Kwaye kufuneka wenze ntoni xa iintyatyambo-abantwana behlala bevaliwe kwaye behlala kwihlabathi labo? Abaninzi beengqondo baphanda izizathu zokuzihlukanisa kwabantwana, kodwa abazange bafikelele kwisigqibo esisodwa, ngoko kukho inani elikhulu leengcamango nezengcebiso malunga nendlela yokufumana abantwana ngaphandle kwimeko yokuzimela.
Iingcamango zengqondo
Uninzi lwabaphandi bakholelwa ukuba ingcambu yengxaki kufuneka ifunwe ebusaneni. Okanye, ngaphambi kokuzalwa komntwana, ngexesha lokuthathwa kwakhe. Iingcali zengqondo zikholelwa ukuba ukuba umntwana wazalwa kwangaphambi kwexesha, malunga nexesha elide ukuya kwiiveki ezingama-33, ngoko ke, mhlawumbi, kuya kuba yinto engummiselo, umntu ongobugovu. Isizathu salo sinokusebenza njengento eyahlula ixesha elide emva kokubeletha. Inyaniso kukuba iintsana zangaphambi kokuzalwa zithunyelwa eKuvez emva kokuzalwa, igumbi elikhethekileyo apho umswakama othile kunye nobushushu bugcinwa. Oku, kuphazamiseka, kuthintela ingqalelo yengqondo yomntwana, kuba esikhundleni sokuqala kokuthintana nomama, unesizungu.
Kodwa ukubhalela ukuhlala kwedwa komntwana kuphela ekungcoleni kokuqala kungumntu osisidenge nakungalunganga. Phakathi kwezinye izizathu, abaphandi bajolise kwizifo zabantwana beselula. Xa umntwana evezwa intlungu, engakhathazeki ngenxa yemfiva ephezulu okanye nje ukukhathala, uya kwilizwe lakhe. Oku kwenzeka ngenxa yokuba i-elitsha ilizwe aliqhelekanga kwaye alibi. Ngoko, musa ukuthatha umntwana wakho njengomntwana. Ngamanye amaxesha kufuneka ukhulume naye njengomntu omdala kwaye ucacise imeko. Kwaba nesi sizathu sokubodwa kwabantwana abancinci elifutshane elifutshane. Ngokukhawuleza ukuba umntwana abuyele, zonke iingxaki kunye neengxakini ngokwabo ziphuphuma.
Isizathu, esibangelwa yimicimbi yangaphandle, sininzi kakhulu. Ngokomzekelo, abantwana besikolo banokukhathaza kakhulu ukuxhatshazwa kweontanga ngenxa yeiglasi, ukuzaliswa okanye ukuphakama okuncinane. Kodwa abantwana besikolo sokufunda esikolweni bangakwazi ukuvalelwa ngokwabo ngenxa yeengxabano phakathi kwabazali babo. Enyanisweni, phantse zonke iingcali zengqondo zithi esinye sezizathu eziqhelekileyo zokubodwa kwabantwana kukungenalo uthando phakathi kwentsapho. Xa umntwana omncinci ebona ama-scandals ngaphakathi kwintsapho, kukho utshintsho olubalulekileyo kwindlela yakhe yokujonga. Ingxaki kukuba abantwana bathambe ukuthetha ngabo bonke abahlobo babo, kodwa abafuni ukwabelana ngolwazi olunjalo, bafihla ngokwabo, eso sizathu sokurhoxiswa. Kwakhona, ngenxa yeengxabano kwintsapho, umntwana angakwazi ukuzifumana engenangqiqo, engeyomfuneko kwaye ekugqibeleni abe ngabonakaliyo.
