Umcimbi womtshato usude ubeke umyalelo wokwenziwa kweentlobo ezikhethekileyo zemisebenzi eyenzelwe ukuzisa ulonwabo ebomini obatshatileyo. Yaye ukuba loo ntshukumo emtshatweni ngokwawo ingaba yinani elikhulu, akukho nto ibaluleke kakhulu kwizithethe ezandulele umtshato. Imibhiyozo yomtshato idibanisa izizukulwana eziliqela, idibana kunye neentsapho kunye kunye nokuphatha umanyano womtshato ngokunyamekela. Kwaye kukho iindidi zexesha eliphambili lokuqhagamshelana kwezizukulwana - ukumazana kwabazali bomyeni kunye nomtshakazi, ngokugqithiseleyo, kwaye ekugqibeleni umzuzu obalulekileyo - ulwalamano lwabazali bomtshakazi nomyeni.
Kwiimeko ezininzi, isigqibo malunga nomtshato esizayo sasithathwa ngabazali. Kwaye, kwiimeko ezininzi, kwakungumntu owaziwayo ngabazali bomyeni nomyeni owayeyintloko kunye nokuxhomekeka kuye ukuba imvume yomtshato yayiza kuvakala. Lo mkhosi ubizwa ngokuba yi-matchmaking kwaye inezithethe ezithakazelisayo kakhulu kumazwe ahlukeneyo.
KwiRus ukwenzela ukuba umdlalo uphumelele umhla wonyulo - iProrov, Oktobha 14. Ngelo xesha, abaqeqeshi badibana kunye nabazali babo kunye nezinye izalamane, beza endlwini yomtshakazi ngamahlaya kunye namahlaya. Nangona kunjalo, injongo yangempela yokwenza umdlalo yayicacile, kwaye nabazali bomtshakazi baphendule kwakhona ngokuvuya. Ukususela kumazwi amnandi kunye neentetho, inqaku elithi "unayo impahla, sinomthengisi" lugcinwe, kule nto inendima ebalulekileyo yabazali. Ngamanye amaxesha kwakudingeka ukhethe amaxesha amabini okanye amathathu, ngokukodwa ukuba umtshakazi wayaziwa njengebuhle, kodwa ngeentsiba ezizityebi. Imvume yomtshato iboniswe kwintlanganiso edibeneyo yabazali bobabini zombini. Ukuba ngaba abazali bomtshakazi bathumela umyeni wakhe isonka somtshato wakhe - sasithetha ukuba "cha."
Kwaye ukuba ukuba ku-Rus isicwangciso esivela kubazali bomyeni, eNdiya isiko sichasene ngokuthe ngqo - abazali bomtshakazi badibene. Isithethe sisekhona nanamhla, kwaye abanye abazali bomtshakazi kunye ne-Indiya yanamhlanje bavakashele abazali beejaji ezifanelekileyo, bachaza ubuhle kunye nezakhono zentombi yakhe kunye nenkqantosi yakhe. Ukwazisa kwindoda kunye nomfazi ngexesha elizayo kuvela kwiifoto.
E-China, inqaku lathunyelwa kubazali bomtshakazi, ebonisa igama lomyeni, umhla kunye nesikhathi sokuzalwa kwakhe. Ngenxa yokubaluleka kwe-horoscope yasempuma kunye neempembelelo zayo kuzo zonke iindawo zentlanga yaseTshayina, lo mzuzwana wawusigxina. Intsapho yomtshakazi yayichitha inqabileyo ngokuphathelele ukuba umyeni kunye nomtshakazi bafanelane, ngokusekelwe ekuthelekisweni kweenkwenkwezi zabo. Baye baqikelela kwintsapho yomyeni. Nge-horoscope enhle, imvume yanikwa umtshato.
Ngelo xesha, abazali bomyeni nomyeni baqhelana nomhla wokusayinela isivumelwano somtshato osemtsha. Indawo yendibano yabo yayiyindlu yomtshakazi, phambi kwawo ibekwe imifanekiso yezilwanyana ezenza ulonwabo, kwaye ngaphambi kokungena endlwini, unqulo lwalunqulo. Kwakhona kwakukho ukutya okudityanisiweyo kokutya, kwakufuneka ukuba uphuze indebe yewayini-isimboli sendlu yabaselula njengokomityi epheleleyo.
Nangona kunjalo, kwamanye amazwe, abazali abazange bakwazi ukuphazamisa isigqibo sabantu abancinci, ngoko, ePolynesia, loo mfana ngokwakhe wabuya kwintombazana, eza kuye ngexesha lomdaniso kwimbala yemfazwe.
Emva kwemvume yentombazana, abatsha baxela isigqibo sabo kubazali babo kwaye ukuba ngabazali bomtshakazi bayaphikisana, abaselula bayasinda. Kuyabonakala ukuba akukho mfuneko yokunxibelelana nabazali bomtshakazi nomyeni, kuba ekugqibeleni abazali bomtshakazi kufuneka banike imvume yabo emtshatweni baze baxhamle iiflegi ezimhlophe ngesimo somhlophe-isipho kumtshakazi.
Njengoko kunokubonwa kwimimiselo, ngamanye amaxesha ulwalamano lwabazali bomyeni kunye nomtshakazi unomnqophiso wokutshata komtshato. Kwaye nangona iikhokelo ezininzi sele zilibalekile, kwaye ukumazana kwabazali namhlanje ngokuqhelekileyo kuyindlela yokwenza izinto, kubalulekile kakhulu ukuba uqhelane kakuhle nomkhwe kamva kunye nomkhwezala, kunye nomkhwekazi noninazala.