Imimandla engendawo kunye nokuhlaziywa kohlobo lomntu kubo

Kwiminyaka yakutshanje, isihloko sokwabelana ngesondo sinikezelwa ingqalelo kunezinye iindawo. Ngombulelo kumabonakude amaninzi, esi sihloko sinomtsalane, unokuthi, unomdla ongenalo impilo. Ukuqwalaselwa kugxininiswe kwimimandla efanelekileyo. Lawa maziko emzimbeni walo nawuphi na umntu, ngenxa yovuyo olumnandi, ulonwabo nolonwabo lufezekiswa. Kodwa akuyena wonke umntu owaziyo ukuba ukwazi le mimandla, umntu unokuqonda ukuba umntu ungubani. A ndi kholelwa? Emva koko inqaku elithi "Imimandla yendalo kunye nokuhlaziywa komlingiswa womntu ngokubhekiselele kubo" kukuthi.

Wonke umntu uyazi malunga nale mimandla kwaye ngokuqinisekileyo ufuna ukuba xa sithinta iindawo ezinjalo kufuneka sibe nolonwabo olukhulu kunye nokunyuka kwesondo. Ukuba umzimba wethu awunakulungelelisi ukulindela okufanelekileyo kwaye asinakuvuyela kwiintlobo ezinjalo, okanye siyazifumana, kodwa nakwezinye iindawo, ngoko sijongwa ngokungavamile. Kwaye sivakalelwa ngathi sinabantu abatshitshiweyo ngokwesondo.

Ngubani owakhiwe ukuba iindawo ezixhomekeke kwiindawo ezichanekileyo zichazwe ngokufanayo? Oku kunokuba neengcambu ezinzulu. Kule meko, indawo yesondo yobomi bethu ihlukaniswe kwezinye iindawo: umsebenzi, izinto zokuzilibazisa, ukunxibelelana, njl njl. Ngenxa yoko, kubonakala ukuba ubuntu budibaniswe zibe zimbini. Inxalenye enye ivumela ukubonakaliswa kobulili, kwaye kwimeko yesiqingatha sesibini - kuthathwa njengento engcolileyo.

Imimandla engendawo. Yintoni na?

Iyintoni ingqungquthela yemimandla engafanelekanga, ejikeleze apho kukho ingxolo enkulu? Imimandla yendawo eneemvelo yilezo ndawo zemizimba yethu enokuvakala ngakumbi xa kuthelekiswa namanye amasayithi. Xa siboniswe kule mimandla, sinovuyo olwandisiweyo, kuba kukho iziphelo ezininzi.

Ngoko, zingaphi izingosi ezifanayo emzimbeni womntu? Kukho ininzi enokuyithanda. Ziyakwazi ukuhlala kwiindawo ezingalindelekanga kwaye ezingalindelekanga. Ngaloo ndawo awuyi kufumana ulwazi kulo naluphi na ulawulo okanye incwadi yesifundo se-anatomy. Ngokomyinge, ngokweengcali, kukho imimandla enjalo emzimbeni wesibhambano kunomzimba womntu. Esi sibonakaliso esibanzi, kuba nayiphi na into eyenziwa ngumntu.

Ukongezelela, iindawo ezinobungozi zingenakho ukuzinza. Ngaphantsi kwefuthe lezinto ezithile, ziyakwazi ukuvela emzimbeni kwaye zinyamalale kunye nexesha. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ubukhulu bobuninzi bezo ndawo zixhomekeka kakhulu kwizinto zangaphandle. Ingaba yimbono yecalingani, impilo, ubudala, impilo kunye nokuziphatha, kunye nempembelelo yimeko okanye imozulu. Uluhlu lunokuphela. Ngokutsho kweembono zezocansi, iindawo ezinobungozi zikhulisa inani labo ukuba amava olwabelana ngesondo aphephile. Yaye phantsi kweempembelelo zamava amaninzi, ezo nkalo ze-hypersensitivity zinyamalale okanye "zenzeke".

