Enyanisweni, ukunyamekela kubaluleke kakhulu, umgangatho oncomekayo kwaye uyabaluleka. Kuthekani ukuba umyeni usebenza iiyure ezisixhenxe ngeveki, kwaye ngeveki, kunye neeholide, ngaphezu koko, umsebenzi ube yintsikelelo yobomi?
Xa umfazi exelela ukuba umyeni wakhe unomsebenzi onzima, abaninzi abahlobo bakhe bayamkhwele, ngelixa becinga: "Yintoni enye into ayifunayo loo nto ayifanelekanga yona?" Yaye ihlakaniphile, iphumelele kwaye izisa imali ekhaya ... "Nangona kunjalo, ngokwenene yonke i-netak ilanga kwaye ingakhathazeki.
Indoda enjalo ayinayo ixesha lentsapho, kuba uhlala exakekile emsebenzini kunye nezinye izinto. Ngokuqhelekileyo, uya emsebenzini xa umfazi elele, kwaye ubuya xa efuna ukulala kwakhona. Umsebenzi wakhe awunasiphelo, akukho mhlaba, kuba kuthatha ixesha lomthandayo kwieholide kunye neentsuku zokuphuma. Kwaye xa ekwazi ukumbongoza ukuba athathe iholide, ude enze isigqibo malunga nemicimbi ebalulekileyo malunga nezoshishino zakhe okanye neminye imiba yokuvelisa ngisho nasebe lolwandle. Ungaba njani kule meko? Uqhawule umtshato? Hayi, kunjalo! Emva koko, kukho indlela engakumbi yabantu-ukufundisa umyeni onomdla ukuba angonwabi nje ishishini kunye nomsebenzi.
Ngubani na?
Ngesizathu sini amadoda asebenza kunye neentloko zawo? Kukho uninzi lwazo. Isizathu sokuqala - oku kufuna iprojekthi ethile okanye imisebenzi yabo. Xa badlula le projekthi okanye umnqweno oyifunayo, baya kuphinda baqale basebenze kwimodi evamile. Isizathu sesibini - abanye abantu abazi nje indlela yokuphatha kakuhle ixesha labo ukusabalalisa abasebenzi. Nangona kunjalo, akukho sizathu sokuqala okanye isizathu sesibini asitsho ukuba amadoda asebenza ngokugqithiseleyo. Kuphela kwindlela esuka kwimeko yecala ukuba isebenze kwisigqi sokuzilahla, xa sisebenza emsebenzini, sifilosofi. Ngaphezu koko, nangona umyeni wakho engekho ekhaya, unokuzinza ngokuzinyamekelayo, abantwana kunye namanye amaqela, akukho mntu uphazamisayo okanye ophazamisayo. Kancinci kamva, yonke into iya kuba yindawo, i-Willow ibambe.
Umntu osebenza ngokwemvelo ngumntu onomsebenzi onentsingiselo yobomi, kunye nezinye izinto ezinonophelo-ukuphumla, intsapho, izinto ezithandwayo, uthando-ekugqibeleni ziya kuvela kwimvelaphi. Amadoda anesithakazelo kunye nabasebenza nzima bazama ukusebenza kanzima kuphela ukufezekisa injongo: inzuzo enkulu, ieholide langaphandle, ukuthengwa kwemoto okanye indlu, njalo njalo, kunye nokunyaniseka kweyona nto ingabandakanyi ukubaluleka kwimiphumo yabo yomsebenzi, bayanelisekisa ngenkqubo enye. Izolo usebenza kwixesha elingaphezu kwexesha okanye usebenza kwishishini lakhe.
Nangona u-workaholic ufumana kakuhle, akwazi ukulawula umvuzo wakhe. Ngaphezu koko, xa umfazi, umama okanye abanye abantu abasondeleyo beqala ukubonisa le mposiso, u-workaholic uhlala esabela ngezizathu: "andinalo ilungelo lokuya eholide ndide ndigqibe oku kwaye ndiyenze." Ukongezelela, xa iinjongo zifikeleleke, i-workaholic iyaqhubeka isebenza, kodwa egameni lenye into. Kwaye kunjalo njalo. Masizame ukufumanisa oko kubangela oku?
Nenkanuko, kunye nomfundi obalaseleyo
Iingcali zengqondo zithi ama-workaholics anokwahlukana kwiindidi eziliqela, ngasinye sinesizathu saso. Ngoku sifumanisa ukuba ngubani ololu hlobo, kwaye siya kuqonda indlela yokuphatha ngayo nganye.
Umbaleki okhuselekileyo
Waba ngumsebenzi ongenakudla ubomi obulungileyo, wanqotshwa iingxaki ebomini bomntu. Ukuba uhlawula ingqalelo encinane kwindoda, ungayiqondi imbeko yakhe okanye abanye abathandekayo abayithandiyo, uqala ukuyibheka kwenye indawo - emsebenzini. Kulapho uyanconywa ngabalingani bakhe, uyaziqhenya ngabaphathi bakhe, uba ngumqeshwa oyimfuneko: usebenza ixesha elide, unceda wonke umntu, unike iingcebiso. Ngenxa yoko, iofisi ngaphandle kwayo ayikwazi ukusebenza, ilinde, iyayidinga, iyazi iziganeko zomsebenzi kwaye iyakwazi ukusombulula nayiphi na ingxaki nayiphi na ingxaki. Ngoko ke, akafuni ukuya ekhaya ukuze achithe ixesha kunye nabantwana bakhe nomfazi.
