Isidalwa esincinane, ukususela ngexesha lokuzalwa kwayo, sidinga isikhokelo esithembekileyo, esiya kumfundisa ukuba azi ihlabathi elikufutshane naye kwaye amkhusele kwizifo ezihlukahlukeneyo nezifo. Umqhubi womntwana osanda kuzalwa ngumama wakhe.
Ngamnye wethu ufumana ulumkiso okanye uloyiko olujongene nobomi kunye nento engaziwayo. Ngomntwana osandul 'ukuzalwa omtsha ngeenxa zonke! Kukho kakade isibeleko esinomfudumalo nesinobubele, ukukhanya kwelanga elimnandi kwanyamalala, kwaye ingxolo ephosakeleyo yaba yindlebe. Usana luloyiko kwaye ... luya kuphendula ngokukhala okukhulu. Esi sisisiko esiqhelekileyo. Umoya ofanayo udala i-crumb ukuba ihlume kwaye iphose izibonda kuyo nayiphi na isandi esicacileyo, i-squint, ihlala ikhanya ngokukhanya. Umntwana unamandla kakhulu kwaye ngexesha elifanayo ngokupheleleyo ... ungancedi. Kwaye unokufa xa engenakho izikhokelo ezinokuthenjelwa kweli hlabathi. Kwaye izikhokelo ezilungileyo, kunomama nobaba, ukuba umntwana angayifumani. Unyoko, unganamnye, unokuzinqabisa iimvuthu. Usana olusandul 'ukuzalwa luyaziqonda kunye lwakhe luphela. Xa evuka, kwaye umama akahambanga, uyesaba aze aqale ukukhala. Thatha umntwana kwi-handles. Uvakalelwa kukufudumala komzimba wakho, ukuva ukubetha kwentliziyo kunye nelizwi eliqhelekileyo, uzive ekhuselekile. Mama, musa ukuya! - uthi ukuziphatha kwakhe. Kufuneka ukuba ufunde ukuqonda iimfuno nezicelo zentsana ukusuka kwiintsuku zokuqala zobomi bakhe.
Ngethuba leenyanga zokuqala umntwana akanakuqonda ukuba unobuntu obubini obuhlukeneyo. Yaye xa umama engaboni, kubonakala ngathi akukho nto eyaneleyo. Ngoko ke, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba intsana ayinanto yokuthintana nomzimba. Ngokuqhelekileyo zithatha kwizinto eziphathekayo, zibophezele, zibambelele kuwe, zikhuphe. Oku kunika umxholo wokhuseleko. Iingcali zengqondo kunye nezingane zakudala zincoma ukuba zihlale zivale iimvumba kwisiringi okanye i-kangaroo. Ngoko umama uya kuba nethuba lokwenza imisebenzi yasekhaya ngaphandle kokukhathazeka ukuba umntwana unokuziva enesizungu. Abasetyhini baseAfrika bahlala bephethe abantwana babo, ngoko abantwana babo bahlakulela bhetele kwaye banomdla, behlala beqhagamshelana nomama kunye nokubukela ihlabathi elibangqongileyo.
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Iintsana ezisandul 'ukuzalwa zagqithwa ngeenkulungwane ezininzi. Kwaye kuphela ekupheleni kweengcali ze-XX zangekhulu lama-20 zaqala ukuthetha malunga nokuba kuyingozi kumzimba ophuhlisayo. Emva koko, kwindalo akukho zityalo zezinto eziphilayo zinciphisa abancinci bayo ekuhambeni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kukho iingcingo ezibonisa ukuba umntwana, ogxininiswe ngengubo efudumeleyo, ukhulula kakhulu. Uziva ekhuselekile, kodwa ngenxa yokuba ukhale ngaphantsi kwaye ulele ngokubhetele. Kucingelwa ukuba "isidleke" esinokuzikhumbuza sikhumbuza umntwana wobomi kwisisu somama. Jonga i-crumb: yena ngokwakhe "uya kubonisa" kuwe "ngokuba" kunye "nangokuchasene" nokudibanisa.
Andizi yena nhlobo! - oku kukusabela kwabantwana kubantu abangabaziyo. Ekuqaleni umfazi omncinci uyamomotheka kuwo wonke umntu ogobayo embhedeni wakhe. Kwaye kwinyanga yesibhozo imeko iguquka ngokukhawuleza. Xa umntu ongaqhelekanga ejika kumntwana, uqala ukukhala ngokukhawuleza. UKroha waqala ukwesaba abantu abangaziwa. Yaye uziva ukwesaba, ude ehleli kumama kamama. Musa ukukhathazeka - lo bubungqina bokuphuhliswa okuqhelekileyo. Kwaye isizathu sokuba, kunokwenzeka ukuba, i-karapuz sele iqaphela ngokucacileyo umama phakathi kwabanye abantu abadala. Yaye ukuba umntu ezama ukuziphatha njengalo, oku kubangela ukungathembeki nokusola. Musa ukucaphukisa ukuziphatha okunjalo kweemvuthu, kuba umntwana uyava yonke into. Ngokusondeleyo kwiminyaka enye nesiqingatha ukwesaba abantu abangaziwayo kuya kudlula.
Indlela yokuzolalisa imvumba? Musa ukuthobela ukukhala kwakhe! Nangona kubonakala ukuba umntwana akanalo izizathu ezinzulu zokwenza uloyiko, qiniseka: kuye konke kubaluleke kakhulu! Musa ukwesaba. Kungakhathaliseki ukuba kungani umntwana ephuma einyembezi, musa ukuthatha iimvakalelo zakhe. Thatha umntwana emasakeni. Bamba ngokuqinile kunye nemizuzu embalwa, valiwe. Gubungela, uhlasele intloko. Ngaloo nto uya kuzisa ukuba uvelwano naye. Faka encinane kwisifuba sakho. Xa umntwana esondela, i-serotonin, ihommoni yolonwabo, iveliswa kwingqondo yakhe. I-crumb izakusela ubisi lonina, kwaye oku kuya kumnciphisa.
Musa ukundibonisa isibindi. Ukuba umntwana wayekwesaba ngogogo wakhe, engazange ambone ixesha elide, makhe ahlale ekhondweni lakho kwaye ukhululeke. Musa ukuphula uloyiko. Ngaba i-carapuse iyesaba isandi esikhulu somculo wokudlala? Kungcono uthabathe ekhoneni elide uze ushiye apho. Umntwana uya kulusebenzisa kwaye mhlawumbi uya kufinyelela kuyo ngokukhawuleza.