Umbono woluntu
Isizathu sokuqala sokutshata, okanye kunoko sitshatile ngokukhawuleza, kunokwenzeka ukuba i-thsissis yexesha elivivinywayo: "Awukwazi ukuhlala kuluntu kwaye uzimelele." Umbono karhulumente unendima ebalulekileyo ekwakheni isimo somntu womhlaba, ukubeka izinto eziphambili kwimpilo.
Mhlawumbi zonke iintombazana ziyazi umbuzo womhlobo wakhe omdala entlanganisweni: "Ewe, akatshatanga?". Ukuba ngaba ngabahlobo bam kuphela, kodwa nabahlobo. Kwaye abazali baqala ukuzibuza xa intombi yabo ethandekayo iya kwenza abazukulu bakhe bajabule. Kwaye omnye umama ovela eZhytomyr ubizwa, wabuza: "Xa u-Olesya etshatile, kwaye emva kweminyaka engamashumi amabini anesihlanu emva kwayo yonke into. Abamelwane baseVaughn bonke be-rasskazkivali, uTatiana wazala intombi, kunye namaMila - twins, kunye nabayeni-abahle. " Endaweni ye-Olesya yayingamantombazana amaninzi, ukusuka kulo mnqweno wabo wokuba abe endaweni yeTatiana okanye iMila ikhula ngokukhawuleza, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha iya kwi-mania. Abanye baya kucinga ntoni ngomfazi oselula, ongatshatanga? "Into ephosakeleyo kuye, mhlawumbi, impawu ezimbi, kungenxa yokuba akukho mntu uthabatha umtshato." Kwaye oku kungcono, ngamanye amaxesha, imfesane idlala ngokunyanisekileyo.
Umbono kawonkewonke uchaza umntu ngamnye kuluntu ukuba kulungile nantoni na. Indlela yokuziphatha kwiimeko ezahlukeneyo zobomi. Siyamthanda, xa sidunyiswa, misela njengomzekelo. Musa ukuphuma kwindlela yokuziphatha-eyona yeenjongo zowesifazane ozama umtshato.
Ukufumana ukhuseleko
Wonke umfazi ufuna ukuziva unqabiseko, zombini kunye nezinto eziphathekayo. Umnqweno wokukhuseleko ubonakala ngakumbi kwizinga elimnandi, ngenxa yembali yembali yoluntu. Ngaphandle kokungena enzulu kwiinkcukacha, kunokuthiwa ukuba kuyo yonke imbali yokuba khona koluntu, abafazi baye bahlala kwindawo exhomekeke kumadoda, okufakwe kwiimilinganiselo ezinzulu ze-subconscious. Ukutshata, ibhinqa liyaziqonda iimfuno zokukhuselwa, ngamanye amaxesha kunemiqathango, kuba abafazi abaphumelelayo ngengqondo yezoqoqosho bayakwazi ukuzikhusela ngaphandle kokuthatha inxaxheba "yindoda".
Abafundi bezentlalo bezemfundo bafika kwisigqibo sokuthi umfanekiso womntu ozama ukutshata nabasetyhini ufana nomfanekiso wobawo owakhulisa umfazi. Kule nkcazelo ukuba imfuno yecala lomfazi elondolozwe ngumgcini ibonakala kwinxalenye yendoda. Ukususela ebuntwaneni, intombazana isetyenziselwa ukuba iyalondolozwa kuqala nguyise, kwikamva - ngumyeni. Kwaye kwasebuncinaneni ukuba i-worldview kunye neenkqubo zokubaluleka kwezinto zobomi besetyhini zenziwe, kunye noxinzelelo lwengqondo oluphezulu ukusuka kwimeko yokukhuliselwa. Kule ndawo, umntwana ufumana izikhokelo zokuqala zengqondo zengqesho yomtshato ongekho phantsi komntu.
Ubunini bumnini
Esinye isizathu esibalulekileyo somnqweno wesifazana sokutshata ngumlinganiselo wobunini. Oku akukona kwipropati yendoda, abayatshatileyo, iinjongo zobugovu azibandakani nalokhu. Kuye malunga nendoda ngokwakhe, kungakhathaliseki ukuba i-vulgar ityandi. Abasetyhini abaninzi bakholelwa ukuba ngokutshata, bafumana umyeni wabo kwipropati. Kukhona omnye umbandela-ukuba ukususela kumzuzwana womtshato, indoda iyaqala ukuba yowomfazi kuphela kwaye akukho mntu. Umfazi unenkxalabo yokuba indoda ayisekho kumntu, kodwa yedwa kuye.
Le nyaniso inengcaciso elula: umvo wobunini unceda umfazi ukuba aphelise ukuvalo kokulahlekelwa ngumntu othandekayo. Ukuba ukhangeleka ingqalelo encinane kwinqanaba lomfazi, umtshato, ngombono wakhe, isigqibo esinzulu esichaza inkqubela yobomi besikhathi esizayo, bobabini nabasetyhini. Ezi zigqibo zivumela ukucwangcisa ubomi beentsapho ezidibeneyo kwiminyaka ezayo, ebonisa ukuzithemba nokuzinza esikhathini esizayo, ekuphunyezweni kweengqondo zentlalo, ugonywe ukususela ebuntwaneni.
Kungakhathaliseki ukuba ziphi izizathu zomnqweno onomdla wabasetyhini, kuyimfuneko ukuqonda ukuba abantu banesakhiwo ngokukhawuleza ukuba banikezele ukucinga. Ubomi obonwabileyo nomntu ondibathandayo kunokwenzeka ngaphandle komtshato, ukutshintsha kwakhona kuyinyaniso. Hayi yonke imitshato iyavuya. Kwaye ngaphezu kwama-50 ekhulwini ahlukana kwiminyaka emihlanu yokuqala yobomi bentsapho. Ubomi bentsapho bubandakanya umsebenzi onzima ngokwakho, bobabini nomfazi, kulukhuni kunye ne-ego yakho kunye nokucinga rhoqo.