Yaye yonke into, njengomthetho, iqala ngengxoxo enokuthula, ngokukhawuleza ibe yintsapho. Kodwa ukuba sisaqhubeka sibuyisela konke okwenzekayo kwiifowuni ezimbalwa, singakwazi ukubona ngokukhuselekileyo imfuneko ebalulekileyo yokucaphukisa. Ngamanye amagama, onke amanqaku angalunganga, ngokubhekiselele kuwo, abafazi banako ukudala iimvakalelo ezimbi kumadoda. Ngoko, emva koko, yintoni enokubangela ukucasuka kumntu? Masizame kunye ukuze siqwalasele imizekelo eqhelekileyo yezenzo zamabhinqa ezithwala into eqhubisayo engqondweni yomntu.
Iingcaphuno ezinobungozi kwintliziyo yesintu kwaye zibangele ukucasula kumadoda.
Akumangalisi, kodwa amabinzana amabhinqa asetyenziswa ngokuqhelekileyo kwaye akayi kuhlawulwa nayiphi na into. Le mabinzana, njengeelwimi, ziyakwazi ukudala imeko engalungileyo kumadoda. Incoko eqhelekileyo, eli binzana linceda ukudibanisa intetho yomlomo, kodwa ngokwenene bafihla ukucaphuka okukhulu kumntu othandekayo. Okokuqala, oku kubangelwa kukuba i-psyche yindoda iyahluke kakhulu kumfazi, kwaye amadoda ayaqonda yonke into esondele ngakumbi kunathi. Ukongezelela, isondo esinamandla asizange siphonse amagama akhe emoyeni kwaye ayithandi xa abanye besenza. Ewe, ekugqibeleni masikufumanise ukuba zeziphi izivakalisi-ezivakalayo.
"Ngaba ndakubuza? " Le binzana yenye yezona zixhaphakileyo kwaye ziwayo phakathi kwesigama sabasetyhini. Ifuna ukwazi kunye nesimo sengqondo. Abasetyhini bawasebenzisa xa umnqweno wabo uphambene ngokupheleleyo nezenzo zamadoda. Ngalesi binzana, unengcinezelo enkulu yengqondo kumntu othandekayo, okwenza ukuba azive ehlaseleyo aze ahlazeke.
"Luhlobo luni lobuqhetseba othetha ngalo?" " Eli binzana lisetyenziswe ngabasetyhini xa bengathandi oko kuthethwa yi-betrothe. Bathi, njengommiselo, ngokukhululekile kunye nokungenakucala. Kwindoda injalo ibinzana ibangela ukuvakala kwebhola ebusweni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kwinqanaba elincinci lenza ukuba ungathandabuzeki ubuchule bengqondo bokuba uthembekileyo, kwaye kwelinye, "engcambu" uyaphula iingcamango zakhe eziqilileyo. Ngendlela, zonke iifaneli zeli binzana zenza ngesondo esinamandla ngendlela efanayo.
"Uhlala uyenza! " Ngale binzana, abafazi, njengomthetho, bachaza into eyenzekayo. Ininzi idla ngokuchazwa ngokupheleleyo kwilizwi kunye neyokufunwa ngcikivo. Indoda le binzana ibangela intukuthelo, kuba ngoncedo lwakhe, intanda ethandekayo ifuna ukuvelisa zonke izenzo zakhe nemigudu. Ngendlela, ezo zigaba aziwaniki amathuba kuwo onke amaqabane angqinileyo ngokulungiswa nokulungiswa. Kwaye ukubonakalisa emva koko into ethile indoda engenayo isifiso.
"Ngaba unokwenza oku?" "Kusetyenziswa kwezo meko xa umntu ejongene nomsebenzi ongenakwenzeka, kwaye umfazi ungathandabuzeki ukuba uya kuyisombulula. Kwintanda ethandekayo le binzana ibangela ukucaphukisa, okokuqala, ngenxa yokuba ibuza into yokuba zonke izinto zayo nezakhono. Ngaphezu koko, yonke into ibonisa ukungahloneli. Ngako oko, indoda iyavutha njengomdlalo, kwaye ifuna ukubonakalisa okuchaseneyo ngamazwi kwimo ifo. Ngendlela, nje ngenxa yeentlungu umntu akakwazi ukuyifumene naye, kwaye oku kuya kubandakanya ukutshatyalaliswa okusha.
