu besithi, ukulala ngesondo okanye ukulalana ngesondo kuqhutywe ukuze kuthuthuzele umfazi. Kucacile ukuba kumntu oqhubeka evakalelwa into ethile kumlingani ohambayo, ukuhlukana kunzima kakhulu. Kwaye le ntlobano yokulala ngokukhethekileyo - uhlobo oluthile lokuba "ukuzola" umthandayo. Ubuncinane kwithuba elithile. Enyanisweni, ngamanye amaxesha kunokuzisola apha kunokududuza. Kwaye ngaphandle kobukho bokomoya (wayemthandayo, okanye wecala), le ndlela 'yokuthuthuzela' ayisoloko isebenza. Apha kukho enye ebaluleke ngakumbi: ngokuqhelekileyo abasetyhini ngendlela efanayo ("Ndiba nobubele kum, bubuhlungu, buhlungu!") Ngaba ukulandela iinjongo ezithile. Ngokomzekelo, abafazi abancinane abathandanayo baphupha ukufumana "isiqwenga" somntu othandekayo ngendlela yomntwana evela kuye. Bayakwazi ukunweba ngesondo ukuze bahle, baxhamle ngokutshatyalaliswa kwabo ngokwesondo. Yiyo kanye loo nto intombazana encinci efunda iirekhodi zamantombazana eza kwenzayo ngomntwana, akukho mntu uyaziyo-naye yena ngokwakhe. Kuphela nje "umgwenxa" wobomi bakhe obuthathaka buya kubonakala - kwaye kuphela.
Usizi nokuziphindezela
Okumangalisayo kukuba, kodwa ukulala ngesondo okanye ukulala ngesondo ngexesha lokuhlukana kungazuzisa ngokufanayo ukubulela kunye nokwenqaba ukuqhubeka nolwalamano. Xa iimvakalelo ziphela kuphela, ngokubulela ukuzinikela (okanye, ukwesaba ngokukhawuleza ukukhubekisa ummangaleli wakhe), lowo ovumelekile ukuba athande usebenzise isondo sokuhlukana ukuze alahlekise ummemezeli. "Ndikunika ubusuku - kwaye uyanyamalala ebomini bam." Ukwahlukana okunjalo ngokwesini kubangelwa umyalelo, isenzo senceba ngenxa yothando olungenathemba. Unokuwujonga njengeminikelo yokuhambisa, njengendlela yokulahla umxhasi onyantsiweyo. Yaye ukuvuma okanye "isipho" esinjalo yinto eyimfihlo kumntu wonke. Kodwa isisusa esona senyanyeko kukusebenzisa isondo sokuhlawulela ukubuyisela. Isetyenziswe, njengommiselo, kulawo matyala xa indoda ishiya enye ibhinqa. Emva kokumbeka embhedeni wokugqibela, lowo owayengumthandi "owayenomdla" ushiya izikhwama elukhumbeni lomntu, ukukhala kunye nezinye iindlela zokuzonwabisa zesondo. U-razluchnitsa wabona: indoda yakhe yayisesandleni somnye! Kubonakala ngathi ukubuyisela okuncinci kunokuba yingozi kwa-donjuan engenangqiqo: umthandi omtsha akanakho ukumxolela "oshiya" ukuya kwintando yangaphambili. Abafazi abancinci abancinci basebenzisa isini sokulala kunye nendlela yokwenza i-blackmail. Kule ndlela zizinto ezintsha zezinto ezilalelwayo kunye nevidiyo, kwaye lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili unokuhlawula kuphela ukugcina imfihlo.
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