Namhlanje phantse onke amabhinqa kufuneka enze ukhetho olulukhuni: ukufikelela eziphakamileyo zobugcisa okanye ukukhawuleza ukukhuthazwa kwinqanaba lomsebenzi kwaye uzizinikele kwiintsapho kunye nabantwana. Ngayinye yale mizila ineemeko ezintle nezimbi, kunye nee-mines ezifunekayo ukuba ziqwalaselwe. Isihloko sethu namhlanje: "Umfazi kunye nomsebenzi: izibonelelo zolawulo lwesini."
Ngokwesiko, lo mfazi ungumgcini kunye nomsebenzi wokuhlala ekhaya, kodwa kuluntu lwanomsebenzi luba yinto eyodwa kuphela yowesifazane. Abasetyhini bazibonakalisa kuzo zonke iindawo zobomi, baphumelele impumelelo, bakhe umsebenzi. Kule meko, intsapho iyabuyela kwimvelaphi, kwaye abantwana bavela kuphela kwiminyaka engama-35. Oku kukuncinci, kuba oogqirha bancomela ukuba babele umntwana wokuqala ngaphambi kweminyaka engama-30 ngenxa yeengxaki ezinokuthi unina nomntwana. Kodwa ibhinqa elithe lagqiba ukwenza umsebenzi wokuqala, ize iqalise umntwana, liqinisekile kwiimeko zakhe zezimali kwaye inokunika umntwana konke okusemgangathweni.
Ukuba ibhinqa sele linomntwana kwaye likhetha ukhetho lomsebenzi, le meko ihluke kancinci: umntwana kufuneka 'afundiswe' ngoogogo, oongikazi, ukunika iqela lemini elongezelelweyo, njl. Ngenxa yoko, umntwana uninzi ixesha angaboni umama, akanako ukufudumala nokuqwalaselwa. Iziqhamo zemfundo enjalo azizona eziduduzayo kakhulu: ukungabikho kobudlelwane phakathi kobazali kunye nabantwana, i-microclimate engalunganga kwintsapho, isizungu kunye nokuhlukaniswa kwabantwana. Umoya onjalo ekuthandweni komsebenzi awuyi kuzisa nantoni na.
Ekugqibeleni umfazi wayeva ukuba abaqeshi abasayi kukwenza isigqibo phakathi kwendoda nomfazi. Amathuba alinganayo, kodwa akunakwenzeka ukubeka izikhundla, ukuba unqume ukuba nezingane, kuba ubuncinane iinyanga aziyi kuba kwiinqanaba, kwaye ngeli xesha le nto ingatshintshi.
Enye imeko apho umfazi ebeletha umntwana emva kokugqitywa kwesinye isikolo kungenakho neyokuchithwa kwayo. Okokuqala, ngokukhawuleza emva kwesikolo kunzima ukufumana umsebenzi omhle, kwaye ukuba umntwana omncinci usondele, akunakwenzeka. Ithemba lokuphila kwintlawulo yabantwana ayibonakali yinto emangalisayo.
Ngokuqhelekileyo, abafazi bayesaba ukulahlekelwa yimisebenzi yabo ngenxa yokukhulelwa nokubeletha. Kuba ngumqeshi, ukukhulelwa komqeshwa akusiyo yonwabile, kodwa i-headache eyongeziweyo. Ngoko ke, umqeshi ongathembekanga uzama ukutshisa umfazi okhulelweyo kunye neenyaniso kunye neengwenya. Nangona kunjalo, ngamnye wethu kufuneka azi ukuba phantsi komthetho okhoyo, umfazi "kwindawo" akanakuxoshwa! Oku kuhlanganiswe ngokupheleleyo.
Ngethuba elisekhefu lokunyamekela umntwana, ibhinqa liva "linqunywe" kwiimbali ezenzeka emsebenzini, kwiqela. Kukho indlela yokuphuma-ukuthatha umsebenzi "ekhaya". Olu khetho lufanelekile kubameli bezobugcisa. Ngokomzekelo, ukuba umfazi usebenza njengomqambi, unokusebenza lula kwiimyalelo ekhaya xa umntwana elele okanye edlala. Ngaloo ndlela, unokubulala iintaka ezimbini ngelitye elinye: gcina izakhono zakho zobuchule kwaye uchithe ixesha elingakumbi nomntwana wakho.
Ngoko, i-pros and cons are known. Kodwa ke, yintoni okukhethileyo yokwenza: kuqala ukuba nabantwana, kwaye ke ukunyuka kwinqanaba lomsebenzi okanye ngokuphambene naso? Ukuba olu khetho limi phambi kwakho, khumbula ukuba abafazi abonwabileyo abo bafumene intsingiselo yegolide kwaye bakwazi ukuhlanganisa ukunakekelwa kwentsapho kunye nokukhula komsebenzi. Kunzima, kodwa kufikeleleka. Akufuneki ukuba uthathe konke oko: cela abo bathandekayo ukukunceda. Yiyo ke ezo ziko zibini zeesisindo: "intsapho" kunye "nomsebenzi" uya kubaleka.