Umfazi ngamnye ongatshatanga wazibuza yena umbuzo othi "Unokukhetha njani indoda ngomtshato ophumelelayo?" Ngaloo nto, hlala nomntu kulo lonke ixesha lwakhe. Uphuhliso olunjalo lweziganeko lwaxelwa kwangethuba ebuntwaneni, sibeka le njongo, kodwa ngesizathu esithile akunakwenzeka ukuba wonke umntu aphumelele le njongo. Kodwa abaninzi abazange bacinge ukuba uphuhliso olongezelelekileyo lwentsebenziswano engathandekiyo kunye "nesikhulu" sakhe lungaqikelelwa kwangoko ekuqaleni kobudlelwane.
Yintoni endimele ndiyifunayo xa ndakhetha umntu ngomtshato ophumelelayo?
- Qala ngombuzo ngokwakho-kutheni ufuna umyeni? Ukuba neentsapho kunye nokunyamekela? Ukuzala nokuvelisa umntwana? Okanye unomhlobo othembekileyo kunye nomlingane onoxanduva osondeleyo kuwe? Ngoko ukuba umntu osendlwini anakho ukuxhoma ishedyuli okanye ukulungisa iphampu? Kwaye, mhlawumbi, ekugqibeleni, ukuhamba nomsebenzi ongathandekiyo kwaye ubambelele kwihlombe lomntu onamandla? Ngokuxhomekeke kwinto ofuna, umfanekiso womntu oyifunayo, oya kukwanelisa iimfuno zakho, uya kwakha. Ukusebenzisa iimpendulo zakho kwimibandela enjalo, gxotha ingqondo yengqondo yomntu wamaphupha akho. Musa ukulibala ukubonisa iimpawu zayo eziphambili, ezahlukileyo.
- Kukho into oyixabisa kakhulu kumadoda - yongeza uluhlu oluphambili lweqabane lakho elizayo kunye nale mihlaba. Yaye kwaye ayinalo kuphela impawu zayo zengqondo, kodwa nazo iimfuno ukubonakala kwayo, isimo sezenhlalakahle, imvelaphi, umsebenzi kunye nokuzilibazisa. Qiniseka ukubhala phantsi! Ukuqulunqwa kweengcamango kwiphepha kuzakukusindisa ekuphindaphindiweyo kwaye kuya kukucacisa ukuba uluphi uhlobo lomntu oyifunayo, nokuba uyayazi kakuhle ukuba uthanda ubude, amadoda anamehlo aluhlaza. Ukuba kunzima ukuzicingela iminqweno yeminqweno yakho, kuya kuba nzima ukufumanisa uhlobo luni lomntu, iqabane lakho ebomini, onokuthanda ukudibanisa ubomi bakhe bonke abathanda ukuhamba nabo bonke ukuzonwabisa kunye nentlungu.
Ukurekhoda kwiphepha kuya kukunceda uqaphele ukuchasana. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba amantombazana anika umntu oqinileyo, onamandla kwaye onqabileyo, ngelixa kufuneka abe nomphefumlo onomdla kunye nomntu obalaseleyo. Kodwa ke, ezininzi izakhiwo zeengqondo azihambelani komntu oyedwa, ngoko ke kuyimfuneko ukunquma ukuba yimpumelelo iya kuba yintloko yakho, kuyimfuneko kwiinjongo zakho, kwaye yintoni enokuthi ingayihoywa.
- Ngoko, ukhethe umfanekiso womntu onomtshato wakhe ocinga ukuba uya kuphumelela. Isikhathi sokucinga malunga nendawo, kukuphi "indawo yokuhlala" onokufumaneka. U qeqesho lo shishino? Umbutho wabathandi befilimu? Ibhola loFitness? Kwintlanganiso yezokhenketho okanye i-paratroopers? Emva kokuba uzimisele indawo yenzalo, qalisa ukudala izimo zokuba uqhelanise nomntu ochazile.
- Ufumene umviwa? Jonga ngokukhawuleza, nokuba ngaba le ndoda ehambelana ne-portrait yakho ehlanganisiweyo-akuyimfuneko nokokuba uya kusondelana. Emva kwakho konke, kubalulekile ukudibanisa amanqanaba akho: iimvakalelo kunye neengqondo, imikhwa kunye neenkcukacha zokuziphatha, iimpawu zokuziphatha kunye neenjongo zokuphila.
- Ekuqaleni kokuphuculwa kobudlelwane, ezininzi izibini zitshintshile amehlo "kwezinye izinto" ezinokuthi zibuye zibe yinkalo enkulu yeengxaki kunye nokungavumelani. Ngoko ke, kucetyiswa ukuba ucinge ngenyameko ukuba kukho ukungabaza kwiinqanaba zokuqala zophuhliso lobudlelwane. Hlaziya: ngaba umviwa uhluleka ukudlulisa "ukukhangela umgangatho" okanye awuve uhlala naye kunye, uhambelana ngokupheleleyo? Thatha ixesha lakho ngokukhetha, guqula ingqondo yakho.
- Ukuba unyule umntu ofanelekileyo umtshato ophumelelayo, unokufumana ngokutyelela intsapho yakhe. Uza kubona indlela ubudlelwane obakhelwe ngayo ngokumalunga namadoda, amakhwenkwe. Ngaba isondo esiqinileyo singabesifazane, odade kunye neentombi. Ujonge ngokwenene kwixesha elizayo kwintsapho yakho ngokuqwalasela intsapho yakhe. Hlalani kunye kunye - hlaziya ubomi bentsapho, kodwa musa ukulibazisa ukupheliswa komtshato osemthethweni. Ukuba, ngokuqinisekileyo, injongo yakho ayiyena umtshato.
Jonga, qaphela.
Futhi ungakulibali malunga nophuhliso lwakho. Gcina umzimba usemgangathweni, jongeka kakuhle, kunye nomoya - uhlale unomoya ovuya, thanda ubomi! Ngethuba, uthando lwamaqhina, iimpawu ezinokutshabalalisa nokugqwala, "yidle" iimvakalelo zakho. Ukuphuhlisa rhoqo, ukuphucula, ungalahlekelwa ngumdla ebomini kwaye uhlale uzama ukukholisa omnye nomnye - yiyo kanye kunye neenjongo zakho ezifanayo kunye neemvakalelo kuya kunceda ukugcina umdla kunye nokuhlonelana omnye nomnye. Ngoko wandisa ixesha lobomi bentsapho yakho.