Ekukhangekeni kwintshukumo, iimvakalelo ezinzulu kunye nokunyanisekileyo, abasandul 'ukutshata banamhlanje baya kutshintsha kwimicimbi yomtshato yendabuko. Esi sisiganeko esinomdla ngakumbi, abaninzi abasanda kutshata bayavuma ukuba umtshato wabo wancedwa kakhulu ngumtshato womtshato, owawuchukumisa ingqondo kunye nokuthanda ngokomoya, baphinda bahlola iingcinga ezifana nokunyaniseka nokuhlonipha omnye nomnye. Ukuba ucinga ngomtshato, musa ukuthatha izigqibo ngokukhawuleza: kuba isakramente idinga ukulungiswa.
Okokuqala, kufuneka ukhethe usuku oluvela kwikhalenda yomtshato, kwaye okwesibini, ukuba uzifundele ngemigaqo ebalulekileyo yomtshato ebandleni kwaye, ekugqibeleni, ukhethe loo nto. Imithetho ebalulekileyo yomtshato ecaweni ilula. Inkqubo yomtshato ayibanjwe ngexesha lokuzila ukudla: akukho lusuku olunye okanye uninzi lweentsuku. Ngokweziko lama-Orthodox, umyeni kufuneka abe ngaphezu kweminyaka eyi-18 ubudala, kunye nomyeni-minyaka eyi-16. Kukho ezinye izithintelo - icawa ayithandi imitshato emininzi kunye nomtshato womtshato wesine kwaye awusenakwenzeka. Izibambiso zomtshato, ngaphezu koko, ubuhlobo begazi phakathi komtshakazi nomyeni okanye ukuvela kwesinye sezifo zengqondo. Umcimbi womtshato awubanjwanga ongabhaptizwanga, kubantu abakholelwa kwezinye izinto okanye ukukholelwa ukuba bakholelwa kuThixo. Intsikelelo yomzali inqwenelekayo kumtshato wecawa, kodwa ukungabikho kwayo akuthinteli umcimbi ukuba abasandul 'ukutshata bafikelele kubantu abadala. Ukukhulelwa akusisithintelo.
Ukuba abantu abaselula bahlangabezana nale mfuno, baya kufuna ukukhetha icawa ezimbini ukuya kwiiveki ezintathu ngaphambi kokuba bahambe kwaye bavakatye ukuze baqhelane nemithetho kunye nekhosi ye-sakramente. Ngokuqhelekileyo, umtshato wenziwa ngumfundisi wakhe, kodwa ngezinye iimeko abantu abasandul 'ukutshata bayavunyelwa ukuqhuba isithethe kunye noyise wabo ongokomoya. Ukuba uceba ukuthatha iifoto kunye namavidiyo, kufuneka uxoxisane nombingeleli kwangaphambili. Ukongeza, unokongezwa ukuba ulandele intsimbi yokubetha kunye necawa yecawa, nangona kwezinye iicawa sele sele zibandakanyiwe kwisithethe.
Kwiinkoliso ezininzi, umtshato ubanjwe ngokuqeshwa, ngoko ke, ukhetha ixesha kunye nomhla kwikhalenda, qi niqiniseke ukuba uyayifumana loo nto evela kumbingeleli wetempile. Umtshato ubanjwe kuphela emva kokubhaliswa komtshato kwi-ofisi yokubhalisa, kunye nawe uya kufuneka uthathe isatifiketi somtshato. Umtshakazi nomyeni ngexesha lo mthendeleko kufuneka kube neminqamlezo, ekubeni kubhaptizwe kuphela. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba umtshakazi wayenxibe i-headdress, kunye neyona mincinci yokwenza kwaye akazange asebenzise i-perfume ngefumba elimnandi. Isikhuselo esikhulu kunye nesigqabileyo sinokubamba umlilo emakhandlela. Umtshakazi kuloo mbhiyozo uya kubamba ikhandlela esandleni sakhe aze amnike i-bouquet yakhe phambili ngaphambili.
