Uphangiwe, unethamsanqa namadoda

Kukho abantu abaphatha ubomi ngokugqithiseleyo kwaye bakholelwa ukuba akukho nto iyingqiqo kunye neparanormal. Ewe, banokuba ngongqineki kakhulu malunga nenkolelo yokuba unobungozi, musa ukuthwala nabafana. Kodwa, enyanisweni, iinyani zibonisa ukuba zichasene.

Kwaye kungakhathaliseki ukuba abantu bathini ukuba akukho nto ingenakuchukumiswa kwaye ibekwe ngaphantsi kohlobo oluthile lwenzululwazi, ezi zinto zikhona kwaye zidla ngokubonakalayo ebomini bethu. Enyanisweni, musa ukudibanisa umoni kunye nolungisa. Kukho imeko ezininzi apho abafazi behlupheka ngenxa yokuziphatha kwabo, ukuziphatha, indlela yokuphila, i-worldview. Apha akufuneki ukuba ugijime ku-ugogo, kodwa ukuphendukela kwi-psychologist, utshintshe into kuwe, utshintshe imo.

Ukulimala kubonakalisa kakhulu. Kule meko, ngokuqhelekileyo, intombazana ayinalo iintsilelo ezibonakalayo. Oku kungaqinisekiswa yiyo yonke indawo engqongileyo, kunye nabantu abangaqhelekanga. Kuphela nje ukuba amadoda ahlaselayo kubafazi abanjalo. Abafana abakwazi ukunika inkcazelo efanelekileyo yokuziphatha kwabo. Kubo, umfazi onjalo uyaba yindawo engenanto, okanye ukugqithisa kwayo yonke imizwa engafanelekanga eyenziwa ngumntu oselula. Nangona ubuhle, ubulumko, ubulumko kunye ne-erudition, intombi ayinomdla kumntu.

Inketho yesibini yilapho amantombazana enesifo esibangelwa ngabafana, ngenxa yokuba bahlala behlangene nabaxhasi, abadakwala kunye nezidakamizwa ezidakamizwa, okanye bafana nokukhawuleza xa ubuhlobo buqala. Ngendlela, kwimeko enjalo, kuyafaneleka ukuphanda nokuba ngaba yinyani ukuba bangela umonakalo, musa ukuthwala nabafana, okanye loo ntokazi inqabileyo ifikelela kubantu abanjalo. Emva koko, kukho uhlobo lwabasetyhini abaxhomekeke kwi-masochism. Baya kukhanyela bona, kodwa ke, banqwenela ukuba bahlupheke. Kule meko, kufuneka uguqulele kwisazi sezengqondo okanye wena ukutshintsha ingqondo yakho. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe ukuba abaxumi kunye nogogo abanakunceda ukutshintsha isimo sakho sengqondo. Abaongameli benene bajongana neziganeko eziphambili kunye namagunya aphezulu. Baya kunceda ekuncedeni kuphela ukuba ingxaki yakho idibene nento engaphezulu. Akufanele udibanise iingxaki zeengqondo eziqhelekileyo ngoncedo lwamandla aphezulu. Yilokho eyenza abantu bayeke ukukholelwa kuyo nayiphi na imikhosi ehamba ngaphaya kokuqonda kwethu.

Ukuba uyaqonda ukuba zonke iingxaki zakho zivele ngenxa yokuphazamiseka kwamanye amazwe, ukuba ungathini kwiimeko ezinjalo? Mhlawumbi, kuyimfuneko ukucebisa, iya kujongana nenkokheli. Kodwa, kulo mbandela, kuyimfuneko nokuba nesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo kwizinto ezenzeka kuwe.