Kwakhona, ukukhutshwa kwedwa kungabangela ukungabi nxibelelwano noontanga. Masithi ucinga ukuba uyisiphukuphuku ukusebenzisa imali kwi-kindergarten, ukuba unogogo ekhaya. Kodwa! Ukuze umntwana aphuhlise ngokuchanekileyo, udinga ukunxibelelana kungekudala nabantu abadala, kodwa okokuqala kubantwana abaneminyaka elilodwa. Ngabo, uya kuba nako ukulingana, ulwabelana ngolwazi olunomdla. Ewe, unokwabelana nogogo wakho, kodwa yintoni eya kuphendula ngayo: "Umnichka! Konke kobawo! "Konke oku kunokuba kuxoxwe, kuba izinto azithethayo zibonakala zibalulekile kwaye zibalulekile. Kuya kuba nzima kumntu omdala ukuxhasa le ngxoxo "ngokulinganayo". Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba kufuneka u "lisp" nomntwana, zama kule minyaka ukuyiqonda njengomdala. Kwakhona, ukungabikho koqhagamshelwano kunye noontanga kunokukhokelela ekutheni akwazi ukuthetha nabo. Ngoko ke akufanele umangaliswe kukuba umntwana wakho akanakufumana ulwimi olufanayo nabantwana, awuzange umnike ithuba.
Ewe, ngoko. Izizathu zichazwe, ngoku kulufanelekile ukuba sibone ukuba umntwana wakho uvaliwe okanye yinto nje yefantasy yakho. Mhlawumbi ungumntu othakazelisayo othanda ukuthetha, ukuthatha iindwendwe, iphathi kunye nezinto ezinjalo. Kodwa oku akuthethi ukuba umntwana wakho kufanele abe njalo. Ukuba uyavuya ngokuya esikolweni, kodwa akanalo abahlobo abangaphantsi apho kwaye uyanyamekela ngokukhethekileyo umhlobo, oko akuthethi ukuba uvalekile. Kufuneka uqonde ukuba bonke abantu bahluke ngokupheleleyo, iimpawu ezihlukeneyo, abalinganiswa, ukuziphatha, ngoko unyana wakho okanye intombi yakho ayifuni ngathi, kodwa ayikavalwa.
Enye into yokuba ingxaki ikhona kwaye umntwana wakho wenqaba ukuya enkulisa, kuba akanalo abahlobo kunye nentshisekelo apho. Emva koko kufuneka uqhubele phambili kwimisebenzi esebenzayo. Indlela efanelekileyo kukuba uhambe kumntwana wengqondo yengqondo oza kunceda umntwana wakho ngokuzimelela kwiqondo lobuchule.
Kodwa, oku akuthethi ukuba zonke iingxaki unokuzikhusela ngokukhuselekileyo kumagxa eengcali. Emva koko, enye yeengcebiso zengqondo yengqondo ngokuqinisekileyo ibe ngumsebenzi wakho nomntwana. Sinokusebenzisana njani nomntwana kwaye sizenzele ngokuzenzekelayo ingxaki yokuzihlukanisa, siya kuthetha ngentla.
Ukuphikisana nokuhlukaniswa komntwana ekhaya:
1. Ungaze ubeke uxinzelelo kumntwana wakho, ungafaki. Khawucinge nje endaweni yakhe, ngaba ubungathetheki ngombuzo othi: "Yintoni eyenzekayo nawe? Kutheni uhlala uthula? "U
2. Abantwana abanjalo babonakaliswa yi-conservatism, ngexesha apho bafuna enye into entsha! Zama ukunciphisa ubomi bakhe, utshintshe ishedyuli sokulala nokuzonwabisa, ngegama, uzame!
3. Musa ukulibala ukudumisa umntwana. Kufuneka azi ukuba wenza into ebalulekileyo efunwa ngumphakathi.
4. Zama ukumnika ingqalelo. Ungesabi ukuyonakalisa ngobubele, nje ungazithobeli yonke iminqweno.
5. Hlela ieholide uze umeme abahlobo bakho! Ngezihlandlo ezinjalo, inzala yakho iza kukwazi ukusetyenziswa kuluntu kwaye ikhululeke ngakumbi.
6. Njengamathuba amaninzi, thabatha umntwana ekukhanyeni, yenza ubungane nabahlobo kunye nabantwana babo. Yenza kucace ukuba uyaziqhayisa ngaye. Oku kuya kwandisa ukuzithemba nokuzithemba.
Ngoko, izizathu zicatshangelwa, icebiso linikezelwa, lihlala lisebenzise konke oku kwindodana okanye intombi yakho ethandekayo. Into ephambili, khumbula ukuba i-intle yomntwana isezandleni zakho, kwaye ukuba awuyi kumnceda ukuba aphume kwindawo yokuzimela, ukuphumelela kwihlabathi lanamhlanje alikwazi ukufezekiswa!