Uhlalutyo lomlingiswa womntu, ngokusekelwe kwindawo yokuhlala kuyo

Iingcali zengqondo ziqinisekile ukuba iimpawu zesimo somntu, ukuthanda kwakhe kunye nokuthanda kwakhe kunokufunda kwiindawo zakhe ezibucayi. Sisiphi isigqibo esinokuyithatha malunga nomfazi othanda ukuthatha ngobumnene okanye embanga entanyeni? Lo ngumnini wendalo ococekileyo kunye nobutyebi. Umfazi onjalo akayithandi ukukhawuleza kweshishini kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unqabisa ululutsha esikhundleni seenkampani ezinomsindo.

Xa ibhinqa lihlawula ingqalelo ekhethekileyo ekuthintekeni kwinqeni, inokuthanda kakhulu amaqela, ukudansa kunye nemidlalo. Akunakuqinisekiswa ngokupheleleyo.

Ukuba ibhinqa livuya kakhulu ngokuthinta izandla kunye nezandla, ukwahlukana ngokucingisisa kunye nokuqonda. Ngaphambi kokwenza nayiphi na isigqibo, bathambekele ekuhloliseni yonke into, zama iindlela ezahlukeneyo. Yaye izigqibo zokugqibela zowesifazane olo hlobo zisekelwe kwingqondo, kungekhona iimvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo. Abafazi abanjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo, baninzi bathandwa ngabantu abaninzi.

Ukuzivala kwiindawo ezinqabileyo kubonisa ukuba le ntokazi ayifuni ukuyeka ukusukela ekujoliswe kuyo. Abafazi abanjalo banxulumene nabafazi ababulalayo. Bahlala behlanganisene nabo bebaninzi abalandeli. Kodwa okhethiweyo lolo hlobo lomfazi uhlala enenjongo kwaye enamandla - efanayo naye.

Kwakhona, unyango lunikezelwa amadoda ngokukhetha kwabo ngokwesondo. Ukuba isifuba sakho esikhethiweyo singummandla ogqithisileyo, ngoko-ke, kunokwenzeka ukuba unomoya ozolile nobubele. Ngomntu onjalo ungaphila ubomi bakho ngokuvuya kwaye ixesha elide.

Amadoda anobuthathaka bokunyamezela entanyeni aphupha kwaye ayenothando. Ukuba unesimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo, ngoko ubomi bendlu leyo kuya kuba yiparadesi yokwenene emhlabeni. Ukwabelana ngesondo kubantu abanjalo banqabileyo, nangona kunjalo, kufihliwe kakhulu.

Ukuba umntu unentsikelelo ekhethekileyo yomva, ke lo ngumntu ongu-pragmatic. Ubeka iinjongo ezingqinisisekanga kwaye ngokuqhelekileyo zifezekisa. Amadoda alolu hlobo akholelwa ukuba azinyamezeli "iintlobo zamabhinqa" ezahlukeneyo, kodwa ngokuqhelekileyo ziya kufumana "izinto ezinjalo".

Ukuba umntu unommandla okhuselekileyo-imilenze yakhe, mhlawumbi unamandla amakhulu nobukhulu bomzimba. Iimpawu zakhe eziphambili ziyimfanelo kunye nenkalipho ekwenzeni izigqibo. Amadoda anjalo anomnqweno othethekileyo wabasetyhini abanesithakazelo kunye nabanqabileyo, abavuyayo ukukhusela nokunyamekela.

Ngokusasazwa kwesimo esilumkileyo, imimandla engafanelekanga ayikho kwindawo ezithile. Oku kunengqiqo, okusoloko kulula ukufumana. Ukuze ufunde iqabane lakho libhetele kwaye unomdla, rhoqo ufunde, nangaliphi na ixesha lonyaka, kwi-intimate emotion okanye kwinkampani enomsindo. Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ukuthinteka lula kumgca kungabangela ukuvakalelwa okunjalo, okungazange ucinge ngako ngaphambili.

Musa ukugxininisa kwinani leemimandla ephosakeleyo, indawo yabo, kwakunye nenani leengqungquthela. Yonwaba nje. Kwaye ngoko ubomi bakho bobulili bobalala buza kuzaliswa rhoqo ngeentlobo ezahlukeneyo ezimnandi.