Yintoni enokuba yinto enhle ngakumbi , emva konyaka, ukubona kumntwana wakho konke okufunayo ukukhupha ekuqaleni. Ukubona kuye umntu oqinileyo, indoda elungileyo, unyana onomdla (intombi), uyise onothando (unina), indoda enomdla (umfazi). Le yinto efanelekileyo ukuba bonke abazali bafune ukubona. Isiqhamo sothando nemfundo echanekileyo kuthetha ukuba ubomi abuzange buphile ngeze. Ulonwabo kubazali, bonani umntwana wakho njengomntu owanelisayo. Kodwa ukuze uzuze umphumo omuhle, kubalulekile ukuba usebenze kanzima, imihla ngemihla ukuzinikela ngenzuzo yomntwana wakho.
Kwiimeko ezinzima , kwenzeka ukuba abantu abadala baqale bakhononde, "Hayi, siza kuphilisa nini?". Ndiyathemba ukuba xa isibini sinquma ukuba nomntwana, emva kokuvela komntwana, ubomi bomyeni nomfazi buphela. Ixesha labazali liqala. Kwaye ke awukwazi ukuwususa loo mini, uhambe kwiholide uze ungacingi ngantoni na (nangona umntwana unomntwana, umama usoloko exhalabele umntwana wakhe). Ngoku uhlala kubantwana nangenxa yabo. Awekho amagama athi "mna" "mna" "ufuna" "yam", kukho amagama athi "thina" "nathi" "ethu". Kwaye kulungile. Akunjalo nokuba ekuguga umntu uza kunika amanzi, kodwa ukuba awukho yedwa kweli hlabathi likhulu, kwindalo engapheliyo unabantu bomthonyama okanye ezininzi. Igazi alisoze lazala kwaye lingalokothi luphelelwe uthando. Kwimizuzu emininzi, uya kuncedisa isandla. Le yenkxaso nenkxaso yakho ethembekileyo.
Yintoni ekufuneka yenziwe ukuze ufikelele intliziyo yomntwana kuqala, ngoko ke kulutsha. Ukufundisa iimpawu ezintle kunokuthanda kuphela, ukuqonda, inhlonipho, ingqalelo. Funda ukuphulaphula kuphela iingxoxo ezindala, kodwa kwanokuthi umntwana uthini. Emva koko, abantwana bafana nencwadi evulekileyo ukuba ufuna nje ukufunda ukufunda. Kuzo akukho ukulahla kweengcinga, umsindo, inzondo. Bakhulu, bavelisa baze bavelise iimvakalelo kunye neengcamango ezingqondweni zabo. Ngoko, endaweni ethile abangazange baqedele ukubukela, abazange bahlawule ngokufanelekileyo, bashiya yonke into ngokwabo.
Abantwana bathanda iintyatyambo , ukuba ungazikhathaleli, ke ukhula luya kukhula, kwaye xa ujikeleze ngononophelo, umntu ohloniphekileyo uya kuphila.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba uyamthanda kangakanani umntwana wakho, uthando akufanele lube lukhuni. Ngunyana nje (intombi), ufanele ukwazi ukuba ukuba (yena) ufuna (uncedo), umama nobaba baya kuhlala belapho, kwaye baya kwenza konke ukuxhasa. Kulo lonke, kungcono ukunamathela kwisithambiso esinqumlekileyo, unike inkululeko kumntu oselula, makenze isigqibo sakhe. Makhe enze iimpazamo, nokuba ezo zinto azakuzisola ngazo emva koko. Oku kuya kukunyanzela ukuba ucinge ngenyameko ngexesha elizayo ngaphambi kokuba wenze isigqibo sokugqibela. Kwixesha elinjalo, kubalulekile ukuba umntwana uzive, ukuba welula isandla sakhe, ngoko abazali baya kuba khona. Ukugxotha "i-bumps", inqubo yendalo evumela ukuba ulungiselele ulutsha olutsha. Abantwana akufanele bangene kumntu omdala abangenakunceda kwaye badideke.
Bathetha kakhulu malunga nobuhle obuya kusindisa ihlabathi . Kwaye kulo mzekelo, "uthando, luya kulondoloza ubuhlobo." Kodwa ke, ke, uthando luxolela yonke into, iyaqonda, luya kuphila. Akukho xesha, akukho kude, okanye ingxaki ayinakukubulala le ntliziyo. Uthando lwabazali luyimfama, nokuba ngubani umntwana, intliziyo kayise kunye noomama baya kuhlala belwa kunye nentliziyo yomntwana wabo.