Ukuba umtshakazi egqoke ingubo yomtshato evulekile, kufuneka iingubo zokugubungela iingalo, isifuba kunye nomva. Isithethe sithatha malunga nemizuzu engama-40, kodwa sinokukhupha ngaphandle, ngoko kuyacetyiswa ukuba ugqoke izicathulo ezipholileyo ezinesithende eziphantsi. Ekubeni sithetha ngomtshakazi, siya kumisa ngokukhawuleza ngexesha elibalulekileyo - ingubo yomtshato. Ingubo yomtshato ihluke emtshatweni womqeqeshi. Ingubo enjalo ingabonakali nje kuphela ngama-Orthodox, kodwa nangokwesiko lamaKatolika. Xa umthendeleko usuphelile, isitimela sinokuthi singagqitywanga okanye sitshintshwe.
Kodwa ukugcina ngexesha elide alilandeliyo, kukho inkolelo yokuba ixesha elide lide, abade bahlala kunye kunye. Ukongezelela, ingubo yomtshato ayifanele ibe yindoda kwaye isisityebi, ngesithethe ibonisa ukuthobeka nokuthozama komtshakazi. Ngokuqhelekileyo kumhlophe. Njengoko kuchazwe ngasentla, ingubo kufuneka igube izandla, isifuba nomva womtshakazi, okanye unengubo. Ingubo yomtshato ayiyiyo ingubo yomtshato, ingaba yinto elula yokuthoba yeetoni. Nangona kunjalo, abaninzi abafazi bathetha ukutshata emigqatsweni yomtshato. Kule meko, kufuneka ugweme izitayela ezimfutshane kunye ezinqambileyo kwaye qiniseka ukusebenzisa iveli. Kwaye ngoku ubuyele kwinkqubo yomtshato ebandleni. Amakhonkco omtshato kufuneka anikwe umbingeleli ngaphambi kokuba aqale, ezandleni zomtshakazi nomyeni kufuneka babe ngamaqhosha omtshato angaphambili.
Ngexesha lokoqobo, kuya kuthatha ixesha elide ukugcina izithsaba phezu kweentloko zomtshakazi nomyeni, ngumsebenzi wamadoda angcono. Kuyinto enqwenelekayo ukuba amadoda angcono kakhulu aphakamileyo, kuba akulula ukubeka iitrinki ixesha elide. Kukho ezinye izinto ezibonakalayo: ubukho bokuba besifazane kwiingqungquthela abunqwenelekayo, kwaye ukuba ezo ziphakathi kweendwendwe, kungcono ukubanika indawo kwindawo ethile phakathi. Akubona wonke umntu okhoyo ubhekisela kumtshato njengomthendeleko, ngenxa yenkqubo enyantisayo kwaye eyakhayo.
Iindwendwe ezinjalo zilungele ukufakwa kwimigca yangemuva. Ubukho bazo zonke iindwendwe kwi-rite ayimfuneko, ngoko ukubunjwa kwabathathi-nxaxheba kungalungiswa kwangaphambili. Umthendeleko womtshato udinga ukugcinwa ngokukodwa kwezithethe zamasiko kunye nemithetho. Ekuqaleni, umbingeleli unikela umkhwenyana nomyeni ukukhanyisa ikhandlela, ngoko-ubeka amacenge omtshato: kuqala ngomunwe womnwe, ngoko umnwe womtshakazi-kwaye utshintshe kathathu. Umyeni ukhethwa ngegolide, kunye nomtshakazi-isandi sesiliva. Ngenxa yengubo yokutshintsha, intsimbi yegolide ihlala kunye nomtshakazi, kunye nengxolo yesiliva kunye nomyeni.
Emva kokutshatyalaliswa, abatshangatshangayo baya kwiziko lethempelini kwaye umbingeleli ubuza ukuba bayatshata ngokholo olufanelekileyo nokuba ngaba kukho imiqobo kule nto. Iimpendulo zilandelwa ngumthandazo kunye neengqungquthela zifakwe kwiintloko zabasanda kutshata. Emva koko isitya sewayini siphumela, sibonakalisa uvuyo kunye neengxaki, ezinikwa umtshakazi kwizihlandlo ezintathu. Emva koko, umbingeleli ubamba umyeni kunye nomfazi ngokuphindwe kathathu ngeesandla ezixhunyiwe kwicawa ecula nge-analo. Ekugqibeleni, bavuka emasangweni kaKumkani wesibingelelo baze bavelele ukuqulunqwa kombingeleli. Emva koko, i-rite ibhekwa njengento epheleleyo kwaye abantu abaselula bayathokoza ngabahlobo kunye nezihlobo.