Unokuva izimvo ezingqubuzanayo malunga nesondo emva kokubeleka. Ezinye iintsapho zisoyika oku, abanye bacinga ukuba kuyinto evamile. Oogqirha bathi emva kokubeleka, ungalala ngesondo - kodwa ngokucophelela. Iingcali ziphawula ngemibandela engxamisekileyo malunga nezesondo emva kokuzalwa komntwana.
Ngethuba lini linokwenzeka ukuba ulalane ngesondo emva kweentlobo okanye usebenze? Oogqirha badla ngokuncoma ubuncinane iiveki ezintandathu zokuzilahla emva kokubeletha. Kodwa qaphela ukuba kukho a baninzi abasetyhini, abo kunye neenyanga ezintathu "zokuphumla" akwanele. Isigqibo sokugqibela sinomfazi kuphela kunye nodokotela wakhe. Konke kuxhomekeke ekubeni ukuphuma kwegazi sele kugqityiwe, okwenzeke ngexesha lomsebenzi (i-episiotomy), ukukhathala nezinye izinto ezininzi ezingokwenyama nezengqondo. Kwiiveki zokuqala emva kokubeletha, ukukhula kwengqondo kwabantwana abancinci kuhlolwe. Ngakumbi ngokuthatha inxaxheba ekunakekeleni kwintsana, ngokukhawuleza umtsha osandul 'ukuza kuzuza amandla. Kubandakanya isondo.
Kuphi na ukulungela ukuba nesondo emva kokubeleka? Ukukhulelwa nokubeletha kungenxa yomzimba wesetyhini umthwalo omkhulu wengqondo kunye nomzimba. Oku kufuneka kuthathelwe ingqalelo. Okokuqala, unokukhetha iindawo apho inqanaba, ukungena kokungena kunye nokunyaniseka kokunyakaza kukulawulwa kangcono. Akufanele uqinisekise ubungqina bomntu kunye nesigxina kumfazi. Xa ulala ngesondo emva kokubeletha, ucoceko, ukunyamekela kunye nokuqwalasela kubalulekile kuqala. Ibhinqa ibalulekile ukwazi ukuba nangemva kokubeleka, uyathandwa kwaye uyakuthanda. Isikhundla sezithunywa zevangeli kwiinguqu zayo ezahlukeneyo sikhuthazwa. Kwaye kwakhona, xa umfazi ephezulu kwaye ngokwakhe ulawula ukuqina kunye nokujula kokungena kwepenisi. Kwakhona, umntu kufuneka alumke ngokugqithiseleyo aze asebenze naziphi na iimpawu zentlungu okanye ukungahambi kakuhle ezinokuvela ngenxa yezenzo zamalingani.
Indlela yokwabelana ngesondo emva kwecandelo lephepha? Konke kuxhomekeke kwindlela isilonda esiphulukisa ngayo. Umzimba wesetyhini emva kwecandelo lexesha eliqhelekileyo lihlala liphendulela ngokukhawuleza kwiinguqu ze-hormone. Kungakumbi kunabesifazane ababeletha ngokwemvelo. Isikhundla esona sikhephe nesona sikhuselekileyo sisithuba sobuvangeli basemazweni onke. Kwaye kunye neefowuni kwicala kunye nomngcingo womgibeli.
Kutheni ngezinye iinkhathi ubulili lome kakhulu? Ubume obumileyo buyabonakala kwiintombi ezininzi emva kokubeletha. Kwaye esinye sezizathu zokuba omama abancinci baphikise isondo ngeenyanga eziliqela. Umgca wecala kukuba ibhinqa alinikezeli i-lubricant eyaneleyo, okwenza uthando lunzima kwaye lubuhlungu. Ukucwina kwesini kubangelwa ikakhulu ngenxa yokungabikho kwamahomoni. Nangona kunjalo, oku kunokuthintelwa ngokulula nge-gel esondayo. Ngendlela, ezi ziyobisi kufuneka zisetyenziswe njengeqalo lokuqala.
Kuthekani ukuba ibhinqa liphepha ukulala emva kokubeleka? Abantu abaninzi abayifuni ukwenza nantoni na, vele unike ikhefu. Kodwa le mpazamo! Sifanele siqaphele ngezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo zokunciphisa i-libido yeqabane kunye nokuzama ukulungisa le meko. Ukuba umfazi unamahloni obunzima obunzima, obungazange buyeke, indoda kufuneka imele ibonise uthando olukhulu ngomzimba wakhe. Ukuba umfazi ukhathele ukunyamekela umntwana, indoda kufuneka imkhulule kwaye ithathe uxanduva oluninzi ngangokunokwenzeka. Ukuba umfazi ukwesaba iintlungu ezinokuthi zenzeke ngexesha lokulungelelanisa, loo mntu makamqinisekise ukuba uya kwenza konke ngokunyamekileyo nangokucokisekileyo. Ukuba ukwenza uthando kuthanda umntwana, unokuhlala ufumana ixesha. Umzekelo, xa elele.
Ngaba ndingamncelisa unina? Ewe. Kodwa malunga nendlela efanelekileyo yokunyamezela amabele, kungcono ukubuza iingcali. Oomama abaninzi abanononwabo abanakuze bacinge ukuba umntu unako ukuchaphazela amabele endaweni yomntwana, nokuba ngabayeni bawo. Kukho nabasetyhini abachasene noko, ukuba amabele abo ayengacinezeleka kwiinyanga eziliqela. Kwimeko yokuqala, indoda kufuneka ihloniphe iimvakalelo zowesifazane kwaye igxininise kwezinye iindawo ezizenzekelayo. Kwaye kukho okwaneleyo kubo: intamo, imilenze, iminyango, umva, izandla, umlomo kunye nezinye iimbombo zemfihlo zomzimba wesetyhini. Kwimeko yesibini, musa ukulibala ukuba i-caresses ifanele ibe yincinci. Emva koko, amabele kunye neengono zihlala zibuhlungu kakhulu xa zithinta. Ukongezelela, umntu kufuneka aqonde ukuba ubisi lunokuphuma kwi-ingono. Ukuba awukukhathazi ngalokhu, kungcono ukuyeka i-caresses ngaphambili kwaye ungavumeli isiganeko singathandeki kuwe nomthandayo. Ngethuba elincinane lebele lokubeleka ngexesha le-lask yilapho ukwenza oko kungekudala emva kokutya. Ngenxa yokuba isifuba asinalutho.
Ngaba amava olwabelana ngesondo aya kufana nawo ngaphambi kokuzalwa? Kungekudala. Umntwana ngexesha lokubeletha kwemvelo ulula umfazi. Kwakhona kukho i-episiotomy, ukwandiswa komlomo wesibeleko. Kuya kuthatha iiveki ezimbalwa, ngamanye amaxesha kwaneenyanga, ukubuyisela konke ubukhulu bayo bokuqala phakathi kweenyawo. Oogqirha abaninzi bezocansi bayavuma ukuba amaqabane athile ababelethayo awakwazi ukuzonwabisa ngokugqibeleleyo ngesondo. Nangona kunjalo, kuya kuqinisekiswa ukuba ngokuhamba kwexesha yonke into iya kubuya ejwayelekile. Abasetyhini banokukhawulezisa le nkqubo ngokuqeqesha imisipha ethile ngemisebenzi ekhethekileyo. Kodwa kuyimfuneko ukulawula imeko yakho, ukuze ungalimazi umzimba. Emva kokubeleka, ungalala ngesondo, kodwa emva kwexesha elithile.