Ukwesaba kwabantwana, iminyaka yobudala yentswelo

Isihloko sencoko yanamhlanje kukuba "ukwesaba kwabantwana, ubudala beminyaka yokwesaba". Njengoko uyazi, ukwesaba kuyona yingozi kunabo bonke amava. Kwenzeka ukuba nokuba inyaniso yembono ingabangela ingozi engaphantsi koyinyani. Xa umntu evakalelwa ngengozi, i-adrenaline ikhutshelwe kwigazi layo ngesixa esikhulu kangangokuthi ukuqhuma kwe-hormone kungenzeka. Ngoko kulungiselelwe ukuba umzabalazo wendalo kunye noloyiko alukwazi ukuhlala ixesha elide. Umntu unokufumana ukwesaba imeko ethile, isiganeko okanye abantu-oku kwenzeka kwinqanaba leengqondo - kwakhona, ngelo xesha, i-horrenone ye-adrenaline iveliswa.

Umntu uvame ukufumana ukwesaba ebomini bakhe, ukuze loo mvakalelo ibe yinto eqhelekileyo. Kwanele ukuba ube neentloni kakhulu, ukuba uya kulandelelana njani umntu ebomini bakhe, ebonisa ukuba unamandla okanye unobuthakathaka. Umdala umntu uba, ukomelela ukwesaba kwakhe. Umntu uloyikeka ngenxa yezo meko kunye neenkumbulo ezazisenza engqondweni yakhe, zaphazamisa umphefumlo wakhe.

Yintoni enokuyenza ukuze ukwesaba kungathinteli ubomi bomntwana bethu?

Iingxaki zobuntwaba bebuntwaneni

Esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo sisisiganeko esithile, ityala elithusa umntwana. Ngethamsanqa, ukwesaba okunjalo kunokutshintshwa. Akunjalo bonke abantwana baveliswa ukwesaba okukhulu kweemeko ezizungezile emva kwesiganeko esithile esingathandekiyo-umzekelo, ukuba umntwana uyalunywa yinja. Ubume bentsana, isici sayo siya kunceda ukujamelana noyiko, ukuba uyazimelela, umzekelo. Kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, kuya kufuneka usebenze ngezinye iinkalo, ezifana nokuzibuza, ukuxhalaba, ukuxinezeleka, okungavela kwaye kuphuhlise kumntwana, ukuba ukususela ekuzaleni ukutshitshisa umntwana uBaba-Yaga, ingcuka yegrey, oya kumgweba ngokuziphatha okubi.

Ekubuntwaneni sonke sibaphupha kakhulu, elinezinye iindawo zemali-ukuzalwa komntwana kungabangela ukwesaba okusha. Emva koko, khumbula ukuba baninzi bethu besaba ubumnyama okanye ikhoneni elimnyama? Sisiphi isizathu salokhu? Kwaye sinokuzicingela, njengokungathi ukusuka egumbini elimnyama elingafani naluphi na indlela ekukhanyeni, kunokukhokelwa okanye kufike ebomini kwesinye isilo esibi. Nangona kunjalo, omnye wabantwana, ngokugqithisa kwexesha, ukhohliwe malunga nale nkxalabo, kwaye umntu osemdala ubudala uvakalelwa ukwesaba xa esuka ekamelweni ukuya ekhitshini phakathi kobusuku.

Ukwesaba okudala kwabantu ebuntwaneni kunokumiselwa ngokusisigxina ubomi. Ngokuqhelekileyo abazali abaqaphele, bezama ukufundisa abantwana ukuba baphathe ngokucophelela ngezinto kunye neziganeko zehlabathi elijikelezile, bekhala: "Musa ukuchukumisa - uya kutshisa", "Musa ukuwa -", "Ungazibethi," ungakhohlwa ukuba kuya kubangela ukuxhamla kunye nokuthusa: imeko okanye izinsongelo zabantu abadala. Umntwana akayiqondi into eyenzekayo xa eyenza indlela yakhe, kodwa i-alarm eyiyo sele isentloko. Uloyiko loloyiko kunye noloyiko luhlala kwi-subconscious for lifetime

Ukufumana ukwesaba kuyinto engokwemvelo, kodwa ngubani na ongathiwa uqhelekileyo? Wonke umntwana unokufumana ukwesaba okuvela kwiminyaka ethile.

Ubudala bexesha lokwesaba

Xa uneminyaka engama-1-2 umntwana ukwesaba ngaphezu kwento engaziwayo-ingaba isilwanyana, umntu omtsha okanye into engavamile kuye. Kuze kube unyaka o-1, abantwana bafumana ukwesaba ngokungabikho komama, utshintsho kwimvakalelo yakhe okanye utshintsho lwangaphandle kwimeko - izandi ezivakalayo, izibane ezikhanyayo.

Xa uneminyaka engama-2-3 ubudala, umntwana uqala ukwesaba iifom ezintsha zendawo: eziphakamileyo, ezinzulu, kude kwihlathi, nasebusuku (ubusuku obunzulu, ubusuku bunye), kukho ukwesaba intlungu (inoculation kwinqanaba likagqirha ), izijeziso (zifakwe ekhoneni!), ukwesaba ukushiywa yedwa. Uyakhumbula indlela esingayithandi ngayo xa abazali bethu behamba ixesha elide bekhangele phambili ukubuyela kwabo ngokungapheliyo?

