Inyanga yesithathu yobomi bentsana

Inyanga yesithathu yobomi bomntwana ngandlela-thile-i-waterhed. Akayena nje usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa oluthatyathwa entle. Ubesele ekhulayo, eqala ukubonisa umlingiswa wayo, ukuveza iimvakalelo ...

Kukho inani lezinto eziphathekayo - ezomzimba kunye nokuziphatha - ezichanekileyo zichaze kwaye zichaze inyanga yesithathu yobomi bentsana. Kwaye okokuqala ngolu hlobo lukwimeko yesigxina somzimba.

Akunandaba nokuba ulinganisa umntwana wakho: kwiklinikhi yabantwana okanye ekhaya. Into ebalulekileyo kukuba i-curve yesiteyibhile somlinganiselo womntwana kufuneka ihambe ngokukhawuleza kwaye ngaphandle kweza ngokuzumayo. Xa uneminyaka engama-3 umntwana wakho kufuneka aqikelele malunga neekhilogram ezintandathu. Ukuba uqaphela ukuba kwiintsuku ezisixhenxe ukuya kwelishumi umntwana wakho uyeke ukufumana isisindo, khawuleza uqhagamshelane nogqirha. Ngenyanga yesithathu yobomi, umntwana kufuneka akongeze isilinganiso semitha engamakhulu amabini ngeveki.

Iminyaka emithathu inyanga yimiba yomsebenzi omtsha womzimba wengane. Ngenxa yezihlunu zakhe, ukukhala okukodwa akunakwaneleyo, udinga ukunyakaza okutsha. Ngena kwixesha lakhe kwimiba yezinto ezintsha, oku kuya kuba yintlawulo yakhe yokuqala. Ukukhupha umntwana uze uyifake kwengubo - makabeke phezu kweepeni kunye nemilenze, qi niseka, uya kuthanda. Emva koko, mbeke kwisisu sakhe - kule ndawo uya kuqeqesha imisipha yomqolo nentamo, kuba ngokukhawuleza intloko yakhe iya kubamba igxobhozo, ihlolisise yonke into.

Kufanelekile ukubeka ingqalelo kubazali kunye nokuba ineminyaka engama-3 umntwana usele mhle kakhulu, kwaye unako ukulungelelanisa ukuhamba kwezandla zakhe. Ngako oko, ayithethi ukuba uya kubakhupha emlonyeni wakhe aze alise iminwe yakhe. Le nkqubo iya kumnika ubumnandi obungakaze kwenzeke ngaphambili, kodwa zama ukunyanzeliswa ngumfanekiso kwaye uzame ukuphazamisa umntwana ukusondeza iminwe, kuba kamva iya kuba yinto embi kwaye iyakuchukumisa indlela yokukhula kwamazinyo.

Ubuchule bomntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala akukona nje ukuba uthabatha izandla zakhe emlonyeni wakhe, kodwa kwakhona ukuba unokujika ngokukhawuleza. Ngoko yibani ngabaqapheli abazali abancinci! Emva koko, zingaphi iimeko ezaziwa ukuba zithintela umama okanye uTata ukuba abuyeke okwesibili - njengokuba umntwana wabo ekhoneni emgceni aze afike emgangathweni kwaye, elele eposini, abahlekisayo abahlekisayo abazali. Kodwa akuzona zonke iimeko eziphumelele kakhulu, ngoko ke ukuba ufuna ukuhamba kwindawo ethile ngomzuzu, thatha ingxaki yokubeka umntwana kwisibhedlele.

Musa ukuphazamisa umntwana. Into ebaluleke kakhulu ngumonde kunye nokunyamekela. Umele uhlale evelele ingqalelo yakho, kodwa kuphela kwimida efanelekileyo. Ungambonisi ukuba uyindawo ephela kuyo yonke indawo, okanye, ngelanga, ubeka ingozi ekukhuleni i-egoist. Yaye ningakhohliswa ngobuncinane babo! Ndikholelwe, kwinyanga yesithathu yobomi baziva kakuhle isimo sengqondo kubo abantu ababajikelezile. Kwangexesha elide kwakukholelwa ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu yindlalifa, kwaye ukukhuliswa kukuphela kokulungiswa kwangaphandle. Kodwa uphando lwezenzululwazi luye lwachasisa oku, luye lwabonakaliswa ukuba into ebaluleke kakhulu yonke into ephakanyisiweyo. Ngoko ke, inkqubo enzima yokwenza imfundo kufuneka iqwalaselwe ngoku kwangoku - inyaniso ibe yiseko kuphela ekuphuhlisweni kweempawu ezilungileyo, kodwa nayo ingabangela i-phobias enzulu kunye neengxaki.

