Nangona kunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuba zinzima kangakanani izazinzulu kunye neengcali kwintsimi, akukho ndlela yokufumana impendulo engabonakaliyo kulo mbuzo. Umgangatho ophezulu, ngoogqirha abaninzi, akusona ixesha, kodwa ukulungele intombazana ngokwayo, kokubili ngokomzimba nokuziphatha.
Ngokwezibalo, okwangoku i-age age of loss of virginity kwihlabathi iminyaka eyi-18. Ngokuqinisekileyo, oku kungumnani kuphela, eneneni, izigidi zamantombazana ziqala ukulala ngesondo ngaphambili. Kodwa oogqirha bayalumkisa ukuba ukuqala kwesenzo socansi ngamanye amaxesha kwandisa umngcipheko wokuba nezifo ezivuthayo zesifo somzimba. Konke malunga ne-anatomy. I-hymen idlala indima yoluhlobo lwesithintelo esilungiselelwe ukukhusela isilwanyana esincinane kwiintsholongwane kude kube yinto ekhuselekileyo yowesifazane. Omnye umngcipheko, oqhelekileyo ungacingwa ngamantombazana amantombazana anqume ukuba abe ngabantu abadala, unokuba lunokwenzeka ukuphazamiseka kwe-vagin epithelium, eseluncinci.
Ukuba sithetha ngomda wokuphakama ophezulu, oko kukuthi, xa "kuya kukhawuleza" ukuba ulahleke ubuntombi, ngoko umda ungachazwanga, nangona kunjalo, ngokwezinye oogqirha, i-hymen kunye nexesha lilahlekelwa ukunyaniseka kwayo, kwaye ukuphuka kwayo kuya kuba buhlungu kakhulu. Nangona kunjalo, le ngongoma yombono ayikude iyingcali - iingcali ezininzi zikholelwa ukuba ubunzima be-hymen buxhomekeke kuphela kwisakhiwo somntu ngamnye wesibini.
Ngokungekona kungangonyango, kodwa umbandela wengqondo, kuyafaneleka ukukhumbula ukuba ukulahleka kobuntombi kubaluleke kakhulu ebomini babo bonke abafazi. Kuvela kumava okuqala ukuba ubomi bakhe bobulili buhlala buxhomekeka, kuba ngelo xesha umfazi wesisu uzalwa. Yaye ukuba ukuba kule ngcamango ukubuza lo mbuzo, kuthini ukuphazamiseka kwexesha lokulahlekelwa ubuntombi, ngoko impendulo iya kuba yinto engabonakaliyo: ubudala buchaphazela ubomi obuninzi besondo. Emva koko, ngokudala, uxanduva luyifumene, isimo sengqondo esibi ngakumbi kwisini. Amantombazana asemasontweni, njengomthetho, musa ukucinga ngemiphumo, thatha le nyathelo ngaphandle kwenkxalabo evela kumlingane. Ngexesha elifanayo, bahlala bengakulungele, ngenxa yoko banemibutho engathandekiyo enxulumene neentlobano zesondo, ezinokushiya impembelelo enzulu kwimpilo yabantu abadala.
Elinye iphuzu elibalulekileyo "ngethuba lokuqala" eliyimpumelelo kukukhethwa komlingane. Ngokuqinisekileyo, umntu onamava uyazi kakuhle indlela yokuziphatha nentombazana, indlela yokuphumla kunye nokumnandipha. Nangona kunjalo, ngokuqhelekileyo kwenzeka ukuba izibini ezingenalwazi, kodwa zithandana ngothando, ziyakwazi ukujamelana nalo msebenzi, zisebenza ngokukhawuleza, zinyameko kwaye zithandeke. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba yintoni, kubalulekile ukuba ungakhohlwa ukuba ngokokuqala ngangoko unokukhulelwa okanye ukhulelwe, ngoko awukwazi ukulibala ngokukhuselwa.
Umba obalulekileyo, ukubandezeleka kwabasetyhini abangenamava, kukunyanzelwa kwenkqubo ngokwayo. Ukuvela kwale ngqungquthela kubangelwa kukuba intombazana eye isetyenziselwe ukukholelwa ukuba ukutshabalalisa ubuntombi bayo bubuhlungu kakhulu, ngokungazibandakanyi ngokuzibandakanya iziswini zesini, kwaye oku oku kunqanda ukungena kwipeni kwaye kubangela intlungu. Ibhunga kulo mzekelo linokuphela - ukuphumla kangangoko kunokwenzeka, ukufumana uvuyo kangangoko kunokwenzeka kwaye ungaphumeleli.
Ngoko, kunzima ukunika impendulo kumbuzo xa kufuneka ube ngumdala. Intombazana nganye iyodwa, kwaye ekuxazululeni le ngxaki kufuneka uthembele, okokuqala, kwiimvakalelo.