Kungenzeka ukuba oku kulandelwa nayiphi na imicimbi, ukuphazamiseka, ukwesaba. Kwaye emva kokuseka isizathu esicacileyo senzo zenzo, umntu unokucinga indlela yokunyusa umntwana ukuba ancede iminwe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwana usondeza izandla zakhe emlonyeni wakhe ngexesha xa kukho into ephazamisayo, xa kukho naziphi na iziganeko apho umntwana engakhathazeki kwaye akanakukhathazeka.
Umntwana uxhalabile xa ehlaselwa okanye engavunyelwe. Umntwana uqala ukusondeza iminwe yakhe kwaye le nyathelo iyancipha. Ukungafuni umntwana ukuba ancede iminwe, kufuneka umfumane indlela eyahlukileyo yokuthuthuzela.
Ngamanye amaxesha kwenzeka ukuba ufumane enye indlela yokuzolalisa umntwana engakwazi. Ngoko ke, kuyimfuneko ukuba uncede umntu omdala oza kukuxelela indlela yokuziphatha kakuhle kwaye ufumane oko ukuzola. Ngokomzekelo, abanye abantu banqabile ngomculo kunye nomdaniso, ngoko kutheni ungabonisi indlela enjalo kumntwana? Mhlawumbi, yiloo nto eya kumnqanda ukuba atshale iminwe yakhe.
Xa umntwana ungaphezu konyaka nesiqingatha, kufuneka uzame ukuchaza nje ukuba ukudonsa iminwe yakho emlonyeni wakho akuhle kakhulu. Futhi ukucebisa indlela yokujamelana neemvakalelo ezimbi, kodwa umntwana usemncinci kwaye aqonde oko kuya kuba nzima.
Abazali banokubethwa kwiinkcazo zamaqhawe omntwana, lowo umntwana owaziyo nothando lwakhe. Ngokomzekelo, malunga nomvakalelo wentukuthelo yefeythi "indlu kaZaykin" iya kuthetha ngokucacileyo, apho ibhinqa likhubekile, ngenxa yokuba wayekhishwe ngaphandle kwendlu yakhe. Kodwa emva koko, wayethetha nabamelwane bakhe, kwaye wayeziva engcono. Kubalulekile ukufundisa umntwana ukuba akhulume ngamava abo, nokuba angafihleli ngokwabo. Emva kancinci, umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba kwiimeko ezinzima kufuneka ucele uncedo, endaweni yokupheka iminwe yakho emlonyeni wakho. Kumntwana ukuqonda ngokukhawuleza, abazali kufuneka bajonge kwaye bachaze. Ukongeza, kubalulekile kwaye kwintsapho apho umntwana ehlala khona, abazali bathetha ngeemvakalelo zabo.
Isizathu esilandelayo esilandelayo "sesondlo" iminwe ngumzamo wokulala. Ngaloo ndlela, umntwana ubonakala ekhululekile aze alele ngokukhawuleza. Kule meko, ukunyuka kuya kuba yisithethe ngaphambi kokulala. Yintoni abazali abayenzayo? Kubalulekile ukuvelisa esinye isithethe sokulala, kungabandakanywa nokutshiza iminwe yakho. Ngaphambi kokulala, kucetyiswa ukuba udlale imidlalo ephule, uze uhlambe, uhlambe, oya kuphumla. Abazali bafanele bahlale ecaleni komntwana, bafunde iincwadana zakhe, uvumelekile ukuba ulale embhedeni wakho oyintandokazi. Kukhulu ukuba omnye wabazali uhlala nomntwana ngelixa elala, okuya kubangela ukuzola nokuzithemba.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, iminwe emlonyeni womntwana iwela ngexesha xa ilinda iikhathuni zodwa. Ngokuqhelekileyo, kucatshangelwa ukuba umntwana uyakrazula izandla zakhe emlonyeni ukusuka kwedwa, xa engenalo nto yokwenza.
Ngako oko, umsebenzi wabazali ukunika umntwana ixesha elingakumbi, ubukele iitokisi kunye, ufunde iincwadi, umdaniso, mhlawumbi, mhlawumbi, inkunzi iya kulibala into eyenzayo emlonyeni wakhe.
Ukuba, nangona kunjalo, ukunwa kweminwe kuba yintsikelelo, akukho maqhinga anokukunceda ukujamelana nale ngxaki, mhlawumbi, kuya kucetyiswa ukuba uqhagamshelane nengcali yezengqondo, emva kokuba incoko nabazali bakhe, iya kubonisa ukuba yintoni imbangela yenkxalabo kunye neendlela zokusombulula ngokukhawuleza. Kwaye nabazali, ngaphambi kokutyelela kwengcali yeengqondo, umntu kufuneka alandele ukuziphatha komntwana ukuze aphendule yonke imibuzo yogqirha ekwamkelekileyo.