Umsebenzi ongcono kakhulu
Ngokuqinisekileyo abazali bomntu onjalo babesifuna ukuba unyana wabo abe ngowona mhle kubo bonke abantu: emsebenzini, esikolweni, kwimidlalo. Ngoko ke, akazange abacaphukise kwaye azame ukufanisa iimfuno zomama kunye ne-ipapa, ngoko akaphazanyiswa yinto yokuzilibazisa kunye nokuphumla. Okanye, ngokuchasene noko, abazali abazange badumise inkwenkwe yabo, ngoko ke wagqiba ekubeni kufuneka azame ngamandla. Xa umntu eba ngumntu omdala, uyaqhubeka esebenza nzima, kodwa sele esebenza emsebenzini, ngelixa ebonisa ukuba nayiphi na umsebenzi kunye nayiphi na umsebenzi kuye ehlombe. Iingcali zengqondo zithi abantu abanjalo bafuna uncedo lwezakhono, kuba bona ngokwabo abanakukuqonda oku. Ingcali yeengqondo iza kubancedisa ukususa izakhiwo zezingane kwaye utshintshe izinto eziphambili.
Ukunyanzela ubuhlanga. Amadoda anjalo asebenza kanzima ukufumana imali eninzi kangangoko kunokwenzeka. Ngaphandle kokuba umntu onjalo eba ngumgidi-mali, akayi kuba neleyo kwaye uya kucinga ukuba akabi. Unamahloni ngenxa yokuba akanalo ixesha elide lokusebenzisa imali, ayenayo emva koko kunye negazi, kuba kufuneka asebenze. Ngokuqinisekileyo le ngxaki ibuyele ebuntwaneni, ngoko kufuneka uhlolisise indlela akhulisiwe ngayo, bhala ingqalelo kubazali babo. Mhlawumbi wakhulela kwiintsapho ezingenakuhlonela, apho imali yayisoloko isweleka, ngoko ke wanquma ukuba nayiphi na into eyayimbiza ukuba abe sisityebi, mhlawumbi akazange amthande, yingakho ezama ukuhlawulela imali abazali bakhe abangayinike yona.
Ungamfundisa njani ukuphumla?
Ukuba ubona indoda kuyo nayiphi na indidi yeentlobo eziphathekayo, kufuneka usebenze ngokukhawuleza, kwaye oku kufuneka kube ngudliwano-ndlebe olunzima, kufuneka ufundiswe kwakhona. Kodwa le nto ingafezwa njani? Umsebenzi wakho oyintloko kukudala umoya ekhaya ofuna ukubuyela kuwo, ukuze wenze umyeni wakho afune ukubuyela ekhaya. Zama ukunyamekela nokuthandana, kuthetha ngokumthanda kwakhe, ukuncoma, ukuxelela malunga neengcamango zakho, iziganeko, umbuze ukuba usuku luhamba njani. Ngokukodwa kufuneka kuyenzelwe abaxhasi-ababaleki, oku kubaluleke kakhulu.
Mbuze indlela afuna ukuchitha ngayo ngeveki (kunjalo, ngaphandle komsebenzi), kwaye uncede ukuba aqonde umnqweno, nangona ubona iveki yakho ngendlela eyahlukileyo. Iingcali zengqondo zincoma ukuba zenze oku kulandelayo: imihla ngemihla okanye isiqingatha-ntsuku esetyenzisiweyo endlwini, zinike "umvuzo" kumlingane - uye eklinikhi, ubukele umdlalo webhola, ubukele ifilimu ayithandayo, isitya esiyithandayo, oko kukuthi, mnike oko akuthandayo.
Ngokuqinisekileyo, mcele ukuba akuncede malunga nekhaya - kufuneka azi ukuba ekhaya nawe kufuneka ubonise ukunyaniseka. Kodwa nje musa ukuyalela kwaye ungayinikeli umsebenzi, kodwa cela uncedo. Thelekisa impendulo ngokwayo kwiibinzana "Yibetha ishefu apha" kunye "Ntanda, ndifuna ukubeka ishedyuli yeencwadi apha. Ucinga ntoni ngale nto? ". Emva kokuba ekuncedeni, mbulele kwaye nimdumise, mxelele ukuba unjani, uyanyamekela njalo njalo. Yaye ukuba umyeni wakho ungumsebenzi onobuchule obunomsebenzi obalulekileyo, oko kufuneka iqhinga lakho eliphambili libe le nto: "Uphela nje, andazi ukuba ungaphila ngaphandle kwakho!".
Kwaye ukuba ufuna ukuhamba naye kwindawo ethile, ngoko kwangaphambili ungavumelana ngemini. Ungabhala phantsi kwidayari yakhe, ngoko uya kukhumbula aze afike ekhaya ngexesha.