Kutheni amadoda engazi ukuba ahlule?

Mhlawumbi, akukho mntu onjalo ebomini apho kwakungekho nxalenye enye, xa esinye sesibini esisondeleyo (esandula) abantu malunga nanjengaphandle kwayo, ngokukhawuleza okanye kucatshangelwe ngokupheleleyo, beka iintlanganiso, ukunxibelelana, ubomi obudibeneyo. Eyona imeko eqhelekileyo. Emva kwexesha elithile lobudlelwane obuhle kakhulu, loo mntu uyaphela ngokukhawuleza - ukuphepha iintlanganiso, ukungahoywa iisms kwaye ungaphenduli iifowuni. Kutheni amadoda engazi ukuba ahlule? Ngaba kunzima ukuxelela umntu kwiso ukuba ubuhlobo budlulile? Ukuba awuhlangani - uya kuqonda yonke into? Enyanisweni, ekukhunjweni kobudlelwane obuphakathi kwabo (nokuba bekuphela kweveki kuphela), umntu akakwazi ukutsho nje, bathi, siyaxolisa, kodwa asisondeli? Uninzi lwabantu bonke lubuhlungu kunzima ukudweba umgca kwiintsebenziswano ngendlela ephucukileyo. Kalula kuba kunzima ukuba baqonde izizathu zesigqibo sabo.

Akunakwenzeka ukuba amadoda athathe inxaxheba. Ewe, eziqhelekileyo (ungatsho-uqobo) umntu akakwazi ukumema intombazana kwisidlo sothando kunye emva kokutya ngokunyanisekileyo ukuvuma ukuba yonke into isuke. Ngoko usebenzisa ukufumana ukubethelwa - uyayeka ukukhala. Okanye uzama ukudala indawo apho ubudlelwane ngokwabo buba khona.

Enye imeko. Intombazana ishiya. Mhlawumbi, ngeqondo elithile lokutya, nokuzama ukuyenza ibe yinto encinci, ingenabuhlungu ... Nangona kunjalo, kukho ingcamango ecacileyo yokuba ukuphelisa ulwalamano lulilungelo lezesondo ezinamandla. Kulula ukuqonda yonke into ephazamisayo eyenzeka entliziyweni yomntu emva kokuphula le ngqungquthela. Emva koko, ukuhlukana kuyaxhomekeka ngokuqinisekileyo kunye nokuvakalelwa komntu. La mava aphulaphule ingqiqo eqinisekileyo yenduduzo abantu abafuna ukuyiphendula ngokusisimo imeko. Ndifuna ukunqumla, ukuphosa nokuzonda. Kodwa umbuzo - ngubani? Wena? Ngaba ixabiso? Kuye ngokwabo sele kukubi. Ukuzondwa nokuzondla kukunyusa nje imeko. Wakhe?

I-mishmash ebomvu yothando nothando inokutshabalalisa nayiphina into. Umchasi? Ngaba ucinga ukuba kufuneka ube ngumdlali? Le nto ayikho isizathu esithandwayo kakhulu sokuhamba komfazi. Kubonakala ngathi akukho ndlela enye enye indoda eya kuyo. Ungazideli, okanye ubeke phezu kwayo, uqalekise imeko, okanye uthiyile umchasi, othi, njengokuba kuvela, ahlala ekhona. Ukuba ucinga ngendlela yokuqala, nokuba yintoni na isizathu umntu angayicinga, ekugqibeleni, uya kubeka isohlwayo kwintokazi. Oku kuthululwa kuye ekuphenduleni kwintlambo yokungcola, ukungcola, ukungcola kunye nosongelo. Okanye okugqithiseleyo - umtsalane ongapheliyo weefowuni ezihlaziyiweyo ezifakwe kwiimfesane zothando, izicelo zokubuyela kunye nesifungo sesithembiso sokuzibopha phantsi kweefestile. Isimo sengqondo esichasayo kumfazi unempembelelo ethile yokwelapha kwindoda elahliwe.

Uthando, ngenxa yezo zonke iingxaki zakhe, ngokukhawuleza zenziwe. Kodwa ngaba le ndlela yindlela ephuma phambili? Ukuba ngaba umfazi ungumcebisi wokwahlukana, ngaba kufanelekile ukumcaphukisa? Mhlawumbi wakushiya, kuba wayengenayo enye indlela? Kutheni amadoda engayazi indlela yokushiya kakuhle, ukuze intombazana izisole ngokuhlukana, kwaye ayizange ijabule ngokuphuka ngexesha elifanelekileyo? Kwengqondo yanamhlanje, uluvo oluye lwasekwa ukuba indoda yanamhlanje kufuneka ingabonakali kwaye iqinisekile, kwaye zonke izenzo zakhe zijolise ekufezeni injongo. Kuzwakala ngathi i-paradox, kodwa abafazi banomdla ngakumbi kumadoda awaziyo ukwahlula. Ziziphi izinto ezifana nabantu abadala, abantu abavuthiwe. Ngubani okwazi ukuthetha ngokunyanisekileyo ngeemvakalelo zabo aze amkele iingxabano zomdlali.

Indoda eninzi ininzikazi ibona njengomntu owaziyo into ayifunayo nokuba uya kuphi, oko kukuthi, njengendoda yangempela. Kakade ke, kukho amadoda, kunye nabasetyhini, abaziyo ukuhlukana kakuhle. Yonke into incike kwimfundo, ngohlobo lomntu, indlela enamandla ngayo iimvakalelo. Unokwenza inxaxheba ekubuleleni nje ukuba ubuhlobo kunye nomntu onomthandana onokuthandana naye ebomini bakho, ngaphandle kokufumana inzondo, inzondo, okanye intukuthelo ... Ukuhlukana nothando. Emva kwakho konke, ukuhlukana ngumphumo othile kwiimeko zesibini, emva kokuthanda abantu.