Ngoko, ukuba unqumle ukujongana nogogo, khumbula ukuba kwihlabathi lethu kukho abantu abaninzi abanama-charlatans kunye nabanikazi abanokwenza izinto ezinqwenelekayo. Kungenxa yoko, umntu akafanele aphendukele kubantu abhengezelayo kumaphephandaba. Abantu abanjalo bazama ukwenza imali, kodwa bangabancedi abanye. Abasetyhini abanikezwa isipho esivela kuThixo abazange babeke amanani, kwaye, ke, abakhulumi ngesipho sabo kwimida yamaphephandaba athandwayo. Kukholelwa ukuba uThixo akawubamkeli, kwaye, nokuba, unokususa amandla kuloo mpazamo. Kungenxa yoko, kufuneka uqhagamshelane nabakhulukazi esibafundayo kubantu ababaziyo. Abafazi abanjalo abangazange bave nge-PR banamandla amaninzi kunye nethuba. Ngaba nje abaongameli boqobo abanakuyicinga ukuba yinjongo yabo ephambili yokufumana imali eninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Abantu abanesipho bafuna into eyodwa kuphela - ukunceda abanye. Yiloo nto eqhuba ngayo xa benza umsebenzi wabo.

Ukuphendukela ekuncedeni, ungalindelanga ukuba ugogo ugxile kwi-swoop uza kusombulula zonke iingxaki zakho. Nantoni na oko, nayiphi imilingo ayikwazi ukufeza konke umntu acinga nokufunayo. Ngelishwa, akukho ziHottabkiki ezindala ebomini bethu. Akukho nto eyenziwa emva kokuba iinwele zebhedi zikhishwe. Kwakhona kuyimfuneko, iinzame zomntu, ukuphumeza nawaphi na amandla. Umlingo usinika kuphela indlela eya ephupheni, esimele sizenzele yona. Xa uhamba kumcebisi-ntengiso, ungakhethi injongo ephambili yomnqweno, odibana nawo, apha kunye nangoko, loo mnye. Utatomkhulu unokunika ithuba, kodwa akakwazi ukubala. Akayena ikhampasi, kodwa ngumntu onamakhono athile athinta ihlabathi lakho kunye namathuba akho. Yonke into incike kuphela kuwe, ukuziphatha kwakho kunye nezigqibo. Enyanisweni, ingxaki yokuhlaselwa ifanelekileyo kwiintsapho ezininzi.

Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba ngenxa yabazali babo abantwana bahlupheka. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku akunjalo, kodwa apho iindawo eziphezulu ezilungileyo kunye nobubi zibandakanya, akukho ndlela enye. Le yimithetho yemilingo kunye nemvelo. Ukuba umntu uphoswa ngumlingo onamandla, kuphela amandla amhlophe afanayo angayinqoba. Ngoko ke, ukuba uyaqonda ukuba kuzo zonke iingxaki, ngokwenene, into ehamba phambili ibandakanyekile, kufuneka uyilahle, kodwa ungalindelanga ukuba ummangaliso wokwenene uya kwenzeka. Imimangaliso ayenzeki. Umlingo esiwabiza ngokuba ngummangaliso uphinde uqinise imithetho, yokuba ixesha, aliyiqondwa yingqondo yomntu. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, kwaye le nto sinokuyifunda kunye nokubeka phezu kwamashalofu. Ngoko ke, musa ukuphatha umlingo njengokungathi yinto eyohlala ihamba ngaphaya kweso sethu. Le yintlupheko ekwazi ukuphilisa kwiinkathazo ezininzi, xa izizathu, iingcambu kunye neentlobo zezilwanyana ezibalulekileyo nezomoya zichazwe ngokucacileyo.

Babangela umonakalo, musa ukuthwala nabafana. Ewe, ngokwenene, kubafazi abaninzi, kuba bubuhlungu kwaye buyikrakra. Kodwa ngeengxaki ezinjalo unokuhlala ulwa, zombini nangokwengqondo. Wonke umfazi, ngendlela yakhe, ungumlumbi. Nguye imbongi, unokutshintsha ubomi bakhe kunye ne karma kungekhona nje ngoncedo lesikhokelo sakhe. Kufuneka nje ukuba uqonde ngokupheleleyo ingxaki, ukuqonda nje kuphela ingqiqo yayo, kodwa kunye nenxalenye yengqondo. Kwaye kwiintsapho apho abantu baqalekiswa khona kwisizwe sesixhenxe, abafazi banokufumana ulonwabo. Kule nto bancedwa ngumlingo kunye nomgaqo wesetyhini.