Izenzo zowesifazane onokukwazi ukubangela intlungu yindoda.
Ezi zenzo ziquka zonke ezo zenzo ezenza ukuba isondo esiphezulu sisabele. Ngokuqhelekileyo, ezi ntshukumo zowesifazane zenza iinjongo ezintle kunye nezichukumisayo, kodwa, nangona kunjalo, abantu bayazibona ngenyameko.
Ndiya kugqiba yonke into . Ngoko ke abafazi bafika kwimeko xa kukho imfuneko yokusombulula ingxaki. Oku kubangela ukuba abantu banomsindo. "Kutheni besithi, kwakungeke kwenzeke ukuba ndibuze ngale nto! ", - uphendukela entloko yomthandayo. Ukholelwa ukuba umfazi uhamba naye kumntu ongenako ukumnceda. Konke oku kukukhokelela "ukuxubusha" okungathandekiyo kunye nehlazo.
Kuyo yoluntu uluntu. Amantombazana amaninzi akhululekile ukucinga ukuba ukuba angayigcina ingxoxo nayiphi na isihloko kwinkampani yamadoda, oku kwenza ukuba baninzi kunye. Amadoda athambekele ekuboneni oku njengecala elibi. Kubonakala kuye ukuba le ntokazi inqwenela "ukususa", kwaye, ngokwenza njalo, ingaba yinto enzima kakhulu. Ukongeza, amadoda akasoze axubusha kunye nabafazi babo ngezihloko malunga nezimonyo kunye ne-PMS, ngoko, akufaneleki ukuba "ingxoxo yomntu".
Imfihlo kubo bonke abahlobo. Abasetyhini bahlala kwiimvakalelo, ezinzima kakhulu ukuba zihlale ngokwazo. Yingakho bahlala bexoxa njalo kunye nabahlobo babo, kubandakanywa nokuziphatha komhlobo wabo. Kwindoda, oku, ngokubhekiselele, kubonwa njengehlazo. Akayithandi into abantu bathi ngayo ngaye, uhlekisayo kwaye uxoxe ngokuthi uthanda ntoni embhedeni. Ngoko ke, nayiphi na ingcaciso malunga nendoda efika kwiintombi zakhe, ibonwa ngabo njengokungcatshiswa.
Iseluleko phambi komntu wonke. Amaninzi amaninzi, ngokupheleleyo ngaphandle kwengcamango yangasemva, anganika iingcebiso kwiqabane lawo phambi kobanye, kunye nokuba ngabahlobo abangaphantsi. Indoda ngeli xesha livakalelwa njengempahla ehlekayo. Emva koko, indoda yangempela isoloko iyayazi into eyenzayo. Yaye isiluleko esinjalo kuye asikho nje ukugxeka oku kunokubangela ukucaphuka okukhulu.
Izizathu ezincinci zincinci.
1. Xa uhlala umlandela kwizithende kwaye ungamthembi yena wedwa uze wenze ukuthengwa kweentsapho eziqhelekileyo.
2. Hlela indawo yokuhlala ehlukeneyo.
3. Qhubekani uye ekhaya kwikhepheli entloko.
4. Ixesha elide liza kuhamba kunye nalo.
5. Ungayithobeli ngokupheleleyo icebiso lakhe.
6. Hlala kwifowuni iintsuku, uthetha neentombi zakho.
Ekugqibeleni, ndifuna ukuthetha ukuba ukuze ndiqonde umntu othandayo, kubalulekile ukujonga izenzo zakhe ngamehlo akhe. Kuphela ke uya kufunda ukuba ungabangela ukuba umntu azive ecasulwe kwaye aphephe ukungquzulana kwentsapho.