Uloyiko oludibene nokuphuhliswa kwengcamango yomntwana livela kwiminyaka eyi-3-4. Izingane ziza okanye zikhumbule kwi-cartoon, i-fairy tale isilwanyana esisongelayo "esinobungozi" kwaye sizilinde phantsi kombhede ukuze sibambe inyawo elincinane ngexesha.

Kwiminyaka encinane yesikolo, iminyaka emithandathu ukuya kweyisixhenxe ubudala, ukwesaba ukufa kwezihlobo zabo, unina okanye utata uqala ukuvela. Umntwana ngalesi sikolo sele esazi ukuba umntu unokufa, ngoko ke, ngokungafiki kwabantwana ngokuhlwa, ezinye izinto zendalo (iindudumo, amafu amnyama emini), abantwana banokuvakalelwa kakhulu.

Ukuba ngumntwana omncinane, ukwesaba kobuntwana kunika indlela yokwesaba ukujeziswa, emva kwexesha esikolweni, ukufumana uphawu olubi. Abantwana bahlakulela, kwaye ngexesha elifanayo "imimoya yemilingo" ibonakala - abantwana baqala ukukholelwa kwi-Brownie, uMongameli we-Spades, imimoya emibi, ukhumbule iimpawu ezimbi, amanani angenabuhlungu. Kule minyaka, ukwesaba kuncediswa yizibhengezo, ukwesaba, ukuxhalaba kunye nesimo sendlela yokubonisa ukudala.

Xa abantwana beba selula, ukwesaba kwabo ngokuqhelekileyo kubakho ukwesaba ukufa kwabazali kunye nemfazwe enokwenzeka. Ngelo xesha, ukwesaba okunjalo kuhambelana. Kukho ukwesaba komlilo, umkhukula, ukuhlaselwa, ukufa. Amantombazana atyholwa ukwesaba ngaphezu kwamakhwenkwe. Nangona kunjalo, inani elipheleleyo labaloyiko liyancipha kubantwana esikolweni nakwishumi elivisayo xa kuthelekiswa neminyaka yabo yokufunda.

Siphi isisombululo esifanelekileyo?

Kubomi bomntwana imihla ngemihla kukho izinto ezintsha, imeko ezingaqhelekanga. Ufuna ukujamelana nabo, ukuqonda indlela ehlelwe ngayo, ukulahla ukwesaba okungaziwa - kwaye umntwana uya kubazali bakhe.

Kukholelwa ukuba ukuba ngaba abazali banceda-banikeza ulwazi oluyimfuneko, bonise ngomzekelo baze baye "ekufundeni ihlabathi" ngunyana, ngoko ke, baya kunceda umntwana wabo ahlangabezane naluphi na ukwesaba umntwana.

Kwenzeka ukuba phambi kweyiphi imicimbi ebalulekileyo ebomini bomntwana, umzekelo, "okokuqala kwiklasi yokuqala" kuyimfuneko ukuxhasa nokuxelela indlela oye wafumana ngayo le mcimbi ebomini kwaye unika ulwazi olungakumbi. Uncedo uzive umntwana wakho ukuba akaye yedwa kumava akhe.

Ngamanye amaxesha, ukubuya esikolweni, abantwana beza kwindlu engenanto, okuyiyo yinto engavamile kwaye iyabethusa. Vumela ukuba bavule iTV, bafumane ikati, inja okanye i-parrot-enokuthetha nabo, banomuzwa wokuthi akayedwa kwindlu.

Ukwesaba utshintsho kubantwana kuhamba kwindawo entsha, ukubonakala kwabahlobo abatsha, inkundla entsha. Zama ukuthatha into kwindawo yangaphambili ekhumbuzayo kwaye yenze umqondo wokuthembeka, ukhuseleko. Mhlawumbi kuya kuba luhlobo oluthile oluya kulinywa kwindawo yakho entsha yokuhlala.

Xa umntwana ekholelwa kukuba, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba abe ngumhlobo wakhe oqondayo, umamele aze amqinisekise ukuba ukhuselekile ngokupheleleyo, ngakumbi xa zonke izihlobo zidibene kunye kunye naye. Iqondo lokuthembela ligqiba ukuqhubela phambili okanye ukungabikho kokwesaba ebomini bomntwana, xubusha yonke into eyayingamkhathaza. Kubalulekile ukuqonda apho uloyiko luvela khona, yintoni umthombo. Abazali kufuneka bancede umntwana akwazi ukujamelana noyiko. Ukuba iinkolelo kunye neengxabano asincedi - zimphazamise - jonga ngefestile, udlale. Ewe, cinga nje ukuba umntwana uloyiko lwakhe kwisiqwenga samaphepha - kuya kuvele ngokucacileyo ukuba akayingozi kakhulu.

Kwaye kubalulekile ukuthetha rhoqo nomntwana, ukumbandakanya kwingxoxo. Esi sisona sixhobo esinamandla kunxamnye noloyiko lomntwana.