Iimpawu zengqondo zeselula zihluke kwezo zichazwe kubantwana nakubantu abadala. Ngeendlela ezininzi, oku kubangelwa kukuba ebudeni, kungekudala ukucinga okucinga, njengabantwana, kodwa ukucinga okungabonakali kukuphuhlisa ngakumbi nangaphezulu. Umntwana osemtsha uzama ukucinga ngokuzimela ngokuzimeleyo, ngobuchule, ngobuchule. Abaselula abakwishumi elivisayo, kunye nabantwana, bahlawule ngakumbi ingqalelo, ukuzonwabisa kwangaphandle. Ukukhula kwasekuqaleni kubonakala ngokucinga okuzimeleyo, oko kukuthi, inkqubo yokucinga ngokwayo inomdla.
Kubaselula, iziphumo ezilandelayo ziyimpawu: umnqweno wokuqonda, ingqondo engqondweni, ininzi yeminqweno, ngokuqhelekileyo ngokusabalalisa, ukusilela kwenkqubo kwinkcazelo efunyenweyo. Ngokuqhelekileyo umntwazana wakhe uzama ukulawula iimpawu zakhe ezingqondweni kwizinto ezithandayo. Oku kubaluleke kakhulu ekuhloleni ubuchule bengqondo yabantwana abaselula . Ngokuqhelekileyo ubunqanaba beengcaphephe buphantsi kunomyinge, kodwa xa kusombulula iingxaki ezibonakalayo ezivela ebomini kwaye bephakathi kwalaontanga, bangabonisa ubuchule kunye ne-savvy ekhethekileyo. Ngoko ke, ukuvavanya ingqiqo yenkwenkwezi enzima, esekelwe kuphela kwizalathisi eziqhelekileyo, ihlala iphosakele ukuba inikwe ngaphandle kokuqwalasela iimfuno zayo kunye nemeko yobomi. Kwixesha elivisayo elibonakalisa ukungalingani kwemvakalelo, ukuguquka kwemizwelo ebalulekileyo, ukuguquka ngokukhawuleza ukusuka ekuphakanyisweni ukuya kutshintshiweyo. Ukutshatyalaliswa kobundlobongela okuchaphazelayo, okuvela ngokuchasene nokuthetha ngeentsilelo ezibonakalayo okanye ukuzama ukunciphisa ukuzimela, kunokubonakala ngathi abantu abanelungelo.
Kuye kwafunyanwa ukuba ukunyameka kwengqondo kumantombazana kuwela iminyaka eyi-13-15, kunye namakhwenkwe-iminyaka eyi-11-13. Ukukhula kwasekuqaleni kuzinzileyo, iimvakalelo zengqondo ziyahlukahlukana. Ngokukhawuleza ukukhukhumeza ngokukhawuleza kuthintela ngokukhawuleza ukuthula kwangaphandle, isimo sengqondo esinqabileyo kuzo zonke izinto ezizungezile. Iintsholongwane zinomdla wokwenza izinto ezibonakalayo, ukucinga, ezidla ngokubangela ukuphuhliswa kwamazwe achaphazelekayo. Xa sele eselula, iimpawu ezibonakalayo ze-psyche zibonakala. Ngoko, umzekelo, ukuphikelela kunye nenjongo kunokudibaniswa nokungazinzi kunye nokunyaniseka, kunye nokuzithemba kunye nesimo sengqondo esiphi na isahlulelo sinokuhambelana nokuzithemba kunye nokukhuseleka okulula. Eminye imizekelo i-swagger kunye neentloni, imfuno yokunxibelelana kunye nomnqweno wokuthatha umhlalaphantsi, ulwalamano kunye nobunzulu obomileyo, iimvakalelo eziphakamileyo kunye nokunyaniseka, ukunyamekela ngokunyanisekileyo nokunyaniseka, uthando kunye nobutsha, inkohlakalo, ukwahlukana.
Ingxaki yobunjani bomntu abakwishumi elivisayo yinkimbinkimbi kwaye ingancinci kuphuhliso lweengqondo. Kuyaziwa ukuba umzuzu wokuguquka ukususela ebuntwaneni ukuya ekubeni ngumntu omdala kunzima ngakumbi iimfuno ezibekwa uluntu kumntu omdala kwaye umntwana uyabonakala. Ngokomzekelo, kumazwe aphuhliswa kakubi kwezoqoqosho, umahluko kwimimiselo ayikho enkulu kangangokuba wenza utshintsho ukususela ebuntwaneni ukuya ekuvuthweni oluhlazileyo, olungabonakaliyo, olungathandekiyo. Kodwa imeko echanekileyo ibonakala kumazwe amaninzi aphucukileyo, apho iimfuno eziqhelekileyo ekuziphatheni kwabantwana nakwabantu abadala azikho nje phezulu, kodwa kunokuphikisana. Ekubuntwaneni, umzekelo, ukuthobela kunye nokuntuleka kwamalungelo kuyadingeka, ngelixa uvela kumntu omdala ukuzimela kunye necala elilindelekileyo. Umzekelo oqhelekileyo yinto yokuba umntwana ukhuselwe kuzo zonke izinto ezinxulumene nesondo. Kwaye ekukhuleni, ngokuchasene noko, isondo sinendima ebalulekileyo.
Ukusuka ngasentla, kunokugqitywa ukuba inkqubela yeengqondo, kunye neembali, imvelaphi yezoqoqosho, ukuhlukana kweenkcubeko kunye noluntu kwintlalo apho umntwana ekhula kwaye ubuntu buqala ukwenza, kufuneka kuthathe ingqalelo ukuhlukana kwengqondo ngokwahlukileyo, ngokweziganeko zobuntu kunye nolwabelana ngesondo.