Wena ngokwakho unokuvavanya ukuthotyelwa kwimeko yengqondo yengqondo yomntwana wakho kwaye unqume: ingaba uhamba phambili kangakanani kuphuhliso lwakhe.

Bazali abaselula, khumbula ukuba:

- kwiinyanga ezintathu ezintathu umntwana sele sele akwazi ukubeka intloko ixesha elifutshane;

- ezinyangeni ezintathu zenyanga uhlala egaqa izandla kunye nemilenze. Yilungele ukubukela umntwana wakho ngethuba elithile, ngelixa elithile, ejonga entendeni yakhe, kwaye, ekuthabatha into yangaphandle, uqala ukuyifundela ngentshisekelo;

- umntwana onyangeni yesithathu yobomi uyazibona unina, uyise, ugogo nomkhulu, kwaye uyaphendula ngokumomotheka, kwaye ngamanye amaxesha unomntu ohleka ngokumomotheka;

- I-crumb-month-old-old hears well, iphulaphule izandi ezingaqhelekanga kwaye iphendule ngokuzithandela kubantu ababaziyo, umzekelo, kumama omnene nomnene;

- kwaye, ngokuqinisekileyo, eneminyaka engama-3 umntwana uqala ukwenza izandi ezahlukeneyo. Intsana "i-aguces" kwaye ivela kuloluvuyo olukhulu kunye nolwandle oluneemvakalelo ezintle.

Kulo nyaka, umntwana uqala ukubonisa ingqwalasela kuphela kwimipeni yakhe, imilenze, kodwa nakwiimidlalo. Ngoko ngeenyanga ezintathu abazali kufuneka basebenzise izinto zokudlala ezifanelekileyo, kuba zibaluleke kakhulu ekuphuculeni ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo komntwana. Kodwa akuzona zonke iifoni ezifanelekileyo kumntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala. Abazali kufuneka bakhumbule, okokuqala, ukuba itekisi kufuneka ikulungele ukuhlamba nokukhubaza. Kodwa oku akuyona yodwa ingxaki ekukhetheni ithoyizi. Enye into ekubukeleyo kukuba ayikho into engacacanga, ukuze inkunzi ingenakuyichitha ibe yindawo (engayigwinya!) Ngethuba lomdlalo. Kwaye, eqinisweni, kwindawo yokudlala iimvuthu akufuneki kubekho na macala abukhali kunye namacangca kunamaxesha amancinci angaphantsi kweeplastiki. Ngoko ke, xa ukhetha umdlalo wokudlala umntwana oneminyaka emithathu ubudala, khetha iisampula zakho zeenkuni kunye neerubha. Yaye ukuba uyayithanda ngempela intsimbi yeplastiki - buza ukuba yintoni i-dyes, kuba umntwana uyayidonsa emlonyeni wakhe. Iipayili akufanele zibe yingozi!

Isisombululo esihle kakhulu ukuxhoma iindwangu ezimbalwa ebhedini, ukuze umntwana abe nento yokujonga ngexesha apho umama ephumla okanye into exakekile. Akukhuthazwa ukuba unike umntwana amathoyizi amaninzi kanye, kuba uya kuphelelwa ngumdla ngokukhawuleza. Kungcono ukunika enye, ukuze ifunde ngokufanelekileyo kwaye igxininise ingqalelo kuyo. Umgaqo obaluleke kakhulu: uhlala uhlamba amathoyizi ebantwaneni uze uwagcine kwindawo apho abayi kuhlalisa uthuli. Gcoba i-rattles ingaba isepha yendlu, kwaye emva kokuba uwahlambulule phantsi kwamanzi asebenzayo - ungabi novila kwaye uphefumle ngamanzi abilayo (unokwazi ukupholisa kancane, ukwenzela ukuba iplastiki ingabhubhi).

Kwaye ngokubaluleke kakhulu - hlawule ingqalelo kumntwana wakho, kuba ebomini bentsana akukho nto inomtsalane ngakumbi kunomzali kunye nokunyamekela!