Kutheni abafazi befuna ukutshata
Ukuqinisa ubudlelwane. Ngamanye amaxesha amabhinqa asebenzisa iindlela ezahlukeneyo zokugcina umthandayo. Lo mtshato uvumela ukuba "ubophe" izandla kunye neenyawo zomntu kwaye unike ithuba lokuphucula ubudlelwane.
Umtshato oqhelisayo. Kwenzeka ukuba abantu bahlala ndawonye iminyaka emininzi, kodwa abavumelani nobuhlobo babo. Emva koko, indoda kunye nomfazi baya kwisivumelwano esivumelwaneni somtshato, ngelixa bekhokelwa ngqalelo zabo iingcinga zabo, kwaye bangenzi ngokuvumelana nentando yomsindo.
Musa ukulala emva kwamantombazana akho! Kwenzeka ukuba abafazi bafuna ukutshata, kuba bacinga njalo: "Bonke abahlobo kunye nabahlobo bam sele sele batshatile! Kunokuba ndiyingozi nakakhulu? "Ngoko ukucinga akuyiyo into yokuzithemba. Kubo, into ephambili kukuba uhlale kunye neentombi (esikolweni baxoshe amabanga, kwiSiko - ukuze bahlale benomdla), ukuba bangabi "ngumfana omdala", kwaye umbuzo othi ngubani oza kuba ngumlingani awubalulekanga.
Makhe sizame? Ngokuqhelekileyo, ngale ndlela yokwakhiwa kwentsapho, amathuba okuqhawula umtshato awanakuphepheka. Emva koko, abafazi abaselula ababaqondi oko bakufunayo.
Umtshato njengesicwangciso esiqhelekileyo ebomini. Ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka - ekupheleni kweZiko le ntombazana iyazi ukuba kufuneka isitshatile. Kwaye umyeni kufuneka abe ngokufanayo njengoko wachaza ngayo kwisicwangciso. Olu hlobo lomtshato luvela kwizinto ezicacileyo, zilandela iplani ezalisekileyo yamantombazana. Zonke aziyi kuba nto, kodwa kuphela umlingane akazange abuze umbono wakhe kwisicwangciso. Ngenxa yoko, ngenxa yokungavumelani, umtshato ungashenxiswa.
Ixesha lokutshata. Intombazana ngokukhawuleza iyaqonda ukuba lixesha layo. Kule meko, intombazana inokuphumelela kuphela esikolweni okanye ngokulandelelana kungekudala iya kubhiyozela imihla yokuzalwa kwayo. Okukhethiweyo akuyikulawulwa ngumdala. Intsingiselo yomtshato kukuba, njengentela kwisithethe, njengemvume kumama noyise, ekugqibeleni, ukuba nentsapho. Abantombazana abasebenzisa ukukhetha kwabo.
Umtshato wokulula. Kukholelwa ukuba imitshato enjalo iyona nto iqhubekayo. Nangona le nto yinto ehlukeneyo yomtshato, ukulandela iimfuno zayo (izinto eziphathekayo, ezengqondo).
Umntwana. Abafazi bazama ukuba nabantwana, batshatile, babe nezingane ezisemthethweni. Isizathu sokuba, kulo mzekelo, abafazi bafuna ukutshata kukuzaliseka komnqweno wokuba banakekele abantwana babo, banomuxhaso onokwethenjelwa kwintsapho.
Kuzo zonke iintlobo zemimiselo yomtshato, injongo kuphela ukutshata, kodwa iinjongo ezenza umtshato uphelele.
Ngoko, yintoni imfuneko yokutshata? Kucacile ukuba nakwizinga lofuzo, inzululwazi yokuzala ixanduva lokufezekiswa kwenkqubo yokudala intsapho. Kwaye kwakunjalo kwinkqubo yokuqala yoluntu, kwaye ke ngoku. Kuyaphawuleka ukuba umtshato wowesifazane wayesebenza ngokuzimisela ngamaxesha onke, wawubaluleke ngakumbi kunomntu. Ngokwesiko, isimo somfazi otshatileyo senza isikhundla sakhe kuluntu oluphakamileyo. Kwiphondo, abafazi babesoloko bekwesaba "ukuhlala kunye namantombazana", ekubeni amandla okubandlulula "imithetho" kule ndawo kwaye apha ayilandela ngokukodwa isithethe.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, ukuhlalisana kwexesha elide, okubizwa ngokuba ngumtshato womtshato, kuchitha umtshato oseburhulumenteni, nangona okokugqibela kuthathwa njengokhetho. Abathandi abaninzi basekuqaleni banquma ukuhlala kunye kunye nexesha elithile, "ukuvavanya" ukunyaniseka kweemvakalelo nokuxabana kwimpilo yabo yemihla ngemihla ngaphambi kokubhalisa ubudlelwane babo neofisi yokubhalisa. Ngamanye amaxesha umtshato womtshato ubambezeleka, kwaye usemncinci, ungasakwazi ukufumana ingqalelo ekubhaliseni umtshato, wenqabe ukwakha ubudlelwane ngaphandle kokucinga ngemiphumo enokwenzeka. Ngaba oku kulungile?
Kwenzeka ukuba ezinye zeemeko ezikhoyo kwiintsapho ezincinci azikwazi ukulungiswa ngaphandle kokuncediswa kwemithetho yentsapho ekhoyo. Emva koko, ukuba umfazi usatshatile, nayiphi na impahla kunye neminye imiba engathintekiyo ingasombululwa ngumthetho. Esi sibini sinento efanayo: ubomi, ukusombulula iingxaki kunye nokwabelana ngolonwabo, ukuxhaswa kunye kunye nokuxanduva, kodwa ngokutsho kwelizwi likaThixo, intsapho iyisondlo esondeleyo semiphefumlo yabantu.