Sinokukwazi njani ukugcina ubudlelwane obusondeleyo nomntwana ngexesha lakhe eliselula? Ungamxelela njani ukuba wena, njengabanye, unqwenela unoyolo?
Xa sele eselula, umntwana uvakalelwa kukuba iingxaki zakhe zihlabathi jikelele kangangokuthi yena ngokwakhe akakwazi ukuzisombulula. Apha ufanele ufike kuncedo, kodwa unobtrusively. Musa ukuxelela umntwana ukuba enze ntoni, makenze zonke izigqibo ngokwakhe. Okokuqala kufuneka ube ngumhlobo omdala, kodwa kungengomfundisi oqinileyo. Umntwana ongeyintsana, uyakwazi ukuphuma ebunzima bakhe bokuqala ngokwakhe. Makube khona, uya kukuxabisa ukuthatha inxaxheba.
Ngabantwana abaselula abanemfihlelo kunye neemfihlelo abazigcina ngokucophelela kwaye abavumelanga abazali ukuba bafunde nantoni na. Nika umntwana ilungelo lokukhokela ubomi bakhe, kuba ngale ndlela uyakhula. Kodwa kusenjalo kufuneka uqaphele iziganeko eziqhelekileyo zobomi bakhe. Ukwenza oku, unokwenza ubulungiselele ukuhlwaya kwesityhilelo. Jonga i-movie ndawonye, hamba u-skating-skating, uhlale kwi-cafe. Ixesha lokubambisana lidibanisa umntwana ukuba athethe ngokungathandabuzekiyo. Ungamphoqeleli ukuba akuxelele into ethile, qalisa ngokwakho: mxelele ngothando lwakho lokuqala lwesikolo, malunga nendlela obhala ngayo imbongo okanye into enomoya wakhe ngexesha lakhe, uze umcele. Mxelele ukuba awuyibi nxamnye nemicimbi yakhe.
Ngamanye amaxesha intsha ikhetha abahlobo abazali abayithandi kakhulu. Ukuba umntwana uqalise ukuthetha kunye nenkampani embi, ukuthintela kwakho kungenza ngcono imeko: unokukwenza konke ukukukhathaza, ukubonisa ukuba sele sele esemdala, kwaye unelungelo lokukhetha bakhe abahlobo. Kuya kuba ngcono ukuba wena kwiimeko ezifanelekileyo ubonisa ukusilela kwabangane bakhe, abone konke ngaphandle kwakhe. Ukuba ixhalabisa izinto ezinzulu ezifana notywala kunye neziyobisi, ngoko imeko ihluke. Apha ufuna i "cha" ecacileyo kwaye ecacileyo (kunye nendoda engcono). Xa ukutshiswa komsindo kunye nentukuthelo idlulayo, zama ukuthwala into ethile yomntwana. Cinga ngezinto athanda ukuzenza kwaye, ngoku kwesi siseko, beza kunye nokuzonwabisa. Ukuzilibazisa kubaluleke kakhulu kumntwana, akusebenzi nje kuphela kwindlela ephuhlisayo, kodwa ikwazisa isimo sengqondo esifanelekileyo ngokwayo - intombazana iqala ukuzibona njengomntu wento enentsingiselo. Ngamanye amaxesha ukhetho olulungileyo lokuzilibazisa lunceda umntwana ukuba abe nenjongo ebomini.
Yichitha ixesha elide, yenza imisebenzi edibeneyo: hlambulula kunye kunye, pheka into enandi, yintengiso, hamba, uthethe. Kubalulekile ukunika intombazana yakhe imbono yakhe, kunye nokuthatha inxaxheba ekuxazululeni iingxaki zakhe. Kusondele kakhulu.
Mhlawumbi ingxaki enkulu kwinjenge-ntombazana ibonakala. Abaselula (ikakhulukazi amantombazana) bahlala benganelisekanga ngeenguqu ezinxulumene nobudala obunokuchaphazela ubuso babo: isikhumba seoli, izibhunqa. Cacisa umntwana ukuba yonke into ihamba ngoku, ekugqibeleni yonke into iya kuhamba ngokufanelekileyo, akufanele uqaphele ukunyeliswa koontanga, kungcono ukuphatha yonke into ngokuhlekisa. Emva koko, zonke iifenki ezihle zikhula zivela ezintsheni ezimbi.
Ixesha lokukhula lusebunzima ebomini. Dlulisa kunye nomntwana wakho, ncedise kuyo yonke into, ungamgxeka, ube ngumhlobo wakhe omhle, kwaye ke yonke into entsapho yakho iya kuba yinto efanelekileyo.