Eyokuqala umnqweno wokukhohlisa umfazi ebhedeni ngumnqweno oqhelekileyo wesini, oko kukuthi umnqweno. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba uyakuthanda, kunjalo nje ukuba indoda enomdla wokuziphatha ngokwesondo iyakwazi ukuqonda uthando olungenakumxhathisa. Kwaye zikhona izizathu ezininzi zokuba uvuma ukutshatana.
Ingqiqo yenombolo enye - uyayithanda kwaye awukwazi ukumnqaba indoda ethandekayo.
Isizathu senombolo ezimbini - njengoko kungacacisi, kodwa ufuna nje ucansi, njengaye.
Isizathu sesithathu isibalo sakho sokwesaba. Ewe, ukwesaba, ukwesaba ukucaphukisa ukugatya kwakho, okanye ucinga nje "Ndiya kukwenqaba, kodwa uya kushiya enye into eneentloni". Kwaye kukuncedisa ukwesaba ukuba amadoda ahlala esetyenziswa ngabasetyhini. "Ngoko andithandi nonke, andifanele wena, kodwa uLenka akaze akwenze oko kum." Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ngumhlobo wakho, udla ngokuya kweli nqanaba. Kwaye, efuna nje ukulala ngesondo.
Ndiyakuqinisekisa ngoku ngokuqinisekileyo. Ubuhlobo obusondeleyo bunemiba emibini - ezomzimba kunye nemvakalelo. Kwaye ngabantu abakhokelwa yi-physiology, kwaye abafazi baxhomekeke kwimvakalelo. Ukwenza isondo esinqinileyo sesini sinxulumene nomoya, nangona ngamanye amaxesha zibonakalisa kakhulu ngokucacileyo, kodwa kubasetyhini kwindawo yokuqala yokuqonda nokufudumala kwaye zize ziyanelise iimfuno. Ngenxa yoko, iindidi ezininzi zilandela, ngokubhekiselele kuyo indoda kunye nowesifazane ukuba babe ngabathandi.
Ulindele uthando, uthanda isondo. Njengoko ubomi buboniswa, ubuhlobo obunjalo buya kulahlwa. Kwaye kukufanelekile ukuba uqale konke, kuba ngaphandle kokudumala kunye nentlungu, abayi kuzisa nantoni na?
Ngokuqhelekileyo ibhinqa inemibono yakhe ngobudlelwane phakathi kwesondo kunye nothando: akaze alele kunye nothando, uthando lwakhe lubonisa imvume yakhe ngesondo. Njani ukuqonda iimvakalelo zakho ngomntu? Iimbono ezifanayo zixhomekeke kumntu: ukuba ufuna kangakanani, unomthanda kakhulu. Kodwa umntu ucinga ngokuhlukileyo. Unako kakhulu ukufuna umfazi engazange abe nemvakalelo yakhe, ngenxa yokuba ucinga ukuba uyamthanda kwaye uyakhohlisa.
Yonke intokazi ibona imfuneko yokuthintela kakuhle imilomo nezandla. Uthando lwakhe lubonisa ngokuthintela, kumanga. Indoda iyakhathaza kwaye iwanga, ibonisa umnqweno wakhe ongenakunqwenela. Akunakuze akwazi ukuvakalelwa ngumlingane kwaye ngexesha elifanayo uzinikelele kwintlalo engenakulinganiswa, ukuba ngumnene kunye nobuthathaka. Nawaphi na a mabhinqa, emva kokunyamezela, ingqwalasela kunye nomgca ongapheliyo wokuncoma, ngokuqinisekileyo uyawa thandana nomlingane wakhe, nangona engazange abe nemvakalelo phambi kobudlelwane obusondeleyo.
Kubantu, kwaye nantsi yonke into iyahluke. Uyayixabisa loo ntokazi, ukuba loo nkosikazi eyinkqantosi, ikhululiwe, ivumela ukuqonda yonke iminqweno yakhe eyimfihlelo neyayimfuneko, inokuvuyisa kakhulu. Kodwa kukho konke oko, akaze ahlale emthandweni kwaye akaze alungele ulwalamano olunzulu kuphela kwezi zizathu. Umthandi omkhulu ekungabikho kwamanye amaqumrhu akayi kuba ngumfazi othandekayo womntu onamava.
Kwaye, nangona kungenalo uthando kumfazi, umntu olala embhedeni angavuma ukuba uyamthanda, awuzalise ngamagama athenda, aze athembisa ukutshata kwaye abe nabantwana. Kwaye konke oku kwangoko kuphuma ekhanda emva kokufumana ukuzonwabisa. Ngokuqhelekileyo ngeli nqanaba, umfazi uthi: "Uthi uyandithanda kwaye ufuna ukudibanisa nam ubomi." Le ndoda iyabhala ngokukhawuleza "Yintoni engenakutshoyo, xa usuvele ufikelele kwintsikelelo yenkanuko," kodwa ngexesha elifanayo uzama ukuthula, mhlawumbi awuyi kumbona ubusuku obushushu.
Iingcali zenzululwazi zibonisa ukuba abantu abazenzeli ngathi xa bethetha ngothando ngexesha lokulala, abakwazi ukuzilawula ngexesha lokuvuswa. Indoda evuyayo, uya kuthetha yonke into umfazi ofuna ukuyiva. Kwaye kubaluleke kakhulu, ukuba kule mizuzu ucinga njalo. Kwaye uyayithanda kwaye uyamthanda umfazi, xa ethanda ukukrakra "Ndiyakuthanda!", Kodwa uvakalelwa ngale mizwa kuphela ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, ekupheleni kwindlela abavakalelwa ngayo abantu.
Masibhale ngoku ngasentla. Yintoni enokuyenza ukuze ugweme ukudideka kunye nentukuthelo.
- ungaze ukholwe ngamazwi abantu ngexesha lokwabelana ngesondo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba bumnandi kwaye beyinyaniso;
- Musa ukutshatyalaliswa ngothando ngexesha lesini. Unokucinga ngako, nantoni na, kodwa khumbula, ukulala ngesini kubayeni ukwanelisa izidingo zomzimba, njengendlela yokunqanda ukuxhatshazwa, ukudlala, kodwa kungekhona ukubonakaliswa kothando. Kukho umda ocacileyo phakathi kothando kunye nesondo.
Ngoku ngoku malunga neyona nto ibalulekileyo, ukuba emva kokufunda eli catshulwa, ungathandabuzi iimvakalelo zakho, nokuba uye waqulunqa lo thando, mhlawumbi, akukho nto. Lindela, cinga, cima ulwalamano lwakho olusekelwe kwingcaciso oyifunayo. Vumelani kuwe ngokunyanisekileyo: "Kutheni uhamba naye?", "Ngaba uvuyo?". Ukuba impendulo ayifuni ngokukhawuleza, ungathandabuzeki, kungcono ukuphula le ntsebenziswano. Ungamamatheli kumntu, kuphela ngenxa yokwesaba ukulondeka. Ungesabi ukushiya umntu othanda ukuzonwabisa kwakho. Thatha umgaqo oqala ngawo kwaye uqhubeke nolwalamano, kuphela nomntu onokukwazi ukonwabile. Ukuba uvakalelwa ukungathandabuzeki, ukungabikho kobudlelwane ubudlelwane, ngokulula. Emva kwakho konke, ngomso uya kuba ngumhla omtsha kunye nemifanekiso emitsha. Uthande kwaye uzixabise, bafazi abathandekayo.