Umntwana usoloko enza into ethile, aze ahlakaze amathoyizi, uze uthele amanzi kumphephethi owuthandayo, uze uphule i-vase. Ngcaciso emfutshane yonke imini, indlu iyahlaselwa. Kukho izizathu ezininzi zomzali ukuba athukuthele umntwana wakhe. Kulo mzuzwana, nawuphi na umzali ufuna ukujezisa umntwana wakhe.
Indlela yokujezisa umntwana ngokuchanekileyo, ukuze angaphuli kuye ubuncinci, kodwa sele ehloniphekile. Okokuqala kufuneka uqonde into ofuna ukuyifumana kumntwana. Ukubangela intlungu yomzimba ukuba abe nemvakalelo ebuhlungu, ukwesaba nokucaphuka, ukukhumbula le mvakalelo, ukususela ngoko akazange avumele into enjani. Okanye uncedise ukuba aqonde ukuba uphosakele?
Ukuba uthatha umzila wokuqala, kuya kuba nempembelelo. Ngaphantsi koyiko lobundlobongela bemvelo ngohlobo lwebhanti okanye ikotini yesundu, umntwana uya kuzincama ixesha elithile kwaye uyayeka zonke iindlela zokuhlekisa "iintsholongwane" zakho. Kodwa ngokukhawuleza umntwana uya kuqala ukuqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukwenza konke, into ephambili kulo mzuzwana awuyikubamba isohlo lomzali. Okanye unokwenza ulwaphulo olubi kakhulu, kwaye oko kuya kuwela kunye nokuqhelekileyo. Kule minyaka, uya kuqalisa ukutshatyalaliswa intlungu, kwaye oku akayi kuzisa ezo ntlungu zentlanzi kunye nentlungu njengoko ebuntwaneni.
Kulo lonke uphuhliso umntwana uya kuqonda ukuba kunokwenzeka ukubetha abantu, kunye naye benza okufanayo. Ungakhohlisa, kulula ukuphuma kuloo meko. Isiphumo semfundo yakho enenkohlakalo sinokudakalisa, umntwana uya kuba nobudlova ngaphezu kweminyaka kwaye enobudlova.
Xa ukhethe indlela yesibini yokusombulula ingxaki, gcina ukuthukuthela, ukumemeza, ukubetha kunye nokusongelwa ngecala.
Mfuneko kakhulu ukuyeka ukuziphatha okubi. Makuqonde ngokucacileyo. Ukuba kwintsapho yakho le mpawu ayimkelekanga.
Musa ukumemeza ngokungenalutho "kutheni wena?", Kuphela kufuneka uchazele umntwana wakho oko kufuneka ukwenze ukuze uphendule imeko ibe yinye indlela. Mnike umgqomo ukuze agubungele umgangatho emva kwakhe, ukuba ikhwebu iingubo zakhe, umnike inaliti kunye nentambo, makhe ahlale aze ahlambe. Akunandaba nokuba uyayenza njani. Kubalulekile ukuba uya kuphelisa iimpazamo zakhe ngokwakhe.
Xa umntwana sele esesesikolweni esikolweni, uvavanyo olubi kakhulu kuye isifungo sokuthula. Abazali bayeke ukuthetha naye, kwaye wenza konke ukubenza bathethe.
Umntwana kufuneka acacise ngokucacileyo isizathu sokuba ajeziswe, musa ukukhalaza kwaye ungasabisi.
Xa umntwana engayithobeli. Umama makaxelele. Yiyiphi imvakalelo eyenzeka kuye. Umele umxelele ngqo umntwana ukuba uphelelwe ngumsindo ngeli xesha.
Akuyimfuneko ukuthetha ngesilwangiso, kodwa ukuyibeka kwibhokisi ende. Umntwana angakwazi ukuhlamba ngokulindela okungenakukuphepha.
Enye yeengongoma ezibalulekileyo: nini kwaye kuphi ukuqhuba "ukuxubusha". Ukuba inxulumene nomntwana omncinci, kufuneka ujeziswe ngangoko nje xa wenza okuthile. Ngenxa yokuba imemori yomntwana ifutshane, kwaye akanakuqonda ukuba kutheni wahlwaywa, xa kudlula ixesha. Emva kokuhlwaywa, umntwana uya kubonakalisa ngokuziphatha kwakhe kwaye uya kuqhubeka eziphatha ngendlela engafanelekanga.
Ukuze ujeziswe, unako ukufumana isihlalo esikhethekileyo, esiza kumisa umntwana okhubekileyo. Uya kuyika lo mhlalo, kwaye uya kuzama ukwenza into engalunganga, ukuze angabi phantsi kwesihlalo esingokomfuziselo. Ngomzuzu wokuhlala komntwana esi sihlalo, unokubamba ingxoxo enzulu kunye naye. Nika umntwana ukuba akhulume naye, musa ukwakha kuphela i-monologue, udinga ingxoxo ukuze uqondane kakuhle. Umntwana unalo uluvo lwakhe kwinto eyenzekayo.
Musa ukujezisa umntwana ngelixa udla, makhe adle ngokuzulisayo, aze afundise kuye imigaqo yokuziphatha kakuhle, ubuninzi obufunayo. Ngaphandle koko, umntwana angakwazi ukunqanda isigxina, kwaye uya kuphinda uhlushwa indlela yokufundisa umntwana ukuba adle.
Musa ukujezisa umntwana ukuba uyagula, okanye uvuke. Musa ukujezisa xa udlala. Yaye ke, xa umntwana ezama ukuphucula imeko, kodwa akazange aphumelele.
Ngethuba xa umntwana ekhubekile, uyaphuma kwizandla zakho, uyakhala. Ungakhawulezi ukummangalela ngeli xesha, kodwa cinga bhetele. Kutheni umntwana wakho eziphatha ngale ndlela? Mhlawumbi inyane lifuna nje ukulala, okanye lifuna ukuphawula. Naluphi na umzekelo, hlalutya indlela yokuziphatha komntwana wakho, kutheni enjenjalo ukwenza oku okanye okokuziphatha.
IBHANKI ZABAZALI
Isijeziso esingumzimba esonakalisa umntwana (ukuphosa entloko, ukubuyela emuva, ukukhahlela nokukhaba, ukubetha). Izenzo ezinjalo zihlazisa kwaye zikhubekise umntwana, eli cala liya kuhlala kunye naye ubomi.
Ukusetyenziswa kweentlanzi: "Isilumko, isilumko, isidenge, idiot, njl njl." Umntwana ngalesi sihlandlo uziva ehlazekile kwaye ecaphukile, kwaye okwangoku akunakukuxhathisa. Kodwa ekugqibeleni oko kuya kuchaphazela ubuhlobo bakho naye.
Ukubandezeleka kwengqondo , ukuchaphazela kakubi ingqondo yomntwana. Musa ukutshiya umntwana wakho egumbini elimnyama ukuba uyaba nobumnyama.
Amagama: "Andikuthandi", "Ulungile." Umntwana uya kuthatha oku njengengqondo kuye ngokwakhe, kwaye akuyiyo ingqiqo yakhe. Into eyona nto yinkwantleko kuye ayikuthandwa ngabazali bakhe.